Love is full of accidents and unexpected factors, and many times, we don't know who we will meet and who we will fall in love with. However, marriage, in our Chinese society, has always advocated "door to door", and marriages with disparities in conditions between the two parties are not optimistic.
Released in 2009, the movie "Dragon Play Phoenix" starring Andy Lau, Shu Qi, Zhang Hanyu and others is about the "gap" between love and marriage.
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In the movie, Cheng Zhongsen, played by Andy Lau, is a super-rich man who has been married and divorced three times, and each divorce has been divided away from a lot of property. He knew that neither his love nor his marriage was his own business, and he did not dare to expect to meet love again.
Milan, played by Shu Qi, is an ordinary girl who likes to dance, is optimistic, and has a straightforward personality.
By chance, fate made these two people meet and meet. At that time, Milan did not know that he was a rich man, and thought that he was a grassroots like himself.
As the contact increased, they were attracted to each other, and Cheng Zhongsen confessed to Milan and revealed his true identity. Milan was surprised, but hesitated, because she felt that the gap between their "objective conditions" was too large.
But Cheng Zhongsen really liked her and proposed, and Milan refused.
Later, when Milan plucked up the courage to be with him, Cheng Zhongsen's mother proposed to let Milan sign a "prenuptial agreement" out of consideration for the group company, and Milan hesitated again.
At the end of the story, Cheng Zhongsen, a super-rich man, walked into the TV station, publicly confessed, and finally won the happy ending of this love story, the super-rich and the grassroots girls together.
After marriage, how many problems they will face, whether they can be happy or not, we do not know, but this courage to dare to cross the gap together, many of us do not have.
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In the story told in the movie, there are two pairs of lovers, who are also facing the gap in realistic conditions. One is Cheng Zhongsen's female assistant, this super white-collar worker accidentally met the temporary worker Lin Jiu, and was warmed and touched by him again and again.
Lin Jiu also liked this girl, but at first, Lin Jiu did not dare to confess, he felt that he was not worthy of her as a worker.
But in the end, he also plucked up the courage to hug the beauty.
There is also a couple, Cheng Zhongsen's driver and a single mother.
One was a good young man who was unmarried, the other was a single mother who was full of gossip, he liked her, but he couldn't make up his mind to be with her, and he was a little worried about the thought of facing so many gossip with her. However, with the encouragement of Cheng Zhongsen, he still plucked up the courage and chose to become a family with the mother and daughter.
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Do you guess that these three couples will be happy after marriage?
With all due respect, I can't guess.
I sincerely hope they can be happy, but the triviality and length of marriage, the complexity and change of human nature, make me less confident.
Some people say that this is a "hypnotic movie" that makes people believe in love, and if you think about it, there is some truth in saying that the gap in reality is not so easy to cross.
A poor person and a rich person together, on the surface, the obstacle and gap between them is "money", but in fact, the human nature behind it, the complexity of human nature, the strength of human nature, beyond our imagination.
Some people will be inferior because they are poor.
Similarly, many people will be "proud" because they have money.
Such two people are not suitable for being together.
No one wants to live "lowly" in front of another person.
Ideally, the poor man is not inferior to himself, and the rich man is not proud of it, and only when two hearts are equal together will he be happy.
But the ideal is ultimately an ideal, and human nature in reality is deeply rooted, and it is not affected by man's subjective consciousness but affects what a person thinks, thinks, and does. So many people, in many cases, are dominated by human nature. For example, the arrogance of the rich and the inferiority of the poor are not that they want to live like that, but that human nature drives him to live like that.
There is a word called "pampering and arrogance", which means that a person will be pampered and proud, in the face of money, it is the same truth, many people will be "proud of money".
So a lot of times, people's commitments are unreliable, because it is only the people who make the commitment at that moment, and human nature will change people.
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I know a post-90s girl, when it comes to mate selection criteria, she once said:
"I'm going to find a boy who has no house and no car, and what I get together is what really belongs to each other."
I don't know what you see in this post-90s girl, I see two things like this:
First, she is an independent new age woman, she wants to be like a man, to work hard, to struggle, to build a happy future. She doesn't want to be a woman who depends on men.
Second, to some extent, she has a pessimistic understanding of marriage and human nature, in modern society, even the law is protecting men's premarital property, if a man's humanity is not trustworthy, women may as well create good material conditions on their own.
This girl's concept is a little "strange", but this is directly related to the concept of money in real society. What woman wouldn't want a man to lean on? Sadly, a lot of men can't be trusted.
Love, can be disregarded, marriage, must be rationally chosen.
In modern society, people's material living conditions have become better, but they are also living more and more materially, and there are very few people who have money and are not proud of them, in fact, such people are the people who really dominate their own lives, and they are more capable of getting happiness.