If you are becoming more and more silent, less and less reluctant to say...

See a passage: "Setbacks experience too little, will feel that the trivialities are all trouble." When you experience more truth and falsehood, and see the truth of the world, there is not so much sourness. You are becoming more and more silent, less and less reluctant to say. "Yes, after middle age, I often feel lonely and often silent. Because every day when you open your eyes, you are surrounded by people who depend on you, but you have no one to rely on yourself. More and more silent, more and more do not want to say, is to understand: life comes and goes, few people can enter the heart. No matter how much pain and grievances there are, you don't have to say it to everyone, others will comfort you, you may also listen to it as a joke, and what can really heal yourself is always yourself. In fact, silence is a kind of maturity, looking down on many things, seeing many people clearly, not noisy, not silent, and has the power of not moving. 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First, look down on the affairs of the world and cultivate a normal mind

When I was young, I always cared a lot about what others thought of me, and when I heard gossip, I was angry, and when I was misunderstood, I was eager to argue, and when I encountered a little grievance, I said it to people. I have experienced more things and liked silence more and more. Life is your own, you don't have to show it to others, you don't have to care about other people's opinions, sometimes, saying more wrong, silence is more convincing than explanation. Life, it is better to see through than to look down. Good things and bad things will eventually become a thing of the past, and there is no need to be too attached. Those who are not accustomed to it, it is good to turn around silently; those who cannot let go, learn to deal with it calmly; they cannot get around the past heart, and learn to let go.

For decades of life, in the long river of time is only a short moment, looking back, no matter how big things are small things, why bother? Nan Huaijin once said: "Three thousand years of reading history, but the merits of fame and fortune; ninety thousand miles of enlightenment, in the end, poetry and wine pastoral." "The most rare thing in life is to cultivate a normal heart, to gain or lose, to be silent. Everything is lighter, and everything is in the middle of laughter.

Second, to let go of the past is to let go of yourself

In the past, when there was suffering in my heart, I always looked around for someone to talk about, and later, I liked silence more and more, and I didn't want to say it more and more, because letting go, letting go of the past, was letting go of myself. After reading a story, a suffering person asked the Zen master, "I always can't let go of some people and things", the Zen master said, "There is nothing in this world that cannot be put down", and the suffering person said, "But I can't put it down." "The Zen master asked the sufferer to hold a cup, and the Zen master poured hot water into the cup, and the water was full and overflowed, and the suffering person was burned and immediately let go of his hand. The Zen master said, "When it hurts, it will naturally let go." ”

Life will always experience some deception, hurt, and even disappointment, if you continue to struggle, the injured will eventually be yourself. Letting go is not to forgive the person who hurt you, but to be gentle with yourself and not to punish yourself for the mistakes of others. "The wind is not in the talk of winning, the inaction is the longest", for those who deceive, hurt, and fail you, silence is the highest contempt. Let go of the past and move forward in silence, in order to meet "another village of willows and dark flowers" after "mountains and rivers are doubtful and there is no way", and reach the place you want to go.

Third, if you can't leave it, just follow the fate

From the years, I slowly understood that there are many people and things in the world that we cannot influence. Fate sometimes has to have it, fate must not be forced at all times, and those who cannot be left or right will follow the fate. Over the years, through the ups and downs, there have been tears and pains. Some things cannot be touched and can only be silenced; some people have no choice but to be silent. It is also a kind of freedom to be accustomed to people's hearts and minds, choosing silence, and following the circumstances.

More and more silence, because more and more mature. Unsatisfactory things are often eight or nine, it is impossible to go smoothly in everything, it is impossible to sway, it can only go with nature, not complain, not to be angry, not to demand, not to be sad, and let it follow the fate. Sanmao once said: "Human feelings are cold and warm like flowers blossoming, so it is better to think of this phenomenon as an inevitable season." "Joy and sorrow, joy and sorrow are like the four seasons of life, constantly flowing." Only by adapting to the circumstances can we not be confused in the heart, not trapped in love, not afraid of the future, and not thinking about the past. "If there is a fate, there is no reason to go, and a breeze sends white clouds", learning to follow the fate is the first way to let go of troubles.

Someone said, "Nobody cares how you cry late at night, and nobody cares that you have to toss and turn and survive a few autumns." Outsiders only look at the results and support the process alone. When you understand this truth, you will not be pretentious in front of people and talk around for relief. "When you become more and more silent, it is a sign of maturity, it is life that teaches you to be introverted and calm, and it is also the greatest humility and tolerance for others. For the rest of your life, may you be silent and indifferent, be at ease with the encounter, not be insulted, and watch the flowers blossom and fall before the court; to stay unintentional, to wander with the clouds outside the sky.