It's a story full of regrets and sadness.
She was born into a patrilineal family,
Wronged.
Married early at the age of 15,
Experience a purgatory marriage. ......
However, it is also a story of courage and struggle.
She did not become the second "abandoned pine nut".
But always tenaciously alive.
I saw a documentary called "Above The Oil and Salt of Chai Rice".
The female protagonist is Zhang Lin, born in 1996.
When she was 15 years old, a matchmaker walked into her house and said that she had found a mother-in-law for Zhang Lin.
The bride price is 6,000 yuan.
Zhang Lin's father did not refuse.
"Girls, let it go."
This year, Zhang Lin became a wife.
After getting married, life is tough.
Zhang Lin recalled: I got up at 5 o'clock to go to work, and I did all the farm work at home. Only boiled water can be eaten.
Zhang Lin is the eldest child of poor parents, and he can endure some tribulations.
What she couldn't stand was physical aggression.
Once, my husband had a drink with his father-in-law.
When her husband was drunk, he was severely beaten by her.
This is the first time I have experienced domestic violence.
Zhang Lin chose to call the police.
However, the results were not satisfactory.
Zhang Lin fled back to her mother's house and asked her brother for help.
But the result made Zhang Lin even more chilled - her brother personally sent her back to her husband.
Domestic violence is always like this.
If you don't escape the first time, you will get the second time, the third time, the nth time.
In the worst case, Zhang Lin was seriously injured and was bedridden for half a month.
At this time, Zhang Lin was already a mother.
Shortly after the marriage, she became pregnant and gave birth to a son.
However, due to years of domestic violence, she has been unable to take care of much.
Zhang Lin had only one thought: to escape.
One day, Zhang Lin found the right time and ran away.
She didn't even have an ID card, but took 500 yuan in cash and some clothes and stepped on the train to Hangzhou.
When she arrived at the station, she looked for a job for four consecutive days.
However, there is nothing.
The few laps left in my hand were also spent.
That day, she was very hungry, weakly walked into a noodle restaurant and asked: Boss, can you give me a bowl of noodles to eat?
The owner kindly agreed.
Surprisingly, this noodle shop is understaffed and is hiring.
Zhang Lin just worked here and gained a firm foothold.
Half a year later, Zhang Lin sneaked back to his hometown and got his ID card.
Then flee quickly.
This escape, Zhang Lin breathed a sigh of relief.
Because she finally regained her freedom and began a life of choice.
"He's so handsome driving a big truck. I was a fanatic at the time. Do you know? ”
At Zhang Lin's initiative, the two quickly decided to have a relationship.
At that time, Zhang Lin carefully asked: I gave birth to a child, do you mind?
Chen Xun used a popular love quote: "I don't care about your past, but I care about your future."
They were madly in love.
After only three months of acquaintance, I decided to flash marriage.
In January 2019, they had a special wedding.
Chen Xun called his card friends and organized a "truck wedding team".
Hao Hao married Zhang Lin back home.
Maybe everyone will be curious, isn't Zhang Lin married and have children? How to remarry without divorce?
The documentary does not give an explanation.
However, according to my time calculations, Zhang Lin was only 15 years old when she first "got married", and she had not yet reached the legal age of marriage. At the time, it was supposed to be just a banquet, no license.
So in a legal sense, she has always been single.
After the wedding, Zhang Lin couldn't sit still.
She wanted to master a livelihood skill.
Since Chen Xun is a truck driver with a high income, she changes her mind or tries to drive a truck.
Chen Xun disagreed.
"You're a girl. How inappropriate is it to be a truck driver? ”
However, Zhang Lin has a stubborn personality.
"I don't want to bring you a doll home when you play in the future!"
Zhang Lin did not want to be a housewife.
She knew that the more girls from the bottom, the more they could only rely on themselves.
A driving test is a tricky thing to do.
Even if you take the C1 exam, many people won't pass it once.
But Zhang Lin was a cruel man.
After several months of practice, I successfully got the driving license of the big car, and all four subjects were passed at once.
However, for Zhang Lin, it is easy to take a driver's license and difficult to find a job.
Because Zhang Lin is a girl.
Twenty-three years old, fine skin and tender flesh, very cute.
Coupled with the fact that she is only 158 in height, it is incredible that such a small girl can drive a truck and run long distances.
She interviewed three trucking companies and was rejected.
Even a car captain said:
If girls drive big trucks, the technology is definitely not good. I'm afraid you didn't buy a driver's license.
Unexpectedly, the captain of the bus called that night: Can I go to Wenzhou tonight? The original master had some physical problems and was temporarily canceled.
A golden opportunity.
Zhang Lin hurriedly promised: If you can, I will go now.
This was the first time Zhang Lin had run a long distance alone.
She didn't get scared, so a man, a truck, stepped on the accelerator and hit the road.
The task was successfully completed.
Zhang Lin officially began his career as a truck driver.
After the truck driver did it, he knew their hardships.
Long-distance transportation back and forth, eating and drinking Yego are all in the service area.
Zhang Lin said that there is often no hot water for bathing in the service area, and if you wash too much cold water, you will get sick.
Just rub your dirty clothes twice with your hands.
Then open the hood of the car and hang it to dry.
Long-distance running is mostly at night.
Zhang Lin said that people are particularly sleepy at two or three o'clock in the morning.
In this regard, both husband and wife have their own treatment methods.
Chen Xun slapped himself.
If you're sleepy, hold out your right hand and come to your face a few times.
Zhang Lin eats chili peppers.
"I went to buy a packet of chili noodles and ate it with chili peppers."
Travel at night and rest during the day.
When the truck stops, cover the windshield with a dark cloth and the cab becomes a "bedroom."
Zhang Lin said: The truck has been driving for a long time, and I don't know what it feels like to sleep in bed.
Ran for almost a full month. Unload, load, start, and so on.
But in addition to being tired, Zhang Lin also had days to look forward to.
It was a reunion with her husband.
Zhang Lin ran from Fujian to Zhejiang, going back and forth every two days.
Chen Xun ran to Quanzhou- Jingzhou, three days back and forth.
That way, they can get together once a week.
As soon as "Gathering Day" arrived, two trucks stopped.
Under the illumination of the headlights, they embraced each other deeply and had endless love words.
Transportation revenues are considerable.
In a year, they bought the first car in their lives that really belonged to them.
At the 4S store, Zhang Lin was lying on the hood of the car, with a smile on his face:
I can't believe I, Lin Bao, can drive four laps a day.
On that birthday, Chen Xun asked Zhang Lin what his wish was.
Zhang Lin said, work a little harder, work harder, buy a house.
If nothing else, with the efforts of both husband and wife, they will soon reach the goal of buying a house.
Step into stability and prosperity.
But the unexpected came. Their love has encountered challenges from the world.
Zhang Lin has been away from home for many years.
Except for secretly going back to change my ID card once, I never returned home in the middle.
Now, it's time to go back and have a look.
One day in 2020, she bought a plane ticket and went to Dali with her husband.
On the way, Zhang Lin recounted his unhappy childhood.
There is a severe preference for sons and daughters in the family.
Mom said that even if you have a few more children, you must have a son.
Therefore, the brother was spoiled like a treasure.
When it comes to eating, my brother always comes first.
The rest of the Zhang Lin ate.
Mention the past, Zhang Lin shed tears for you.
But after the tears dried up, I continued to honor my parents as if nothing had happened.
In her hometown, Zhang Lin helps her parents buy new clothes.
Gave them a sum of money.
Zhang Lin also had resentment.
She said: "I really can't figure it out. They'll spend a few thousand dollars marrying me. But now for me, after all, they are the people who gave birth to me and raised me, and the past has passed. ”
What Zhang Lin missed most was his son.
She asked her which school she was in, which class she was in, so she waited early at the door of the classroom.
The bell rang at the end of class.
My son came out.
Zhang Lin hugged her and asked, "Gao Yu dao, do you know who I am?"
Gao ignored it, dumbfounded, and turned his head to the side.
Zhang Lin cried loudly.
"Don't you know me?" Don't you really know me? I'm your mom. ”
After a long time, the child slowly spat out a word: "Mom."
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When the bell rang at the end of class, Gao returned to the classroom.
Zhang Lin looked sideways and continued to peek at his son.
The scene she saw afterwards made Zhang Lin cry even more heart-wrenching—her son, who had been indifferent just now, was now constantly wiping his tears with his sleeve.
Perhaps, the grievances of the parents, the children have understood.
In the evening, the child returned to her ex-husband's house.
She went on a tour with a large bag of gifts.
This time, the child did not shy away.
In the chair in front of the door, the two embraced each other tightly. Zhang Lin kept kissing the child's cheek and muttering to himself:
I have a baby in my arms and I feel very comfortable.
That day, Zhang Lin called Chen Xun: Please accompany me to meet the children.
Chen Xun's answer was unexpected:
"I don't look, you don't look, it has nothing to do with you, what do you see?"
Zhang Lin was stunned, and there was no conflict on the phone.
"Okay, I hung up."
However, when the two people met, there was still a contradiction in this matter.
Zhang Lin said: "It's normal for me to buy him something, but that's exactly what I should do as a mother."
Chen Xun asked, "Did I agree?"
Zhang Lin said: "I only spent 200 yuan, did I get your permission?"? You are not such a person. "
Chen Xun didn't care about 200 yuan.
What he cared about was that Zhang Lin had not completely severed his connection with the past.
After three months, they decided to divorce.
Chen Xiang explained his difficulties:
My family is also rural. When I was a child, my family was also very poor and was looked down upon by others.
The previous generation had different ideas and couldn't afford to raise other people's children.
I don't want my family to suffer from gossip.
Chen Xun did not have the courage to become the enemy of love and worldly affairs.
Zhang Lin could not ignore his heavy sense of guilt.
On October 3, 2020, Zhang Lin updated a video on Tik Tok.
"Maybe we didn't do a good job, you were husbands, I was wives, just got married in a hurry." I'm not going to do it either, goodbye, my king. ”
Zhang Lin put a large doll in the co-pilot.
Perhaps, the road is long and long, no one cares, we can only relax, lonely.
The documentary does not explain the whereabouts of the child.
In Zhang Lin's short video account, I vaguely got some information.
Someone asked, who does custody of the child be given?
Zhang Lin said that no one won the award, they grew up together.
Zhang Lin operates long-distance transportation.
Most of the time is spent on trucks. There is no fixed place in life, life and rest are reversed day and night.
Totally not suitable for raising children.
In this way, the son will most likely live with her first husband.
And Zhang Lin's task is to desperately make money.
Because she promised her son, her mother would support you and provide you with education and college.
In July this year, Zhang Lin successfully passed the A2 driver's license test.
This is the highest level of trucking, known as the "universal driver's license".
The most intuitive benefit is that Zhang Lin's monthly salary has increased by two or three thousand yuan.
Zhang Lin, forget it.
You can earn 900 in two days round trip.
Run 15 times a month and earn 13500 yuan.
Save money on weekdays. You can save 10,000 a month and 240,000 in two years.
Only a down payment can be barely paid.
If there is a typhoon and the weather is not good, Zhang Lin will return to his hometown in Yunnan.
Because there was one person she couldn't let go of—her son.
As a result of participating in this documentary, Zhang Lin is well-known in the "truck driver" industry.
Many men find her short video account, chat privately, and add WeChat.
However, Zhang Lin completely declined.
After wandering the rivers and lakes for many years, Zhang Lin certainly knew the intentions of these people.
She explained: Now she has no intention of making friends, she just wants to pursue a career.
It is said that the woman gave birth twice.
The first time is reincarnation, the second time is marriage.
Zhang Lin knew that he had bad luck, was born twice, and fell into a passive situation.
She didn't want to rely on anyone.
The steering wheel of fate must be held by itself.
Zhang Lin said that Chen Xun initially opposed her running transportation.
Because of their prejudice against women, I said that no matter how hard I worked and tired, I would stick with it.
Now divorced.
She remains stubborn:
I want the people I like to live happily with their own hands.
I want to buy my own car and buy a house!
In fact, Zhang Lin suffered two crises in his life.
The second time, Chen Xun advised her not to drive a truck and to be a "duty" wife.
The former is aggression and the latter is temptation.
Whenever there is a compromise, Zhang Lin will fall into a very passive situation.
Either cling to one man, or another man continues to cling.
However, Zhang Lin did not.
A pure and simple belief made her proud like a beacon after crossing the ice and snow of the earth—a woman on her own.
It's like the last photo of a documentary.
Under the stars, dozens of tons of trucks are driving on the highway.
Zhang Lin is calm and calm, holding the steering wheel and his own life.