Tree of Life Marriage
I didn't think that "The sound Miyahara Kane married the crippled Nick Huzhe, what would the "leftover men and leftover women" think? After pushing, it will poke the honeycomb.
I received a whole bunch of messages, almost all questioning this contrast.
"Even if you come from God, God will make two people willing." No one can represent God, but it is said that which sister should marry which brother. ”
"Birth and body are given by God, but what kind of life to live is something you can decide, who can be as active and diligent as him, do not set limits for their own lives, and play a bad hand into a king fried, on the contrary, our leftover man, that is not greasy?" 」
"Even if the three lows are still macho, they still don't respect women, they are dirty, and they don't have such a strong spirit." Immature, still motherly, still giant baby, can this priest marry? ”
Looking at these messages, I really don't know how to reply, it is true that in front of the sisters of the "three highs", the brothers of the "three lows" are really a little too unbearable...
01
Broken sisterhood
Why the brothers are so unbearable in the eyes of the sisters, in fact, the reason does not need to be explained too much, everyone should understand that the purpose of women being created is to help men.
Since they are helpers, they must be better than those who are helped, and when men and women are forced to compete together under the same standards, most men are not competitive with women.
Especially in the work of brain fighting, men are not the opponents of women at all, which is the fundamental reason for the increasing number of "three high" women in first-tier cities.
When talking about the brotherhood issue, we use the more irritating word "giant baby", which means the selfishness in the bones of men.
Of course, this does not mean that sisters are not selfish, but that the selfishness of brothers tends to be more infants in appearance; for the reason why babies do not grow up is because there is a mother who is strongly devoid of love and grace!
Because when a man leaves his position and is unwilling to pay the responsibility of his creation, that is, to repair the mission and destiny of the guard, the whole relationship will crack until it collapses.
This is a great vicious circle, the essential reason why human tragedies are becoming more and more intense under the pollution and bondage of original sin.
But the tragedy is that many brothers did not react to this, "My world is originally calm and calm, why do you want to come to the clouds and rain." ”
I think it's good! It's just that you haven't found the "right" person, what are you worrying about? Moreover, I also think that you are not a drop, and I don't want you to help me to the wall!
That's how I see myself, and I'm not the mud in your eyes; why do you see me as a mud, so what should we do?
This attitude is what makes the sisters feel greasy, and this irresponsible, non-confessional, unrepentant attitude breaks the hearts of the sisters.
And what makes the sisters collapse the most is that they have obviously fallen into the ditch or they still have to punch their swollen faces to fill their faces, and they want to suffer face to death.
Many sisters who left messages expressed that they were not unwilling to "marry", and if there were brothers who really had the life of Nick Huzhe, even if they were three low or even disabled, they would consider it.
But the tragedy is that there is only one Nick Huzhe, where in the daily life there will be so many people with disabilities who will play a bad hand into a king?
02
The weakness of the brethren
If you want to help the sister who is dizzy to restore calm, the key question is to straighten out the order of men and women, and dig deep into the reasons behind it.
I think there should be no other shortcut to this conundrum, and we will only have an answer if we start from the foundation of our faith and return to the source of all questions.
Said the Lord
It was all made by my hands
So there's it
But what I look after
It is humility (sic, poverty) repentance
Those who tremble at My Word
(Isaiah 66:2)
God cares for the poor, which means that when people find themselves cornered and embattled, they will seek God.
And men's lives, because they are polluted by sin, will have great doubts about their own value and identity, so they will desperately struggle in this world, thinking that they can be satisfied and comforted in these leaky pools.
Unfortunately, this is always an impossible lie, and this is satan's cunning, which helps men "succeed" in giving them everything in this world.
So it is difficult for the so-called "successful" men in this world to humbly bow down and come to God to confess that they are sinners.
The things they rush and panic about are to solve their deep inner anxieties, to get the recognition and praise of the world, to get the so-called authority and status, to get beautiful women and tickets.
As a result, there will be some people who are full of ideas, although they have everything in this world, but they still cannot get true satisfaction in their hearts, they will seek the truth, but the so-called search is not really humiliating themselves.
Therefore, many "successful people" will choose Buddhism, Taoism, and even Bahá'í, Mormon and other religions, and of course, some people will choose Christianity.
Only a very small number of people choose to give up their self-centeredness to choose life; those who are willing to give up on themselves basically have an experience of encountering God and encountering the shattering of life.
For those who choose religion are nothing but self-righteous, thinking of both material and spiritual harvests; and those who choose life are those who begin to realize that they are patients and need doctors, and they are people who begin to think about the nature and meaning of life.
These people who think about the nature and meaning of life are the people who are broken into slag by the nature of life, who want to break through themselves, who are willing to come down from their altars, to see what the truth is, to see what they really are!
God says that He chooses those who are humble in his choosing those who admit that his life is poor, and those who seem willing to choose life are those who are truly broken to the point of doubting themselves.
When these men who have doubts about themselves come to the church, can you imagine how vulnerable and hurt they are, how sensitive and helpless they are.
In this case, we only have to think about the patients in the hospital, and this is why the brothers in the church seem to be not good.
03
The collapse of the sisters
And the advantage of the sisters' creation, which allows them to meet God more intuitively in the spirit, may be a momentary touch, and they come to the church.
It is conceivable that these sisters came to the church and saw what kind of external scorching and tenderness these brothers who were broken into slag would be thundered.
Therefore, many sisters are desperate for marriage in Christ, and such a scumbag brother still wants to marry a sister like us, and does not look for a mirror to see what he is...
The damn thing is that the Bible makes it very clear that faith and unbelief cannot be yoke together, that they cannot marry those who do not believe in The Lord, and that they themselves know that there is indeed no good fruit to eat for those who do not believe in the Lord, but how can these brothers marry?
If you can't find the right person in the church, and you can't find it outside the church, the only way is to sacrifice yourself to feed the tiger.
If you preach the gospel to the man you want and help him establish a relationship with God, won't you have the best of both worlds, fulfill God's great commission, and find your other half?
Unfortunately, the wrong motives must lead to tragic endings, and we have seen many such marital tragedies with our own eyes.
When she was in love, because of hormones, the boyfriend who could go to the moon for nine days would accompany her to church every week.
Because going to church and pretending to believe in the Lord is much simpler and easier than catching turtles in the last nine days and catching turtles in the five oceans, as long as you say a few more spiritual words, it is easy to turn the sisters around.
As a result, it is the curse of hormones, and many sisters who think they are standing firmly, in front of their boyfriends who love her like this, easily hand themselves over.
When the big mistake is cast to face the marriage, those hormones of the past passion fade; the situation will soon be reversed, and the boyfriend who used to saddle up and leave shows the original form of extreme selfishness.
And these tragic stories and testimonies will become a stumbling stone in the church, leaving more sisters trapped in marital anxiety.
Of course, there are sisters who are unwilling to give up their own standards and do not want to offend God against His will, waiting in a dilemma, participating in every activity, but unable to find the right person.
As a result, in such a tangled entanglement, he spent years and missed a good opportunity, until he could not stand the time to urge people to grow old, only to find that Shaohua had gone.
So I had to quiet down and think about the pain, and raise the tall son in the middle of the short, even if I didn't completely like to be satisfied, as long as the basic conditions were OK, I saw that I was not small, and I quickly cleaned up and married it.
This is the reality that the brothers who have "conditions" are robbed as soon as they are listed, but unfortunately, many brothers who are robbed madly are not really "brothers", but ...
There are so many reasons inside that make people's scalps tingle, but the rules never change, and everyone pays for their standards and choices.
04
If you don't repent, you will perish
To be honest, I can't help but sweat and feel hurt when I write this, according to this rhythm, the sisters really don't have much hope...
Thank you Lord! The end of man is really the beginning of God, and this mystery will not change in the face of any problem, and all problems will suddenly open up only when they return to God!
In fact, the solution God has long been placed in the Bible, even so simple that people do not want to believe, that is, to believe in Him, to let go of their own will, to obey Him!
This kind of obedience is not the kind of bitter "marriage" that many people understand, and it is not the so-called mission and will of God.
Rather, return to His grace, be satisfied in the fountain of His living waters, and become a cup of blessings filled with love, specifically by first having an intimate relationship with God!
This is a reminder that every shepherd who is faithful to God will cry blood and mourn, although there are few and even scorned, but those who are truly filled with God's love and father's heart will desperately preach.
For this is the secret and the key to solving all problems, the only way to truly attain life, the point of living god's beauty on this earth.
Of course, this mystery is too elaborate for most people who are still concerned with themselves; countless brothers and sisters in the midst of circumstances and struggles are simply unwilling to look up to the Lord.
Therefore, the most essential truth has emerged, and the reason why we are unwilling to give up our standards today is that we do not believe that God is a good God, a God who is in control of everything, and a God who gives peace!
The real reason for not giving up our own standards is the uneasiness and fear in us, most people are struggling with what to do if they find the wrong person, but few people will think, God will never be wrong!
This kind of thinking is essentially not man's weakness or man's fear at all, but the sin of not believing in God, and it is this disgust of unbelief that causes man to continue to take his own path on his own.
Therefore, there is only one way to really solve the problem is to confess and repent; that is, to confess our sin of not fearing God, the sin of not believing in God's standards, and the sin of not believing in God's will and authority!
That is, to confess our sin of self-centeredness and living by our own standards, and only when this sin is truly recognized will we receive the Lord's forgiveness!
For such a life, love and marriage will go beyond satisfying one's own low-level needs, because such a life is a life filled with God's love.
In the face of such a life, love and marriage will enter the true blessing, just like the thousands of seedlings and Nick in this world, shining like a bright light!