Looks are sometimes even more important than life for a woman, although the heart is beautiful, but any man who sees a "disfigured face", the first reaction will definitely be to retreat.
If you are disfigured at the age of 8, what kind of life experience should you have?
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8 years old for many girls, is a naïve and childlike age, this age should have the love of "seven aunts and eight aunts", but also with the care of father and mother. However, 32 years ago, when Meng Xin was 8 years old, she encountered a merciless fire, when her aunt had just returned from the United States, and because she had no place to go, she temporarily stayed in Meng Xin's home.
During the period, the aunt made a boyfriend, at first the two got along very well, and also came to Meng Xin's home, met Meng Xin's father and mother, but then Meng Xin's aunt broke up with her for various reasons. But he did not let go of it, and after repeated requests for peace were rejected, his aunt's boyfriend became resentful and set fire to Meng Xin's aunt in the middle of the night.
However, it was also coincidental that Meng Xin's aunt did not come back because of the company's overtime, and only Meng Xin and her parents were left at home. When the fire burned, Meng Xin was extremely scared, but fortunately, with the protection of his father and mother, Meng Xin was able to survive the crisis. However, it is very unfortunate that Meng Xin's parents were buried in the fire, and although Meng Xin was saved, he was better off alive than dead, because he was sent to the hospital for treatment because of serious burns.
< h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" > two weeks after coma</h1>
When Meng Xin woke up, it was two weeks later, although his life was saved, but the skin on his body was burned very badly, especially his throat, not only did he make an incision, but he also had to rely on the instrument to breathe. In the face of such bad news, the aunt also had no choice but to wait closely by Meng Xin's bedside and use the rest of her life to complete the redemption.
Meng Xin only knew that she was injured, but she didn't know what the reason was, and she didn't understand why her father and mother didn't come to see her. A few months later, when Meng Xin's condition gradually stabilized, her aunt told her the truth. It turned out that his parents had died in the fire a few months ago, and the sudden news suddenly made Xiao Mengxin think of something, but it was very vague, but there was a fire in his memory, and then his father and mother rushed to protect it. I never saw My Dad and Mom again.
After learning the facts, Meng Xin cried, but the weak self did not have enough ability to solve these problems.
When Meng Xin could get out of bed and walk, she couldn't wait to look for herself in the mirror, "Who is this person?" Is it me? I don't seem ugly, do I? Why is that"? Although there was a series of question marks, Meng Xin did not have any special reaction, because he did not know what was going on.
In the time after that, Meng Xin was admitted to the isolation ward for half a year and once suspended from school. After being discharged from the hospital, she lived with her grandmother, and her aunt was desperately trying to make money outside because of guilt. And Meng Xin's daily life, in addition to staying at home, is to go to the hospital for follow-up, and does not dare to go out at all.
< h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" > 40 surgeries in 3 years</h1>
In three years, Meng Xin underwent 40 surgeries, large and small, because of her young age and the relatively severe burns, Meng Xin did not feel pain, but felt tired. Fortunately, the recovery in the later period is relatively good.
After returning to school, many students were intimidated by her appearance, but for herself and for the grandmother at home, the sensible Meng Xin endured all the criticism and vicious eyes, and used her own practical actions to find her own way.
"Is it really impossible to accept yourself? You have to know that no matter how many surgeries you do, you can't restore your original appearance."
After 40 surgeries, Meng Xin did not plan to continue to do it, because it was meaningless, after all, "beautiful" had been far away from herself. And this sentence is also the doctor's original advice to her, so until the last resort, Meng Xin will never go to the operation. Because that would be a waste of time.
< h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" > a long-distance redemption after graduation</h1>
After spending countless spring, summer, autumn and winter, Meng Xin finally successfully graduated, but another ordeal also came. When Meng Xin stepped into the workplace and interviewed, she encountered countless questions. "When someone interviews, employers are asking questions by resume, but they are asking me about my injuries, like in the form of interviews. I was even asked if I was in debt and was set on fire. ”
At first, Meng Xin thought that this interview method was only occasional, but later she found out that the interview that belonged to her was like this, and she should not deliberately avoid it.
Meng Xin, who suffered from the blow of the workplace, decided to give up the environment here and go to a different place to pursue his own piece of the sky, where he did not know himself, and did not laugh at himself so much. "I hope to make things down, and I also think about how my path should go."
< h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > accepting itself to help passers-by</h1>
The unfamiliar environment gave Meng Xin more time to think, looking at the crowd back and forth, Meng Xin suddenly realized, why should I care about other people's eyes, is other people's views really important to herself? So Meng Xin began to reorganize the direction of life and found that there were other possibilities in life.
Finding his own open-mindedness, Meng Xin accepted himself and forgave those who laughed at him. Returning to familiar places again, she became involved in community service, joined patient organizations, and pursued bachelor's and master's programs, choosing jobs that interested her. While helping others, it is also completing one's own salvation.
Today, 32 years later: Even though she is physically injured, she confesses that she has not blamed others and cannot determine right or wrong. As for love, she just wants to go with the flow, because in addition to accepting her, her partner also has to endure difficulties with her. The scars on my body are already a part of my life. Don't mind too much, because that has to be there.
In fact, the best way to face ridicule and criticism is to face it calmly, because only by not caring about the eyes of others will you live more really and happier. So why should we live for others? After all, everyone has their own life, and each of us is just a passer-by in the lives of others.