Learning is a child's innate ability. If the child does not love to learn or does not learn well, it must be a parent or teacher who has made a mistake.
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What is learning?
Learning is the process of accumulating individual experience.
There are two ways to accumulate individual experience: 1. direct experience, that is, individual experience (such as: play, free exploration); 2. indirect experience, that is, the experience of others, both oral (such as listening to stories) and text (such as: textbook learning, extracurricular reading). Having a wealth of direct experience is a good basis for mastering indirect experience.
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How do children learn?
Experience is learning. The development of a child's intellect comes from experience, not knowledge. The best way to develop your child's intelligence is to give your child the opportunity to create a rich experience. Based on natural curiosity, children are willing to explore freely, and if parents do not stop and disturb, children can naturally accumulate a rich and happy experience.
When children accumulate a fairly rich experience, they lay a good foundation for understanding indirect experiences (such as textbook learning and extracurricular reading).
In the case of adult protection, let the child touch the cup containing boiling water, ta can naturally develop an understanding of the danger of boiling water, so as to know how to identify the danger and protect themselves. In the news, it is often reported that children are seriously burned by boiling water, which is likely to be related to adults telling children verbally about the dangers of boiling water (indirect experience) and prohibiting children from touching (depriving them of experience opportunities).
In the matter of children's learning, adults are often prone to attach importance to indirect experience (textbook learning, problem sea tactics), and ignore direct experience, and the result is often to cultivate high-scoring and low-energy "good students", who are good at textbook learning and examinations, but lack life experience and common sense, and their understanding of the world is limited to information from textbooks. Good grades are not necessarily good at learning, it is possible to be just good at following the teacher's baton for mechanical memory (passive learning), such learning will not be of much use without exams (the so-called disconnection with society); poor grades are not necessarily not good at learning, they may just be not good at repeating boring knowledge similar to the names of the Eight Great People of the Tang and Song Dynasties, what years of birth and death, and are good at finding things they are interested in from actual life (active learning), such learning is sustainable.
Adults often lack patience, can not accept children in their own eyelids "make mistakes", eager to tell children "correct answers", expect children to avoid making mistakes, and directly grasp the so-called correct results that adults have verified. However, telling children about the dangers of boiling water a hundred times is not only difficult for children to master useful knowledge, but will build a high wall between parents and children who do not understand each other.
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How to destroy a child's ability to learn?
Quite simply, deprive the experience.
Children who lack direct experience will have difficulty understanding and mastering indirect experience. After entering the school to study (textbooks, that is, indirect experience), compared with children with rich experiences, they will not be able to keep up with the lectures and learning textbooks. At this time, many parents tell their children that you only need to study (textbooks), and you don't have to worry about anything else, in fact, you are continuing to deprive your children of the opportunity to experience. The learning outcomes of a child who lacks direct experience are like castles in the air.
In addition to such extreme ways of destruction, there are many other hidden ways of destruction in life. Such as: disturbing, interrupting, accompanying homework, writing a letter of guarantee and many other supports full of "love (oppression)". (The way to get a child who can learn is very similar, but the methods of destroying a child's ability to learn are different from family to family.)
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What should I do if my child is tired of school?
The good news is that the child can express boredom, indicating that he still wants to be himself. They don't like learning simply because they're not doing what interests them, or they don't like a teacher, or they have problems with relationships at school, or for other reasons. If parents can accept their children, look at the problem from the child's point of view, analyze the difficulties with the child with a considerate attitude rather than an authoritative attitude, find solutions, and encourage the child to do what he is interested in, the child can also develop well.
There is also a kind of child who is very sensible in the eyes of adults. Study hard, but the grades are always unable to get up. This kind of well-behaved student suppresses his inner needs, does not dare to develop his own interests, and prefers to aggrieved himself or dare not challenge authority. Good old people and obedience are the characteristics of ta. Unless the adult is aware and constantly encourages the child to listen to the inner voice, such a child will have to be a mask man for the rest of his life.
The school's evaluation system for students has some characteristics, such as: teachers prefer obedient and sensible students (this is a weakness of human nature, not unique to teachers), too much emphasis on textbook learning, test scores account for too high a weight in school performance, so that many of students' hidden strengths are ignored. Many children may not have good grades and are not good at following the teacher's baton, but there are some very valuable qualities, such as kindness, bravery, and strength, and if these excellent qualities can be seen and encouraged by the teacher, the value of the child's growth will be priceless. A student who does not do well on a test, a student who does not obey, does not mean that the child must be a bad child. Labeling children with all kinds of negative labels is simple and rude and irresponsible behavior.
Adults often recognize a dead reason: good learning equals good work, and good work equals happiness; conversely, without good grades now, there will be no happiness in future life. Faced with unsatisfactory test scores, parents often endure first and then endure until the volcano erupts and finally shock therapy. The problem of learning expanded into a problem of growth, and the problem of the child alone intensified into a problem of the whole family.
Learning is a child's innate ability, in the environment of love and freedom, the child's natural learning ability will guide him to find his own most dazzling color.