A few days ago, a video called "I Am Not a Goddess" was on the hot search list.
The protagonist of the video is called Wang Shengnan, formerly known as Wang Jingjing.
She began to suffer from school bullying and online violence in 2008, which lasted for a decade.
During this period, Wang Jingjing suffered from depression, dropped out of school, and committed suicide many times, but the malicious attacks on her by the Internet never stopped.
Torturing Wang Jingjing for ten years and changing the trajectory of her life began because of a teacup.
In 2008, Wang Jingjing was admitted to high school with excellent results. Two male classmates smashed the teacup she had placed on the table during a fight. The same table jokingly said: "You are miserable, Wang Jingjing's teacup wants 3 million." ”
Afterwards, one of the boys said that he wanted to compensate Wang Jingjing for 200 yuan, and Wang Jingjing said, "No, that teacup is not worth a few dollars." ”
This is a very normal little thing in campus life. But Wang Jingjing did not expect that her "nightmare" would begin from here.
The "Teacup Incident" post began to circulate on the Internet, and after the post went viral, people who knew Wang Jingjing began to "reveal" that Wang Jingjing's family was not rich, for example, Wang Jingjing wore stalls on the ground and used one or two hundred "old people's machines".
The students whose "sense of justice" exploded fell into the carnival of "exposing" Wang Jingjing.
Wang Jingjing tried to explain, but also lied because of vanity, and everything began to "become darker and darker":
When I was a child, I had my teeth straightened and I was woven into 'Plastic Surgery since Elementary School'. ”
Classmates said that she liked the boy who dropped her cup, and she replied "I don't lack a boyfriend", which was magnified into "boyfriend continuously".
Then, some people spread the post wildly, and even triggered the activity of "thousands of people watching the goddess".
"Goddess", is the rumor-monger to Wang Jingjing, "primary school plastic surgery, boyfriend continuously, show off wealth, a magical woman." ”
That was the time when Tieba and forums arose. And the "Wang Jingjing incident" even once rushed to the popularity of the entire Baidu Tieba ranking list.
Verbal insults seemed to gradually fail to bring pleasure to the "abuser", and some people began to beat Wang Jingjing.
"A student sister I had never met before stopped me in public and slapped me 20 times with a bow left and right."
No one stopped, no one spoke up, and everyone was watching the "hilarity".
There are even boys who cheat her into taking private photos and publish them on the Internet for others to watch.
During this period, Wang Jingjing tried to commit suicide more than once.
But even suicide will be "scolded": "So many times have not succeeded, is it not fake?" ”
Later, because of depression, Wang Jingjing dropped out of school. But the malicious ridicule of her by others has never stopped.
Some people also deliberately said that they wanted to be friends with Wang Jingjing, but they broadcast photos of eating and shopping with Wang Jingjing on the Internet to win clicks.
Wang Jingjing seems to have become the only "fun" of their boring life.
Even when Wang Jingjing went to college, her fellow students from the same school specially ran to the new school's Tieba and copied and pasted Wang Jingjing's slander word for word.
Attacking Wang Jingjing seemed to be a part of these people's lives.
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The writer Zheng Zhi said in the book "Raw Swallowing", "The good of adults is complex good, and the evil of children is pure evil." ”
When it happened, it seemed like everyone was innocent. Those teenagers couldn't even tell themselves why a bullying incident had happened, and it was getting worse.
I know that some netizens have made such an "example" of the causes of campus violence:
Nobita is beaten by Fat Tiger because his family is poor, and Fat Tiger looks down on him. XiaoFu was beaten by the fat tiger because his family had money and looked down on people. Nobita was beaten by Fat Tiger because he saw Fat Tiger. This is unconvinced. Xiao Fu was beaten by the fat tiger, because he did not look at the fat tiger and had no one in sight.
In real-life cases, "an introverted, unsociable stuffy gourd", "a new transfer from another school" or "this person is very popular with the opposite sex" may be the reason for being attacked by the group.
Even, most victims, after being harmed, simply don't know what they "did and missed."
But school violence has truly become a gray and common existence in the world of this group of teenagers.
UNICEF data from last year shows that half of the world's adolescents have experienced violence in schools. About 150 million students between the ages of 13 and 15 said they had experienced peer violence on and off campus.
The development of the Internet has exacerbated this phenomenon - the "Survey Report on Internet Use and Network Security of Chinese Teenagers" shows that "up to 71.11% of teenagers have experienced cyberbullying, and the content is mostly ridicule, abuse, malicious dynamic diagrams, intimidation, etc., and the scenes that appear include social software, online communities, short videos and news comment areas." ”
The list goes on and on.
In 2016, a 17-year-old girl was punched, slapped and kicked by six girls at school, a process that lasted more than two hours. In March this year, the Weibo account @Exposure Jun published a video that attracted the attention of tens of thousands of netizens. In the video, 5 students surround and beat up a student. In addition to kicking with their feet, they even used belts and sticks. A few days ago, a video of "junior high school students being bullied" in Rong County, Guangxi Province, went viral online. In the video, a girl is surrounded by 7 girls in school uniforms, and 7 people keep slapping the girl.
These incidents were watched, but no one stopped them. They just pull out their mobile phones to take videos, hoping that uploading them to the network will make them "fire".
After the incident, the perpetrator easily forgets the incident and forgets that he has destroyed a person's life.
All the scars are left to the victims to bear.
According to the American Journal of Psychiatry, "Even people who are occasionally bullied in childhood experience more problems in their lives." ”
Wang Jingjing said she had a dream: she was chased by her parents to go to school, and as soon as she ran away, she hid along the top floor of a high-rise building, and at the top was a swimming pool, where I saw the whole class throwing contemptuous glances at me.
"There's no way to trust anyone else anymore."
She jokingly told the host that before going on the talk show, she wondered if there were people who hated her and wanted to lie to her again.
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Even more chilling is that the perpetrator never repents.
In 2016, Wang Jingjing talked about her experience in high school on Weibo, and was once again attacked by an alumni group that had maliciously attacked her.
Netizens who spoke for her were also intimidated.
There are even some netizens who do not know the truth, preaching the "victim's guilt theory", what "a slap does not make a sound", "flies do not bite seamless eggs".
Jiang Mou, the owner of the school post bar, in addition to turning out the previous post. A picture of Wang Jingjing being scratched by a cat was also matched with the text of "500 packs of nights, no T".
Wang Jingjing took Jiang to court, and the court found that Jiang constituted defamation and sentenced him to three months' detention.
After the incident, the onlookers found Wang Jingjing through Weibo and apologized for what they had done at that time.
But none of the main characters attacking Wang Jingjing.
Wang Jingjing could have been admitted to a good university and had a better future. But the trajectory of her life has changed because of a cup.
The initiator does not have to pay any price.
"Malice" writes, "I give you all my hatred for myself, and I hate you." Let you go to hell with the name of the world. After you die, I will continue to hate you. ”
Wang Jingjing said, "I don't know who to hate."
Everyone didn't add any wood to the fire, but my house just burned down.
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In the school violence movie "Sorrow Against the River", Yi Yao was confronted by the people who insulted her and asked:
"You will never admit how vicious something you have done. Your days ahead are comfortable and comfortable, without a single psychological burden. When you look back on your life, you feel that you are fine, and you feel that you have not done anything harmful. ”
"My killer must be you."
In school violence, no one can stay out of it, but few people will stand up.
Some people say that when they encounter bullying, they will not seek the help of teachers and parents, one is that they may not care, nor do they know how to manage, the second is that their behavior may be said to be a "complaint", which will lead to greater retaliation, and the sentence "Why bully you", which is enough to make the victim feel helpless.
This is because for a long time, school violence has always been treated as a "joke" and "small friction" between classmates - without a clear definition, it is difficult to have a real mechanism to deal with it.
According to legal daily, in November 2017, the Ministry of Education and eleven other departments jointly issued the "Plan for Strengthening the Comprehensive Management of Bullying of Primary and Secondary School Students", which for the first time clearly defined student bullying and clarified the governance plan.
Further anti-bullying special laws and regulations have also been called for.
In November last year, Guangdong Province included specific "insulting nicknames for others" in bullying and set specific measures for different forms of bullying.
At the same time, Tianjin passed the "Several Regulations on the Prevention and Governance of Campus Bullying in Tianjin", which is the first local regulation in China to regulate the prevention and governance of bullying in schools.
More and more paper orders have drawn a clear bottom line to prevent such incidents from happening.
But you and I both know that what is really difficult to call for is the victim's "courage to stand up and bravely seek protection" and the bystander's "stand up and stand with the victim".
It is the bottomlessness of forbearance and indifference that breeds the bottomlessness of violence.
Only by refusing silence can we truly reject the biggest accomplices of campus violence.
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