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"Perfect Relationship" is currently on the air, and a large part of the reason why I can still watch it is because of Stella, played by Chen Shu.
In the early plot, Stella is very sassy, shrewd and capable in the workplace, calm and vigorous when dealing with divorce, which can be said to be the benchmark of modern women, and the emotional intelligence is also very high. But now the plot makes me more and more confused, Stella has a high emotional intelligence, how to see men's vision is so poor.
A shrewd and capable Stella in the workplace, how come you don't understand the gap between Ye Donglie and you, "love under the year" is very sweet, but love is not reality, you want to cross the gap between rich and poor and the difference in thinking, is it feasible? The 12-year-old age difference is not a joke.
I have to say that Stella has never had a correct view of love, and she does not know what is really suitable for herself, so she will not be in a good mood.
In the latest plot, Ye Donglie graduated and officially admitted stella as his girlfriend in front of everyone, and specially took Stella to dinner with his classmates.
But there was a controversy when eating crayfish, stella said that she did not eat crayfish, and said: "We don't want to use disposable chopsticks, let's use this first." I don't eat crayfish, I live in the mud, and its shrimp head and shell have a lot of heavy metals, which enter our bodies and are particularly harmful to our liver and nervous system. ”
When Stella said this, it was obvious that the atmosphere was a little awkward, Ye Donglie's classmates did not eat it, nor did they eat it, and the crayfish were not as fragrant as before. Ye Donglie's face was obviously a little ugly, he was a person with strong self-esteem, he was very sensitive to everything, and he would unconsciously hang on his face.
Classmates took the opportunity to make fun of Ye Donglie: "Old Ye, don't you particularly like to eat crayfish?" You can eat one pot at a time. ”
After Stella listened, she said, "Then I should take you to a restaurant, where every crayfish should be put in clean water and kept for more than five days, so that the parasites, heavy metals and everything are cleaned and taste good." Well, I'll arrange it, and next time I'll treat you. ”
In fact, Stella is well-intentioned, she said that the treat is also true, but after all, it is not a circle of people, and it is not possible to play together. Of course, Ye Donglie's classmates refused, "I have received your wishes, but we will not eat the meal, in order to eat your meal, do we also have to wear suits and ties?"
The atmosphere of the meal was not particularly good, and everyone felt quite embarrassed.
Some netizens said that Stella is too capable of pretending, isn't the emotional intelligence quite high, and some words have to be said like that. I don't think it's Stella's problem, nor is it Ye Donglie's classmate's problem, but Stella and Ye Donglie's original inappropriateness.
Who is Stella? Driving a million-dollar luxury car, living in a villa in Lujiazui, is a vice president of a company, and she has always been in contact with high-end people. Ye Donglie, a college student who has just come out of society, has a poor family, even if he is a computer genius, he cannot catch up with Stella in a short period of time. The gap between two people is too big, and their living habits and ways of thinking are different.
That's why, Stella follows Ye Donglie and his classmates to a roadside stall, and you feel out of place. They're not a circle of people, and you can't accommodate them. If you think about it, can a strong woman in the workplace eat with a group of students who have not dried up? There are differences in themselves.
Through this incident, it can also be seen that Stella and Ye Donglie will not have any good results. They are 12 years apart, Stella is 36, Ye Donglie has just graduated from college at 24, although it will be sweet to say that older women can find "small fresh meat", but they are not suitable for love and life.
Stella in "Perfect Relationship": There is Cui Yingjun in the front, and Ye Donglie in the back, and your vision of men is really too bad.
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<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > let's talk about Stella and Choi Young-joon</h1>
In fact, when Stella married Cui Yingjun, mainly because she followed the advice of her mother, her mother felt that Cui Yingjun was very good, "honest and caring for women." Stella married Cui Yingjun, and after marriage, Cui Yingjun did take good care of her. Cui Yingjun served her like "Lafayette", and it can be said that she was "subservient".
After work, I helped hand over the slippers, and I spoke softly, which was exactly the state of a Japanese "housewife". Can Cui Yingjun be so self-respecting and low-voiced, is he willing? Obviously not, he wasn't really Estella that way, but because of the benefits she could give him.
With Stella, he Cui Handsome can live in Lujiazui, even if he does not have much ability, he still has business at work, which is called relying on a big tree to cool off. Their family's house is Stella's, and the two luxury cars were also bought by Stella, so it can be said that everything That Cui Yingjun owns is given to him by Stella.
It is definitely not a good sign that men let women raise them; it is definitely not a good thing for men to have no self-esteem in front of women and to bow down to them.
Cui Yingjun later raised a little three behind Stella's back, and the woman was very gentle with Cui Yingjun, and Cui Yingjun found the confidence of a man through his interaction with her. "Go home as a grandson, go out as a laozi", Cui Yingjun balances himself in this way.
When Stella learns about Cui's young-joon's cheating, it is a great shame for her, and she actually raised a "white-eyed wolf". Stella was angry, but calmly began to collect evidence, as well as confronting Xiao San, etc., which showed her high emotional intelligence.
Stella resolutely divorced, she can't stand a man like Cui Yingjun who "eats inside and outside", but Stella does not realize why her marriage failed, and she did not consider the reason for failure.
Of course, Cui Yingjun's cheating is wrong, and Stella should also reflect on herself, is that kind of marriage what she wants? Is it difficult for Cui Yingjun to be respectful to you all his life, do you think it is possible?
We should never find an obedient man in marriage, but two husband and wife should be equal and respect each other. There is an essential difference between "a man spoils a woman" and "a man and a woman are slaves". And Cui Yingjun's relationship with Stella in their marriage is a "slave".
In a really good marriage, two people are evenly matched, they understand and help each other in life, and they do not interfere with each other in their work. Don't bring work matters to the home, and life's affairs about the family can be divided accordingly. Neither of them needs to blindly pander to each other, but equal love.
Of course, Cui Yingjun is a rogue, and after the mask is removed, he speaks harshly to Stella.
So if you have a handsome man by your side, they'll put the score on you. Even if it depends on you to raise it, once the interest relationship between you is gone, he will become a fierce "hungry wolf", and you will be in trouble when you relate to him.
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< h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > say Stella and Ye Donglie</h1>
Stella and Ye Donglie's acquaintance was purely an accidental event, if Wei Zhe had not asked Stella to help Ye Donglie's father transfer to the ward, it would not have been possible for the two of them to have an emotional drama.
Ye Donglie, this person, is a college student, very talented on the computer, but this person has no brains, has violent tendencies, and is very uncool in the face of things, that is, a stunned young man. His father was still lying in a hospital bed, but his side began to pursue Stella.
Stella came to pity him, gave him a lot of help, helped him find a job, helped him find a place to live, etc., Stella was kind to him. Ye Donglie also resisted from the beginning, and slowly began to appreciate Stella and thank Stella. How good it is to have such a strong woman, Ye Donglie, the "little milk dog", does not have to work too hard.
When Stella was not yet divorced, Ye Donglie caused her some trouble. She and Cui Yingjun divorce lawsuit has not yet been completed, you go up to what to make, if there is no Ye Donglie mixed, Stella will not lose so much, she originally wanted Cui Yingjun to clean up.
Although Ye Donglie also helped Stella later, I think this can't hide the fact that he likes to be impulsive and use violence.
Ye Donglie is very good at talking about love, if others ask me, "I said you are my wife", this sentence is very easy to say, if you really live in ten years and eight years, will you still say so? For some future things, don't be too sure, how much trust a man's mouth can have.
Stella may not have really been in love, so she was so easily conquered by Ye Donglie. She also really talked to him about love, two people in love to enjoy a simple love can be, but it is definitely not suitable to go to the end.
I don't know if you have found that Ye Donglie's style of behavior is still a child, and a woman in love teaches a man to grow up, which is a very strange thing in itself.
It is very tiring for a person to drag another to grow, especially "men drag women to grow" and "women drag men to grow", which are essentially different.
I did not look forward to this pair of "year-old love" from the beginning, many people think they are very sweet, trouble can not be realistic, two people to talk, but does not mean that you are suitable for love.
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Who is best for Stella? It is her good friend, Lawyer He, and Lawyer He has always had a crush on her and will not flatter her, the two of them are evenly matched, a relatively equal relationship. Only such a love can go further.
Why do I say that "men drag women to grow up" is essentially different from "women drag men to grow up"?
Because "men drag women to grow up", some women will get married and have children because they can't withstand the pressure of the workplace, and then the workplace is not so important to her. So a man finds a young wife, and the family will still be harmonious.
And "women drag men to grow up", women are in a strong position in the workplace, once your man is unable to support Adou, you will be very tired. Because in addition to the pressure of childbearing, you also have to bear the pressure of life and work. Women can not work for a while, but if men do not have a job, try.
Why do we emphasize men's sense of responsibility? Because according to the distribution of fertility, women are responsible for giving birth, and because of the birth of the baby, there may be no job, and the man is of course responsible. Women bear the pressure of childbearing, and men bear the pressure of life.
But if the pressure of childbearing and life is borne by the woman alone, then what is the use of asking a man?
A man has to earn money, because earning money can show his value, otherwise there is no place for it. This also makes everyone pay more attention to whether a man has a career.
Stella should improve her view of love, find a man who is equal to herself, and stop being a man's mother, you are too tired to grow up with a person. Ye Donglie was only suitable for finding a girl who was about the same age or as young as himself, only in this way could he last longer.
Some love can not be forced, some circles can not be forced, reality is reality, inappropriate early will be broken.
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★ Author: YIBAO; emotional original author, writing about the cold and warm of the world, looking at the world.