When life counts down, when death is coming at any moment, for most people, life seems to be forever frozen in darkness and pain!
For his family, it was also plunged into boundless suffering, and the family's painful suffering accompanied him waiting for death to come.
But the beautiful 29-year-old anti-cancer girl Huo Jiujiu, who laughed at life and death at the last stage of her life, taught us all a lesson: it turns out that death is not all pain, sadness and tears, and you can also leave with a smile!
A long smile
Post-90s girl Huo Jiujiu (screen name), from Shenyang, Liaoning Province, on the first day of 2020, she was diagnosed with advanced lung cancer and could not operate, the doctor said that she only had three months left to live, and at this time she was only 28 years old and had just been married for three months.
Youth, newlywed Yan'er, the beautiful life has just begun, it is about to end, such a result no one can accept! She faced the sky countless times and asked: Why me?
Look at the sea for a long time
Angry, crying, and even collapsing, but one day she suddenly understood: this may be Providence, and since Providence is difficult to violate, then accept it!
There are only a few days left, instead of a sad face every day, a sad, meaningless life, it is better to be happy and meaningful.
Go out for a long time
In the last year or so of his life, except for active treatment in the hospital, most of the rest of the time is spent on the road to complete the desire to see the world.
She is also a rock music lover, and with the help of netizens, she not only fulfilled her last wish to "participate in a rock music festival", but also performed on the same stage with her idols.
Sing on stage for a long time
She filmed her usual life and play scenes into short videos and posted them on Douyin, the purpose of the beginning was to leave a thought for her parents, but she did not think that these videos she released were popular among netizens and gained nearly 200,000 fans.
Long in the prairie
Fans like her because in these short videos, whether it is looking at cattle and sheep on the grassland, or watching the sea and listening to the waves on the beach, whether it is eating outside or walking near home;
Long time eating grapes
And when communicating with fans, he never sells miserably, and always jokes with netizens in a relaxed and witty tone
When netizens sympathized with her, she said that she was "the chosen one" when she had cancer; when she was weak and weak, she said that her state was charging for an hour and talking for 5 minutes; when she inhaled oxygen, she said that she was an oxygen beauty! ”
Even two days before she died, she said humorously to her husband: When I was lying in bed, I said I was shut down!
Chat history with a lover for a long time
But in fact, the pain endured by patients with advanced cancer is unimaginable to ordinary people, but she is not willing to show pain and vulnerability in front of people, so that everyone can accompany herself to the clouds of sorrow and crying.
Since death is unavoidable, live a little freely, live more easily, and be happy for a day.
Her visionary mentality, although it did not help her finally fight off the disease (she died on September 12, 2021), did help her survive far beyond the three-month lifespan determined by the doctor;
To tell the truth, in the face of death, how many people can talk and laugh, laugh at life and death, and always laugh at death?
When her limit was approaching, she did not leave in tears, but held a "Happy Life Farewell Party" to say goodbye to everyone happily.
She invited relatives, friends, classmates, colleagues, and all the important people in her life to the scene, the field was full of flowers, and she appeared in front of everyone in her favorite dress, dressed up in a particularly beautiful way.
She was afraid that everyone would be sad, and also held a special lottery to share the past with every guest, seeing that some of the guests were in tears, she used the Northeast dialect to "hold me back", and everyone was immediately amused.
Wang Yue at the farewell party
The fate of two girls with cancer, so young and beautiful, was too unfair to them, but they did not spend the rest of their lives complaining and depressed.
They bravely fight cancer when they are alive, and smile at death when they die, and such an open-minded and optimistic attitude is too worth learning from all of us.
We lack the understanding of death too much, and we lack the courage to face death head-on.
In our country, death is a topic that cannot be easily touched. Fear of death, taboo death, unwilling to talk about death, this is a common mentality of the people,
Many people avoid death, feeling obscure, painful, and frightening, so they avoid talking about it, it seems that as long as they don't say it, death is far away from themselves, and death has nothing to do with themselves.
Is it like an ostrich, burying its head in the sand, choosing not to listen, not to see, not to think, then death will not come?
There are no old or young people on Huangquan Road, 6 people will die every minute in the world, and death is all around us, in fact, it is not far from everyone.
Ignoring death will give us the illusion that death is far away, which will make us addicted to money, status, fame, pleasure, etc., and not cherish life, cherish life;
If you can't face death squarely, wait until death comes to have an epiphany, it's too late, you can only die sadly with regret, regret, and unwillingness.
To discuss the meaning of death is to live to die, not to die, but to live better!
In short, these two strong, optimistic, and lovely girls told us with their short but extraordinary lives:
First, cherish and love the limited life, do not squander and waste life.
Live well, be positive and optimistic, and strive to live out of yourself; life is very short, we must always remind ourselves, do not wait, what life we want to live will strive to achieve, less regrets in life.
Second, there is life and death, life, old age, illness and death are natural laws, and acceptance is the best choice.
Everyone will die, no one can escape, no one wants to die, but no one can violate the laws of nature, face death squarely, and accept it calmly.
Third, man cannot decide life and death, but he can decide his state of mind in the face of life and death.
Life and death have a destiny, people can not decide life and death, but when people are alive, when facing death, whether they are sad or happy, this is determined by the individual's mentality.
Fourth, death is just a parting, in fact, do not have to be too sad, laughing and breaking up is not bad.
When saying goodbye to the difficult time of the world, I and my loved ones are filled with the painful death air, the feeling that life is better than death, it is better to be funny, laugh, wave, smile goodbye, the deceased leaves peacefully, and the living continue to live with warmth.
As Tagore says in his poem, "Born like the splendor of a summer flower, dead like the quiet beauty of an autumn leaf." Wouldn't it be better to leave in a beautiful posture and give your loved ones a beautiful back?
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