Today's summary of 4 random feelings, are the big truth:
1. Too much desire
Because the heart is greedy, so stay up late, because stay up late, so get sick, stay up late there are many reasons, but in the end it is the choice of the heart.
Recently, I have been doing things almost by instinct, and I have had a happy and joyful life every day.
But this kind of happiness is "mixed days", because at the mercy of desire, the most externalized manifestation is always wanting to eat, and there is always something in the mouth that is chewing.
Food color, (intrinsic) nature also. Freud said that all excretion has pleasure, and in the same way, in contrast to excretion, there is pleasure in eating.
When stressed, anxious, and idle, choosing to "eat" this action is also following the instinct, and we must be vigilant against this behavior, which may cause overwork.
I always want to eat, perceive that this is a slight anxiety, knowing that there are a bunch of things I have to do waiting for, just don't do it, but choose those things that are "easy and brainless".
It was a path to depravity, and fortunately after watching "GrowIng Up" and seeing my friends release their desires, I was scared, slammed on the brakes, and couldn't go all the way on the way down.
Turn around and go back to the slightly hard, but rewarding, rewarding, and meaningful path.
Go continue to pick up the pen and think about the output on your own platform; to dress up, tidy up the image, and stay sober; to be self-disciplined, to move when you say
2. Insufficient capacity
See a saying that says, "When the heart is too anxious and the brain is moving too fast, the body will not be able to keep up." ”
I read this sentence 3 times, and it made me think that it's like a parent walking with a child.
When parents walk, they walk fast when they walk, and the child can't catch up and can only trot, and even falls.
Walking with a child depends on whether the child can keep up with your pace, rather than walking by himself, this child is our ability.
Lack of ability, but also want to go faster, will only be more anxious, depressed, self-doubt "why others can, I can't", a series of psychological problems.
It is better to slow down, consider the "child", follow its pace, and walk more steadily
3. Overestimate yourself
The heart and mouth are one, the body and the behavior are one.
The heart and mouth present the advertising version of themselves, and the body and behavior show the real version of themselves.
This is not to say that people are inconsistent and love to lie, but:
As a result of the differences in human beings' own assessments of themselves, almost all of them can easily overestimate themselves.
The same is true of the position on Maslow's Pyramid, which may be more serious than an overestimation of one's own abilities. What you think in your heart and say on your lips does not mean that it is true, only the body and specific actions are true.
That's why there will be the words "don't listen to what he says and what he does", and look at his words and deeds
Too much desire, lack of ability and can not see the real self, this is a situation that 80% of people will encounter, next Monday, I will target this, seriously share an article, the language will be sharper, please look forward to.
4. Less entanglement and internal friction, more attachment to the goal.
How does a person get a stable kernel?
When a person does not have a stable self-core, he will always be under the influence of various ideas and sounds, which will lead to a lot of inner conflicts.
This internal friction can take up a lot of mental effort, resulting in a greatly reduced efficiency in doing other things.
Behind the core of the self is a stable set of values, beliefs and rules of behavior.
People who don't have self-worth will see these things as simple options, and this choice is actually the basis for a person to be himself and not to others.
How does one form one's own values?
Quite simply, it is to increase the experience and experience of self-decision-making and decision-making, and the formation of the self is obtained by one's own life decisions.
When we have the life experience of making decisions on our own, we will not be easily influenced by others, because we ourselves know how to get what we want.
Therefore, the more a person arranges according to the opinions of others, the less likely he is to have his own stable core and stable values (don't look down, first stay here for a while, think about it).
If you don't take the initiative to make decisions on your own, it is difficult to form your own values
Only through the experience of one's own decision-making can one form an incoherent self.
The setbacks and adjustments experienced in this process are inevitable, and this is also a process of social interaction.
No matter who is influenced, in the end, you have to make independent decisions about yourself, bear the consequences of your choices, and thus acquire ideas and beliefs about [the experience of the self].
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