Speaking of the book "Cai Gen Tan", I think many people have heard of it, this is a classic book with a history of more than 400 years, written in the Ming Dynasty Wanli Period, from the pen of Hong Yingming. The book is full of all kinds of wisdom for people to live in the world, and is highly sought after by future generations.
The name of this book is very interesting, many ancient book names are antique, full of charm, the two contrast, some people think that the three words "vegetable root Tan", too tacky. In fact, the three words "vegetable root Tan" still have a history, which means "if you bite the root of the vegetable, then Pepsi can be accomplished", which means that if a person can adapt to a hard life and thus become strong inside, then no matter what he does in the future, there will be some achievements.
From ancient times to the present, there are many books that know people, but many of them are from the perspective of xiangshu face, such as "Mai Xiangshu", "Liuzhuang Xiangfa", and even Zeng Guofan's "Ice Book", etc. In fact, "Caigen Tan" is also a book of knowledge. It's just that it is too superficial to know people from the first impression of equality, and the knowledge of "Cai Gen Tan" is to know people through a person's quality.
"Cai Gen Tan": People with these three qualities are not ordinary people, see if you have them?
First, be calm and calm
People's life, can not be smooth, everyone will always encounter some critical moments that they think, some people encounter such moments, immediately panicked, and people who really have the ability, no matter when, will maintain a calm and calm mentality, and even the more to the critical juncture, the more calm.
In fact, this is a very good survival strategy, in nature, wolves are the natural enemies of sheep, and the advantage of wolves, in addition to having sharp teeth and claws, is also unusually calm, even in the critical moment of hunting, wolves will be very calm to analyze the terrain and adopt the best hunting strategy. Sheep on the contrary, in the United States of Tennessee, there is a kind of sheep, by netizens jokingly called fainting sheep, this kind of sheep encountered what feng shui grass movement, a frightened limbs stiff, fainted on the ground, let people slaughter.
It was mentioned in the "Cai Gen Tan": "Cold eyes look at people, listen coldly, feel coldly, and think coldly." This is the wisdom of calmness, cold eyes, cold ears, cold feelings, cold hearts, in order to look at things objectively, from cold to quiet, from quiet to wise, so as to avoid making confusing and wrong decisions.
"Cai Gen Tan" also mentioned: "Those who are dry and careless will achieve nothing, and those who are calm and calm will be blessed with self-collection", in daily life, to develop the habit of calm and calm, they will naturally be calm, and they will be blessed to be self-sufficient, otherwise nothing will be achieved.
Second, the circle is flexible
In Confucianism, there is a grid of things to know, just a pair of chopsticks, you can grid things, so as to get the wisdom of people in the world, chopsticks for one end for the square, one end for the circle, and people hold chopsticks, between the square, which also indicates that we must know how to grasp the measure between the square circles, and hold it properly.
As mentioned in the "Cai Gen Tan": "Those who have made meritorious achievements, those who have many false circles; those who have lost their opportunities in the world will be stubborn." ", to achieve a career, just like the use of a pair of chopsticks, between the square circles, so that the chopsticks, to achieve a career.
All in all, square and circle, in fact, are the word flexibility, human nature is unpredictable, and the corresponding coping strategy is to know how to be flexible. In the final analysis, there is still one of the most basic principles of flexibility, that is, the party is the basis of doing things, and the circle is the way of people.
Third, low-key Tibetan front
Confucius's grandson Si, who wrote a "Zhongyong", has a far-reaching influence, and in "Zhongyong", there is a sentence that is very deeply rooted in the hearts of the people, that is, "the earth is low into the sea, the man is low into the king, the saint is unknown, and the great is invisible", the meaning of this sentence boils down to two words - low-key.
The low-key here is a manifestation of tolerance, and in "Cai Gen Tan", it has also been said that "a gentleman is in this situation, and he must not change his behavior, nor should he show his sharp edge too much." ", what is said here is also a kind of low-key, but this low-key is a Hidden Front.
You can't be too sharp, but you can't be too low-key, properly expose the sharpness, show the ability is OK, after all, human nature makes it so, people are good to be bullied, and horses are good to be ridden.
"Cai Gen Tan" believes that the best strategy is to keep a low profile and hide the front. You say low-key, it is not completely low-key, low-key hidden sharpness, low-key at the same time, but also let people feel jealous and a little afraid.