Author 丨Ma Jianxiang
A few years ago, I experienced a failed education that I still remember vividly. One of the kids in my class lied, and there was no way I could get him to admit his mistake.
I remember that day, in order to welcome the inspection of the district organization department - folk art into the classroom, let our class go to the school's special kite tying room and New Year painting room to do a report performance, we need to review the operation process in advance.
The school brigade counselor is responsible for supervising the students in the two activity rooms, she is a very responsible and good teacher, I arranged for the students to go back to the office to correct the homework. When I was about to take the third writing class, the students of the kite group returned to the classroom one after another, but the students of the New Year Painting Group did not return for a long time. After a while, Zhang Jiaqi hurriedly came and said that the students of the New Year painting group did not know who had dyed the dye on the drawing board, and did not admit it, and Teacher Guan was angry and asked me to go and see.
I realized that the children were in trouble and hurried to the New Year's Painting Studio. The air inside was frozen, and every child was nervous and timid, his face was flushed, and he was all bowing his head, and the teacher was already frozen there. Seeing me present, Teacher Guan told me about the incident. Finally, it must have been done by the children here, and there is no big problem, it has been erased, it is not acknowledged. I understood the origin of the matter, knew that the child was frightened and did not dare to admit it, so I patiently enlightened: "The paint on the bamboo skewer should not be placed randomly, and now it is not right to pollute the drawing board." But no one can make mistakes sometimes, it doesn't matter if they make mistakes, we must have the courage to admit mistakes. It's not too late to admit your mistakes, and we'll all forgive you! Just pay attention later. "I searched hard for every movement of each child, and I could hear a needle falling from the ground, but the children did not move at all. Teacher Guan was extremely angry: "Anyway, it wasn't the teacher who did it, it must have been done by our classmates!" Admit it and you'll be fine! Don't waste any more time! I thought of the third lesson or my writing class, so I quickly encouraged: "We still have to go back to class, and now this classmate admits his mistake, we not only do not criticize him, but also praise him, first, because he has the courage to admit his mistake, and second, because he has won the study time of all of us." We encouraged him with applause! Teachers and students all applauded together, and strangely, they were all drumming their hands that were not very strong, and they lasted for a full minute, and each child's face was written with uneasiness and waiting, and I did not see anything unusual. alas! The "performance" ability is really powerful!
Teacher Guan saw my helplessness, smiled and said: "Teacher Ma, forget it, you go back to class, I hope that this student will secretly go to the office to find the teacher to admit his mistake after reflection, or write a note to secretly hand it to the teacher, none of us will say it." After I led the children back to the classroom, I told all the students about the general experience of the matter, I admitted the failure of the "Zhao'an" education, and hoped that he could take the initiative to talk to the teacher.
But after nearly a week, I was not asked to admit my mistake. I think the reason may be that in the previous family education or school education, the child admitted the mistake but incurred severe punishment. The child who made the mistake won for the time being, but it was the child who lost in the end. Because if he does not admit his mistakes, his conscience will always be condemned, and he will be like a snail, forever carrying a heavy shell, never lifting his head! How tiring that must be! Sukhomlinsky said: "Sometimes tolerance causes more moral shock than punishment." I decided to forgive the child.
At the class meeting, I solemnly said in front of everyone: "Let this matter pass, just let it pass, just let it have a flying bamboo stick, it is itself that flies to the drawing board." But I hope that this child, this time not admitting mistakes is the first and last time. In the future, no matter when you make a mistake for the second time, you must have the courage to admit your mistake, so that your conscience will feel better, otherwise you have been carrying a heavy psychological burden, and you can never let go, and the teacher is not comfortable. In this way, people should stop guessing who it is, because there is not enough evidence to guess a person is immoral. Everyone will always remember this experience, take this as a warning. Let's forgive this child, shall we? "Good!" The voice is firm and loud, I suddenly relaxed, and the he (or she) will definitely be relieved and relaxed.
The later stage of learning can be imagined, the children are well-behaved, whether in learning, discipline, health and other aspects of strict requirements for themselves, between classes are less impetuous and noisy. I saw all this in my eyes, rejoiced in my heart, and truly realized how great the power of forgiveness is!
About author:Ma Jianxiang, net name Sunshine Ah Xiang, born in 1972 in Weifang, Shandong, is a primary school teacher. Love sports, obsessed with calligraphy, love music, love reading, enjoy life.