"People who are diligent and thrifty may not be able to live a rich and noble life, but they certainly will not live a very bad life, and their children will not live very badly," I said when I said this, and gave some examples around me. Recently and my wife in this area of communication more, some of her can listen, sometimes like this, "it is not your business, you are afraid of dirty, messy can not enter my room", this morning I complained that her room is very messy, did not expect her to be very disgusted, leading to mutual unhappiness.
Life is like this, life will always be like this, you can't escape the cumbersomeness of life, helplessness, compromise, change, this has nothing to do with wealth, cultivation, this is life! This is life. Yesterday when I was cooking, a colleague passed by the window, he must not have cooked, because it is a very familiar relationship, so I will call him to the home to eat, people come into the house, the boss has been playing with mobile phones there, people will not call, let alone greet guests, so say two sentences, did not expect him to be afraid, which made me very angry, in front of the guests to criticize him, he was angry into the room, a face of impatience, full of unhappiness. Afterwards, I realized that my way and method were not right, I should not criticize him in front of the guest, even if it is criticism, I should pay attention to the tone, I should be gentle, sometimes the same meaning, different expressions, will produce different effects, this is to teach according to the talent. Maybe it's because of the family, so it is too tactful to think that there is no need, but the more the family, the more attention to this, this is respect, living under the same roof, there will be too much disagreement, so it is more necessary. I know it's hard to change myself, I'm a very low emotional intelligence person, but two sisters corrected my statement and they said "you are a person without emotional intelligence"! It's a joke, but I know that I was born like this, and along the way, I didn't change very deliberately, and that's who I am! Anyway, I have to accept myself like this. And then little by little, how much I can do, it's better than what I don't do, that's my attitude. On the road ahead, I don't know how many times I regret it, I know there will be such a thing.
"You can't compare with them, their children are grown up, their jobs are more stable, they don't have to worry about anything financially and in their careers, but you are different, our children are still young, and when they need education, your work is unstable, you should spend more time to learn, such as going to school cooking in Xiaohongshu, or taking a certificate and so on." I said to my wife in a serious tone, I don't like her leisure life relaxed way, she has time to either like to play cards with others, or play mobile phones, generally from 8 o'clock or 8:30 to 10:30 to come back, after coming back is to play mobile phones to 11-12 o'clock, usually go to work, the child's education does not matter at all, I am a little too weak alone, and I also have lazy times, which is more in need of someone to help share or remind.
Early in the morning, I got up and memorized English words, I had tried this before, but after a long time, I gave up, so that now I almost forgot everything I learned in college, and I struggled before, but because I didn't need it, I memorized and forgot, and then I chose to be comfortable, but the comfortable life made me not challenged, and there was often frustration, and there was a lot of unconfidence in my heart. This is my profession! I can't allow myself to indulge like this, and that's why I'm going to keep memorizing words. I have a sense of distress, which makes me more than just the present! Temperamentally, I will never be an optimistic person. So I often force myself and my family. The eldest and I had to get up at six o'clock, he endorsed, I memorized the words, half an hour later, I began to clean up, last night after the insecticide, there were 5 cockroach corpses on the ground, this is the 26th I came to the school, found that there are a lot of cockroaches in the house, three consecutive nights after the insecticide, the first two times the cockroaches died more, tonight ready for the fourth time. I wondered how my wife could live in harmony with cockroaches, how lofty it must be! But it's no wonder that her attention is not on this, which is one of the reasons why I object to her playing cards. "What's the matter with you in my room?" After I cleaned the kitchen, living room, dining room hygiene, I asked the four-year-old second to get up, when I walked into the room to wake up the second elder, seeing the messy room, I couldn't help but spit on my wife, she said such a sentence, and also said"If you want to see it, don't come in." I was thinking, what's wrong with me, I just told you to clean up your room! I also thought about my latecomers, the teacher just wants them to learn, why they can't listen, talk too much and hate the teacher. It turned out how difficult it was for them to ask for what I was asking! If you want to study well, it means to endure hardships, to have good living and study habits, but is it so easy to develop good habits? There must be pressure, either your own heart is strong enough to move you forward, or someone else gives pressure. They don't want to learn themselves, but we as teachers don't have coercive measures, so we can't form pressure! Whether it's for students or for my partner, I should look at the opening point. Poor learning does not mean that there is no way out in the future, nor does it mean that there is no dignity, I have to learn to respect them. The wife still has a lot of advantages, such as buying vegetables, cooking, etc. Even if you live under the same roof, it is inevitable that there will be unsatisfactory places, bumps and bumps are inevitable, who can be perfect!
What is a husband and wife? Occasionally, I can hear someone say who has a husband and wife with whom. My understanding of "husband and wife" is that after a long period of time together, the couple has reached a harmonious situation in their living habits and "three views", and they also agree with many things, which is the husband and wife. Such couples are rare in real life. Occasionally I can see couples walking together, and I will think that they have gone to the road of "husband and wife", they are communicating, communicating, and there will be harmony with communication. I've seen too many couples whose communication is just quarrels, and they can only communicate when they quarrel, so it's hard to be quiet at home. Avoid quarrels, communicate usually, and communicate calmly. From this point of view, my wife and I are doing a good job, we communicate often, and when there is an atmosphere like this morning, I usually calm myself down so that things don't develop into an uncontrollable point, which is what I can do after the age of forty. I wanted to convince each other to bring each other's outlooks on life, worldviews, and values closer together, but she had a hard time doing that. This is not a question of right or wrong, the home is not a court, it is not a place to be reasonable, otherwise there would be no "clean officials can cut off family affairs", so we can only look at the opening point! I can accept such a partner, we tolerate each other. As for the education of children, it is a process, a process of mutual education, and this process is called growth.