In the morning, I sent oranges to school, and as soon as I got in the car, I saw oranges sitting straight and asked me, "Mom, guess what's in my clothes?" ”
I touched his little belly and said, "It's a book, right?" ”
That's right! Orange pulled out of his clothes the unfinished Adventures of Tintin from last night, which he had carried with him, intending to finish it on his way to school.
At this point, I had a feeling of old nostalgia.
If you know what Orange's reading state was like in the past, you may be able to understand my mood at this moment.
<h1>It all started when I was a kid</h1>
When I was a child, it was natural for me to fall in love with reading, when my parents told me little picture books, and then I read small picture books myself. The whole process is very natural, and it doesn't bother my parents much.
At that time, I didn't pay attention to parent-child reading, and they didn't tell me much about small picture books. It's just that dad likes to read, there are a lot of books at home, probably influenced by dad, I can read the whole storybook in the first grade of elementary school, and the third grade began to read the tomes, what British novel selection, Japanese novel selection and so on. As long as Dad's bookcase had a storyline book, I would flip through it.
Slowly, reading became an indispensable part of my life, a deep-rooted way of life, and its shaping of my outlook on life and the nourishment of my life could not be overemphasized.
So, when I became a mother, on the one hand, I very much hoped that oranges could also develop the habit of loving reading from an early age; on the other hand, I had optimistic confidence that oranges would develop the habit of reading.
Because I love to read, in addition to the bookcase, every corner of the home is also full of books, with this environment, oranges will be like me back then, falling in love with reading should be a natural thing. Now, though, it seems that this is a blind optimism and confidence.
<h1>How we missed the opportunity</h1>
When Orange was young, I would also read some picture books with him, most of the time I read them to him. Later, this reading session slowly evolved into bedtime storytelling. Orange loves to listen to stories and asks to tell stories every day before going to bed.
Sometimes, after a busy day, I'm so tired that I don't bother to read him stories, so I let him listen to the stories on the IPAD himself. Slowly, it evolved into listening to audio stories, and I read books to supplement them. At that time, I was not in a hurry to read, thinking that when he recognized more words in school, he would naturally fall in love with reading.
From the first grade to the third grade, Orange listens to a lot of audio is very mixed, not only stories, but also popular science, history, it can be said that his knowledge is quite wide.
Orange began to write poetry in the first grade, and went to the Penglai Sea in the summer vacation of the second grade, and the small poems he wrote were exquisite, which surprised me. On a whim, he also wrote his own stories, writing all the way to the earth, using pinyin for words he couldn't write, and planned to write a full book and let me publish it for him. Relatives and friends around me also praised each other when they saw it, saying that oranges have a good language skills and were influenced by me.
(Little poem written by Orange)
However, in this piece of praise, I realized that the problem was gradually becoming more prominent: Orange was in the third grade, and the basic vocabulary of reading was no problem - but Orange still did not like to read!
At home, even if he is idle and scratches the wall, he will not take the initiative to read. I asked him to find a book to read on his own, and he only looked for tuduo's books, only looked at the pictures, and didn't read much text. The school required fifteen minutes of reading every day, and he looked at the book twice, looked at the watch, and when the time came, he immediately put down the book.
If you can't develop the habit of reading, without the lasting and powerful source of power brought by books, oranges' current performance is easy to be short-lived and cannot last.
<h1>The detours I've taken</h1>
The previous blind optimism and hidden laziness are finally beginning to show consequences. If you continue to let it go, the older you get, the less likely you are to develop the habit of reading.
That's not good. I'm going to start trying to figure out how to make up for that lesson.
Make it a habit to start with an interest. Some of Orange's classmates have already started reading "Charles IX" and "Triad Life Weekly". I told myself not to worry, to start with a simple patch. I bought a lot of simple, simple storybooks. Orange read very hard, and after reading two pages, I didn't read it.
Storybooks don't work, so look at picture books. I also bought a lot of small picture books with pictures, each with only two or three lines of text. No problem now, right? The orange was still turned over and put down.
Just when I was anxious, I stumbled upon an article about parent-child reading. The article said that no matter how old the child is, when he feels that reading is difficult, he needs the company of his parents.
This sentence woke me up. I thought that the oranges were so big, the amount of literacy was enough, no longer a small child, I needed to accompany him to read, just give him time to give him books, the rest is practice can make skill. It turns out that before developing the habit of reading, it is very necessary for parents and children to read together.
<h1>Companionship, companionship, start parent-child reading</h1>
Knowing this, I started practicing. First, find a small picture book that interests him, The Adventures of Tintin. I told him about this set of books in the past, but then I asked him to read it himself, and he only looked at the pictures. Of course, it was not interesting to just look at the picture, and then it was shelved.
Since you have left so much homework, don't say anything, start from scratch, start from a small picture book and start to make up!
I said to Orange, shall we read a passage by ourselves? Orange happily agreed.
At this time, I found another problem. Oranges basically know the words inside, but because they read less, the words are not familiar, let alone the sense of language, and they stumble when reading, sometimes almost word by word. After reading a paragraph, my attention was focused on recognizing words, and I didn't know what this passage meant. Then I understood: no wonder Oranges don't want to read, so what fun is there to read.
What if there's no fun? Then I'll take him for fun.
When I read, I imitate the tone of different characters and consciously read it beautifully.
The orange read slowly, and I never urged him to read, patiently listening to him read. Misread, don't say anything about him, just point it out to him.
When he finished reading it, I explained it to him. When we encounter interesting places, we laugh together – there are too many places in this set of books that make people laugh.
When it was his turn to read slightly large paragraphs, as soon as he read so many words, he was afraid of difficulties, humming and not wanting to read, so I gave him three opportunities to change reading and stimulate his initiative.
<h1>The child's change is so fast that I am pleasantly surprised</h1>
However, I soon saw the effect of reading together. Yes, soon.
First, Orange became interested in reading.
I remember the first time I read it, it took us nearly two hours to read 12 pages, which is 12 pages of a small picture book!
But after reading it, as soon as I woke up the next day, Orange got up to take Tintin and read it with me. Taking the initiative to read a book, this is a rare thing, and I am very happy in my heart.
Later, this state of actively asking for reading has continued until now. As long as it was a little empty, the orange asked to read Tintin.
Then he began to gain a sense of accomplishment from reading.
Once, we were driving out and Orange saw a newspaper in the car with a piece of news with a picture of a fighter. Orange actually took the initiative to read this news, which is really unprecedented. I was a little surprised.
I quickly reinforced his sense of accomplishment: "Wow, you actually read the whole news, it's great!" You see, if you don't look at the text, just look at the picture, you only see one plane, now, is the amount of information you get a lot bigger? ”
Orange said thoughtfully: "No wonder so-and-so (Orange classmate) likes to read military articles, he said it was particularly interesting, and said that I will understand it later." ”
I didn't say anything more, there is no need to say more, this matter itself is a kind of subtle guidance. He began to feel that there was a vast and interesting world behind the words. Compared with the previous book I forced him to read, his sense of accomplishment in being able to read large paragraphs of text now stimulated his interest in reading.
Now, we've read a few Tintin books. Unlike small children who start from scratch, oranges have a vocabulary base after all, and except for the first two times when they read harder, they are now reading more and more smoothly. When encountering large paragraphs of text, I am no longer afraid of difficulties, and I almost no longer use the right to change the reading three times. Sometimes adults are busy, and he reads it himself.
We're still reading Tintin, sometimes I read with him, sometimes Dad reads with him, sometimes the three of us read together. There are dozens of books in the Tintin series, and I think that when these dozens of books are read, the reading ability of oranges should be greatly improved.
We're not in a hurry, let's take our time.
<h1>Some of my experiences</h1>
In the matter of cultivating children's interest in reading, I have gone through some detours, there have been some gains and losses, and although I cannot say that I have succeeded, I have also accumulated some experience, which I share with you here.
1. I made the mistake that many parents make, and I take it for granted that I was empiricist. Teach children to feel and instinct, how I was when I was a child, how my children will be. No matter how good your own growth experience is, you can't copy it to your children.
Every child has its own unique characteristics, and what is suitable for children is the best.
2. I find that the phrase "tree nature is straight" is not very reliable for children.
Many parents believe that although the child now has such and such problems, it will be better when he grows up and understands things.
I thought the same thing at first, but then I found that things did not go in the direction I wanted, but on the contrary, the older I got, the less habits I had to cultivate. Timely guidance and education, although laborious and laborious, is the responsibility of parents.
3. The most critical point is companionship. The growth of children is inseparable from the careful companionship of parents. Companionship is actually a fundamental way to solve many problems. I could feel that, initially, it wasn't so much that Orange liked to read as it was about reading with Mom and Dad.
The companionship of the heart is the person, the heart is there, no accusation, no judgment, total acceptance. In companionship, the child feels love, strength and support, which is very important for his initial start. The laziness that parents steal in the growth of their children will be doubled sooner or later.
4. Habit formation, if there is no interest and sense of achievement, it is too difficult to rely on perseverance alone. This is true for adults, and it is even more true for children.
Finding and nurturing a child's interest and reinforcing his sense of accomplishment in a timely manner is the biggest and most lasting motivation for him to insist on doing something.
5. Patience and care. Children's growth and change is not a one-time thing, there will be stagnation, there will be repetition, parents need to be patient, careful observation of the child's every small progress, timely encouragement and affirmation. I believe that every child has a motivation to be good, we just need to cultivate the soil and water it, wait for it to break through the soil and grow up slowly.
I am Qinglan Jun, an educator who focuses on family education and children's learning. If you like my article, please forward or collect, and I have prepared an exclusive reading package for World Book Day, which contains 100 e-books, poetry audio courses, and 2019 primary school language English mid-term test papers, which can be given to friends who need them for free. If you need to, you can send me a private message or comment directly.
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