A video has circulated online before.
In the video, a woman in the office emotionally throws water on the middle-aged man and beats the man with a mop. One side also angrily rebuked: "Dare to send me harassing messages, the first time and the second time endured you, are you a vegetarian when I am?" ”
The man only dared to hide in the corner and apologize: "I was wrong, I didn't think so much, it was a joke, can you spare me." ”
I really admire such a girl!!!
Because many people may react after being harassed, "Ah, just touch it, maybe it's not careful?" Or just think, "If you don't make a big thing small, don't make a noise when it's a small thing"...
And according to the United Nations, 35% of women worldwide have experienced physical/sexual violence! This situation is only going to get worse among Asian women, but our identification and response to sexual harassment is still very blank.
This made the salty pig's hand pervasive...
Pervasive
Some time ago, the associate professor of Wuhan University who harassed female students was dismissed and went on Weibo hot search, verbally and explicitly teasing female students, even in the case of the other party indicating that they already have a boyfriend, they are still not without restraint, and there is no image that a professor should have.
The use of this teacher-student relationship to sexually harass students is very common on campus, and coupled with the unequal status of students and teachers, students are even more unable to seek help when they become victims.
The expulsion of this associate professor of Wuhan University makes us very happy, but in fact, even if some high-powered professors were sent to the hot search by public opinion, they were finally suppressed by various invisible forces, such as the former "Nortel Hou Liangping" where to go in the end, we do not know...
The occurrence of sexual harassment in the workplace is similar to sexual harassment in schools, mostly from superior to subordinate.
Due to the unequal status and power, the victim often holds the attitude afterwards: "Fortunately, he only verbally stirred up a little, and did not suffer any losses, or it is important to keep his job." Those superiors took advantage of their positions and intensified their efforts.
On the contrary, the victim has a lot of trouble, on the one hand, if he refuses or exposes the superior, it will affect his career development.
But if you don't refuse to endure in silence, you will have a great dislike for this environment, and even have a very negative evaluation and idea of yourself, which is similar to being PUA.
In love, PUA is to first coax the object into hand through various means, and after establishing the relationship, it begins to gradually control its mind, and even emotional abuse and destruction, and this step is in the name of love.
Workplace sexual harassment may not have to have a very high emotional intelligence as in love science, a powerful title is enough to achieve a multiplier effect, then with some verbal inducements, intimidation, etc., a "perfect" workplace sexual harassment + PUA can destroy a person.
Then there is the "tram idiot" that we all know, that is, the extremely frequent sexual harassment in public places. Idiots usually have some non-verbal ways such as trailing, sexually suggestive gestures, which will cause the victim to have a strong sense of fear, and this feeling makes the idiots greatly stimulated, generating a very excited feeling to achieve their goals.
Some time ago, Xiaobian's friend was actually attacked by a man in the door of the women's toilet in the mall, and when confronting him, the man also said wildly: "What's wrong with touching it?" "This is already a very excessive form of physical sexual harassment, fortunately there are cameras in the mall, friends retain evidence and timely police, and finally the man was administratively detained for 10 days."
If the next time you encounter such a direct action, it is recommended to directly call the police and detain it!
And the most secretive and easily overlooked is actually the sexual harassment that occurs in the family...
Family sexual harassment often occurs in people with certain kinship relationships, which may be between siblings, or it may be between stepfathers and stepdaughters.
But these situations are often seen as "excessively intimate" and may not even be noticed.
Even if the victim sends a distress signal to the parents, the parents may choose to ignore or fail to understand what happened to the child.
So why does sexual harassment occur?
From a natural point of view, the continuation of genes through sexual behavior is the instinct of each of us as a creature, so sexual harassment occurs from the sexual impulse.
Compared with women, men generally appear more impulsive, more active, and more explosive.
There are even sometimes violent tendencies, which are reflected in the fact that it is easy to make a temporary brain fever, so men have become the "main force" of sexual harassment incidents.
Coupled with the objective existence of unequal social status, such as frequent workplaces, college sexual harassment have power, social status inequality: superiors to subordinates, teachers to students, and men to women's gender stereotypes.
Perpetrators often decide that even doing so would have no very bad consequences, greatly increasing the likelihood of sexual harassment by persons of high social status.
And the fact is also that because the victim is in a disadvantageous position and does not know how to protect his own interests, he often does not dare to speak out or has no actual evidence, and finally sloppy. Even if you choose to speak up, you may be stifled by authority and ruin your studies and career.
Finally, due to shame, many victims will be afraid of being hurt by unfriendly secondary harm from those around them, so they will have a strong sense of shame about sexual harassment and choose to avoid talking about it again.
Often, it is the tolerance and inaction of the perpetrators that lead to more and more such acts, and the emboldening of the perpetrators.
Sometimes the spit of the people around you can really drown a person.
Sexual harassment refers to the behavior of targeting the object of harassment with sexual suggestions and forcing the victim to cooperate and making the other party feel displeased.
If you really encounter sexual harassment, be sure to "grab the salty pig's hand" and don't let him run away, it is very necessary to keep the scene during this period.
In addition, under the premise of ensuring your own safety, take out your mobile phone or some equipment to record criminal evidence, and then you can better solve the problem through legal channels.
What we can do
According to the data, the number of sexual harassment in the workplace that cannot be convicted due to insufficient evidence is as high as 75%, and many victims neither refuse on the spot, nor report in time afterwards, choosing to be silent or silently leaving, which undoubtedly increases the difficulty of subsequent evidence collection and conviction.
On the one hand, we want the perpetrators to be brought to justice, but the psychological harm suffered in them is not something that the law can help to dissolve.
So for this traumatic event, we need psychological comfort and counseling. If you have enough trust in your friends, you can talk like them, and if you feel that you will have some concerns, you can seek the help of a professional counselor.
They will provide a safe and relaxing environment for you to slowly let go of this traumatic experience. Don't feel like it's not worth mentioning, all feelings deserve to be taken seriously!
Actress Alyssa Milano and others launched the "Me Too" campaign in 2017 against the scandal of American gold medal producer Harvey Weinstein sexually assaulting multiple actresses, calling on women from all walks of life who have been abused to stand up and break the silence!
Sexual harassment is a social problem that has existed for a long time and may not be eliminated in the short term, but as the roles of men and women in society change, this problem will surely change slowly, and we look forward to the arrival of change.
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Planning: Liu Mu
Author: Shi Xi
Edit: Sydney
Design: Dona
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