The promulgation of the new Marriage Law has made people fall through the glasses, and whether the status of women has improved or regressed? Today I want to talk about the issue of women's own consciousness.
There is a woman, in the era when the status of women was still quite low a hundred years ago, she achieved complete independence and freedom, and competed with men, that is Salome. Today I will tell her story.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > Who is Salome? </h1>
Lu andreas Salome, a female philosopher and psychologist of the late nineteenth and early twentieth centuries, and the only female student of Freud, besides Salome was a woman who conquered genius. She had deep contacts with the greatest thinkers of her time—Nietzsche, Rilke, Freud, and others.
Nietzsche pursued her without marrying, she lived with male friends, insisted on sexless marriage with her husband, but became a lover with Rilke, and eventually she became a female disciple of Freud, creating a psychological theory of "positive narcissism", which has a deep impact to this day.
Salome
Why did Salome live so differently, so freely, a hundred years ago? This has to start from the beginning, there is a movie about Salome that you can go to see, "Falling in Love with the Philosopher", which roughly restores Salome's growth experience.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > childhood and teenage years</h1>
On February 12, 1861, Salome was born into a Russian aristocratic family, and because of her prominent family, it is said that when she was born, even the Tsar personally wrote a letter of congratulations, and she was a proper restless Aquarius, dooming her not to become an ordinary Miss Qianjin.
Salome was mischievous and adventurous from an early age, she liked to climb trees like a boy and play all kinds of dangerous games, while her father's pampering made her childhood unrestrained and extremely happy.
Prior to this, Salome was a devout Christian. She believed in God and often spoke to God in her mind, and God always appeared above her and listened to her.
She often prayed to God to let her father live longer, and God always gladly promised...
Salome was deeply wounded by her father's death, and she began to doubt the existence of God, and the rebellious side of her personality began to play a role. So, the young girl Salome refused to attend Mass, indulged in thinking, and plunged into the world of books.
Still
In the library, she meets the priest Kirot, who takes Salome into the world of philosophy and instructs her to read Aristotle, Spinoza, Kant, Rousseau, Voltaire... The writings of others, the thirsty Salome feels like a spring breeze, which is exactly what she needs: not blind faith in God, but based on rational thinking, speculation and questioning, knowledge replaces faith, logic replaces faith, philosophical clarity replaces the girl's sentimentality, salome grows under the influence of philosophy.
Aristotle
Soon, however, she suffered a major blow:
Kirot, who could almost be her father, actually courted her!
What's more serious is that he is a husband with a wife, how is all this possible?
Maiden Salome
Salome may not have realized at this point how appealing her distinctive aura was.
She is beautiful, exotic, and her intelligent and clear soul is even more heartwarming.
Salome broke free of the priest and fled in a panic.
It was at this time that she made up her mind to stay away from sex as a way to protect her independence.
This is a somewhat arbitrary and somewhat rash decision, and people will always make childish promises to themselves in adolescence, and these commitments can sometimes affect people's lives. Such was the case with Salome, who was determined to eliminate the "gender" factor and put herself on an equal footing with men, which challenged people's perception and moral bottom lines in the society of the time.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > a threesome friendship</h1>
In 1880, Salome was admitted to the University of Zurich in Switzerland, as it was the only university in Europe that allowed female students to enroll, and she majored in philosophy, religion, linguistics and history.
In college, she read a lot of books and studied without sleeping, but her body could not eat and suffered from tuberculosis.
With the intervention of her mother, she dropped out of school, and her mother had planned to let her go home and find a good family to marry, but how could Salome agree?
While recuperating in Rome, she met her friend Paul, who in turn introduced her to the young philosophical Nietzsche. Instead of going back with her mother, she stayed behind to teach herself philosophy with her two friends.
Nietzsche
The three of them swung the boat, and Salome suddenly jumped into the water
The trio of Paul, Nietzsche and Salome is arguably the most vivid and special friendship in the history of philosophy. Both young men were attracted to Salome, and Salome regarded them as their best buddies.
There is a classic story, the three people go to the photo studio to take a souvenir, Nietzsche improvised, set up the scene, let Salome half crouched on the carriage, waving the whip, himself and Paul supported the rut, standing in front, this scene is the symbol of the relationship between the three: Salome driving two men who love philosophy and love her.
Original photo
Deep down, both Paul and Nietzsche wanted Salome, but on the surface it wasn't.
Salome, on the other hand, firmly follows through on her teenage vows and never allows love to tarnish friendship, which deeply frustrates the man who loves her.
Nietzsche, in particular, boldly pursued Salome from beginning to end, and once took Salome home to see his mother and sister, but Salome's behavior completely angered Nietzsche's sister. She had always regarded her brother as her own, but now she watched this unbridled woman take her brother's full attention.
So Nietzsche's sister fell out with Salome, and Salome left in anger.
Nietzsche also collapsed, and he found that he could not change Salome's thoughts at all, to make her fall in love with himself, and his idea of possessing her was completely frustrated.
The trio broke down, and Nietzsche never fell in love with anyone again, while salome and Paul's friendship continued, and the two even had a "cohabitation" time, living under the same roof, but the well water did not violate the river.
In order to survive, Salome began to write novels, and with her clever talent, she succeeded, and her success made everyone rejoice, and only one person was lost, and that was Paul, who perhaps realized that his abilities were never worthy of this radiant female friend.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > strange marriage</h1>
What happened next was somewhat unexpected: Salome was married!
Married to neither Nietzsche nor Paul, but to the linguistics professor Andreas, a man fifteen years older than her who intruded into her life, and his passionate pursuit made Salome overwhelmed, and he even stabbed himself in the chest with a knife in the heat of the dispute...
Salome finally agreed to marry him, but the conditions for marriage were also almost harsh and incomprehensible: they must maintain a sexless marriage, and they can only have the name of marriage, not the reality of marriage!
To agree to such a request, one has to wonder to what extent Andreas' feelings for Salome have gone.
At the beginning, Andreas may have thought that as long as she got married first, she would slowly cook rice and cook rice in the future, but who expected Salome to resolutely defend her bottom line and would never allow him to tear up her promise. Andreas could only compromise, but still refused to divorce.
Salome offered to find a maid to take care of him, and she partially relieved herself of her wife's responsibilities.
Later, Andreas and the maid gave birth to a girl, and after Andreas' death, she became Salome's adopted daughter. The girl has been taking care of Salome since she grew up. She is also the unsmiling woman in the movie who is mistaken for a housekeeper at the beginning.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > the only love</h1>
If Salome's marriage to Andreas is already bizarre, Salome's emotional entanglement with Rilke is even more unexpected.
Rilke
Rilke was just a young man who loved to write poetry, and Salome was already a famous scholar and writer. Rilke was attracted to Salome's strong personality and unique thoughts, he pursued her, obsessed with her, and Salome was also touched by Rilke's talent and poetry, strangely, this man with feminine temperament, completely different from the male friends she had known before, really opened the door to Salome's love.
When Salome and Rilke lived together, she was still a married woman, but everything in the world could not help her, even the promise of her youth could be broken, and at this time, Salome may have truly liberated the "original self", compromised with the "self", and reached the state of "superego".
Rilke's presence did not shake Salome's marriage, her husband gladly accepted his presence, and the three of them often drank afternoon tea and chatted together. Imagine this bizarre scene...
Later, Rilke and Salome went alone to Russia, and during this trip, she found rilke sickly attached to herself, and he even asked her to marry him, so once again, she withdrew.
Love, not the end, not the end, love is just love, for Salome, there is always one thing more important than love, that is, freedom, independence.
Salome's lifelong emotional experience can not be described as rich, but no man can really possess her, or drown her, change her, she always insisted on herself, insisted on her independent personality.
< h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > become psychologists</h1>
Finally, let's talk about Freud, who met Freud when Salome was 50 years old, which became an important turning point in her life.
Freud
She learned from Freud's theory that human behavior and thought are often influenced by inner impulses and instincts that we are unaware of. Salome has always loved speculation and philosophy, and this time, she turned her research to the mind, to the person, to herself.
She became a student of Freud and became a brilliant psychologist.
She studied female gender roles and created psychological theories of positive narcissism, all of which were based on herself, which inspired Freud a lot, and these studies are still the frontier theories of psychology to this day.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > women ahead of their time</h1>
More than a hundred years ago, Salome lived a female image that was incompatible with the times, but lit up the times.
She shows us a life, a life of free will, self-choice, self-actualization.
At the end of the film, Salome and Pfeiffer, a German-language researcher who consulted her, have this conversation:
Pfeiffer: People rarely get gifts in their lives, trust me.
Salome: So when you don't get your ideal life, steal it.
Suddenly looking back, we seem to find that salome's image has long surpassed her time, and even beyond our time, as a woman, she uses all her energy to know herself, enrich herself, create herself, she has not become one of thousands of "wives", "mothers" and "lovers", she is just her - a unique woman - Salome.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > revelation and conclusion</h1>
Perhaps, women like Salome are in the minority after all, but she proves to us that no matter what kind of social environment, what kind of public opinion and unfairness, women are not just passive recipients, but also powerless conformists. After resistance and hard work, women can still fight for their own independent personality and freedom, through the game and confrontation with men, women can also win respect for themselves and harvest the life they want.
In a sense, men and women have never been equal— this inequality is not only social, but also physical, physical. However, from the perspective of "people", people are equal after all. Sometimes, women not only have to think about what kind of "woman" I want to become, but also to consider what kind of "person" I want to become, perhaps in this way, in order to get rid of the shackles of society, etiquette, and the environment in consciousness, and to redefine their lives.
This is a little bit of sarama's inspiration for us today.
Author: MENG
Headline Number: Dream Space