What does it look like to be liked?
Look a little better? Better? A little higher? ......
Unable to let go of other people's evaluation of ourselves, we who can't let go of ourselves are often trapped in self-doubt about why we can't be better.
When we focus our eyes on so-called defects, such as the acne on the forehead, such as the skin that is not white enough, the soul that is not "interesting" enough... We can't see our own shining point in our eyes, we can't see our own specialness.
But the truth is: like you, no matter how weird you are now, there are people who like you.
Everyone is unique, like there are thousands of kinds of food; every unique you, there will be people who like your strangeness.
There is such an author who has placed good wishes on us: you will eventually meet a person who will spend his whole life carefully collecting you and placing you properly for a long time.
The author's pen name is "Originally a Qigongzi", she likes to travel and likes words, and uses the pen to record every heartbeat and parting. Her envelope must have been used to see the world, expecting to have done what she wanted to do when she passed the thirty-year-old mark.
Such a dashing desire, a woman who accompanies the mountains, lakes, seas, flowers, snow, and moon, should be what many people want to be.
Her book "Someone Always Likes Your Strangeness" has pierced through the seemingly fragile armor of many girls, allowing us to embrace that fragile self at a certain moment.
The book is full of love and hate that girls in their twenties encounter, and every page may resonate with you and awaken your tears.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="3" > flowers bloom for themselves, and people live for themselves</h1>
I have brought the sky full of stars to give you, and I still feel that the stardust is not as good as you. ------------------------
The girl in the flower shop left her because of her lover, gave up her favorite red rose, and took care of chamomile, perhaps she wanted to be like chamomile, more and more courageous, looking for strength in suffering.
But she did not gain the power of her imagination and left the flower shop, and the stars at the entrance of the flower shop gradually became dusty.
But the unattended rose blossomed one day. The flower shop is not open, the flowers are still blooming.
The girl who left briefly also returned one day.
She gave herself a new beginning, like those red roses, and would not forget that she was a flower that could bloom because she was not accompanied.
Maybe you're still commuting alone, taking the subway alone, going upstairs alone, eating alone, sleeping alone, being alone in a daze...
But don't feel that there is no love and warmth in a day without someone, in fact, there are many people who love you in their own way
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="5" > hard-mouthed people lose a lot</h1>
Sometimes I admire the girls who bravely plead for a compound after the breakup, and their compromise on love and show weakness to their boyfriends are actually the greatest bravery.
I'm also a stubborn girl. Obviously very worried about the mother, the words of care and care are often unable to be spoken, and the phrase "I love you" has been wrapped around the mouth for a long time, and finally swallowed silently.
Like Qi Gongzi, this stubbornness has always been there from childhood to adulthood.
Obviously, his heart is already in chaos, but he will still insist: I'm fine, you don't have to care about me.
Obviously, the pockets are empty, but they will still do their best.
This is our biggest protective color. Obviously, tears were already swirling in his eyes, and his mouth was still lightly saying: Forget it.
Hurting others and hurting each other.
Qi Gongzi said: Whatever you think in your heart, you must say something, you must do this.
I think I need to practice longer to develop this ability of my own.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="7" > we don't necessarily need to be in love, but we need to be in love</h1>
There is also a sentence: I love you, it has nothing to do with you.
Doris Lessing said in Shadow in the Shadows: What makes me addicted is the state of being in love: excitement, gluing. It was a slight intoxication that had nothing to do with true love.
Qi Gongzi also said in this book: Many times people just want a feeling of liking someone, not want to be in love.
It doesn't matter if he knows if you're going to be together or not, how long you're together.
You don't have to worry about the troubles of being in love, but you are as energetic as if you have been in love for a long time.
He could even say a flower, a beam of light, a kitten in the afternoon, a stranger he met...
As long as you perceive the gentle world, there will always be a feeling of love.
Loving someone doesn't need to last long, or even have it; keep in love and be a girl who can poetry in all things.
We are born as girls and live like a girl.
You can choose long hair, short hair, lipstick or plain face, high heels or flat shoes, and you are what you are.
Just be yourself, without having to be anyone, cool enough to see the world, soft enough to purify all sentient beings.
How awesome to be such a girl!