Text / Wen Yi
Someone once said, "Unoccupied space and solitude are necessary spaces for the growth of the soul." Unoccupied time has the highest value. ”
Zhou Guoping once said: "Being alone is a necessary space for the growth of the soul." ”
Solitude is a person's most rare cultivation, which turns people's desire for the outside world into a desire for the heart.
This desire for the heart can cultivate oneself, cultivate concentration, and cultivate human wisdom.
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Being alone, being able to cultivate oneself
A life without interaction is a flaw, while a life without solitude is a disaster.
Netizen Xiao Zhang once met a friend in college.
Under the influence of friends, Xiao Zhang learned to play mahjong.
Once a friend mysteriously said to Xiao Zhang, "Take you to a good place." ”
Xiao Zhang was curious: "What place?" ”
The friend whispered, "You'll know when you go." ”
As a result, when I went to Xiao Zhang, I found that the "good place" was an underground casino.
A friend said to Xiao Zhang: "If you have a good hand, you can earn a lot, and new sneakers and new mobile phones can be obtained." ”
After Xiao Zhang listened, his heart itched, and he also wanted to make a lot of money.
In the first two rounds, Xiao Zhang won hundreds of yuan, his confidence increased greatly, and his stakes became bigger and bigger.
Who knows, the situation took a sharp turn for the worse, and Xiao Zhang began to lose.
Back and forth like this, Xiao Zhang lost a month's living expenses.
The friend also said to Xiao Zhang: "Rich and noble in the risk, it's okay, in a few days we will come again, we will be able to win back." ”
Xiao Zhang felt that the other party was reasonable, so he went home and prepared to borrow money from his parents, wanting to turn over the book at one time.
Parents were alert, because their children never asked for money so lavishly, and when pressed, Xiao Zhang told the truth.
After listening to Xiao Zhang, the parents said: "Child, be down-to-earth, and the pie will not fall from the sky." ”
A sentence woke up Xiao Zhang.
If you make friends carelessly, you will not only give time and energy, but sometimes, even lose your life.
Inferior interpersonal relationships can be said to be a kind of wear and tear on themselves, and smart people know how to choose friends and make friends.
It is wiser to cultivate yourself alone.
Jiang Shuying, who was admitted to the Shanghai Theater Academy in 2004 with the first professional score, after graduation, her classmates were actively involved in the show business circle, but she did not.
She chose to continue her studies and went to England alone.
At first, Jiang Shuying's path to study abroad was not smooth.
"Learning English made me feel a sense of frustration, I couldn't even read the exam papers," she says. ”
In order to overcome the language barrier, she chose to work in a restaurant.
In her own words: "In order to have a language environment to practice speaking, standing all day long with my feet worn out, I don't care." ”
For two and a half years, she faced the hardships of studying alone.
Finally, she received a master's degree in media economics from the University of East Anglia in the UK.
In 2018, the British Embassy in China held the launching ceremony of the "Smart Youth" project at the official residence, and Jiang Shuying was invited to attend as the project ambassador, and she received the british prime minister at the time, Theresa May.
As soon as the news came out, the fire spread all over the Internet.
A person's path to study may be lonely, but it has also made a better Jiang Shuying.
Learn to be alone, cultivate yourself, and harvest a better self.
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Being alone can practice concentration
Drucker had a saying: "If you calculate your time, you will find that most of your energy is spent on meaningless things." ”
It's a literal one.
There is such a story on the knowing.
Netizen Amin attended a classmate party, and the vegetable head in the same seat greeted Amin.
"Where is the old classmate now?" The head of the dish touched the cup with Amin.
"Small companies, not high." Amin smiled.
Before we could talk, my classmates ran over to toast the dish head.
Amin only knew that this dish head, who had not achieved as good as his own, had started doing business very early, and now had dozens of branches, and recently even large companies had found him and wanted to talk about cooperation with him.
This party Amin felt very embarrassed.
Back at the residence, Amin reflects on himself and feels that he has failed.
Amin felt he had to change, so he made a plan to read 50 books a month.
But whenever he opened the book, he either wanted to brush the circle of friends or was attracted by the network variety show, and a few hours passed like this.
The one-month deadline was up, and Amin hadn't finished reading a single book.
Many times, you don't achieve your goal, not because external things are holding you back, but because you don't have the ability to focus.
If you can't focus, you can't achieve your personal goals.
In the movie "City CountryMan", character A says to character B: "The secret of life is to do only one thing, just one thing." Only one thing is done, and nothing else is worth mentioning. ”
Some people have taken the focus to the extreme.
Li Jian, after Mizuki Nianhua was on fire in 2002, he calmly withdrew from the group.
I started working alone in a humble courtyard for five years.
Every day is reading, playing the piano, listening to music, and writing songs.
Later, he wrote high-quality songs such as "Legend", "Wind Blowing Wheat Waves", and "Strangers".
After the "I Am a Singer" program, Li Jian became a popular "Tsinghua brother".
The reporter interviewed him: "Do you think you can enter the mainstream vision from niche singers, is there any secret here?" ”
Li Jian said: "The world is too impetuous, everyone is very anxious, eager to see the results, see the harvest, but do not have the patience to spend time on cultivation, I can succeed only I am willing to be lonely, dare to be lonely." ”
When you choose to be alone and focus on what is most important, under the precipitation of time, you will bear fruitful results.
Focus, always.
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Being alone can cultivate wisdom
Socrates once said, "Ignorance is the greatest evil." ”
Ignorance caused by lack of wisdom has terrible consequences.
In 1995, a middle-aged man named MacArthur Wheeler single-handedly robbed two banks.
But the police caught him that night.
The policeman asked, "What is your motive?" ”
Wheeler was surprised and asked the police, "How did you see me?" ”
Policeman: "The camera is very clear. ”
Wheeler: "That's impossible, I've obviously applied lemon juice to my face." ”
The policeman was puzzled: "So what?" ”
Wheeler shouted, "What then, I'm invisible, lemon juice can be invisible!" ”
Yes, lemon juice can be used as invisible ink, written on white paper, and when it is dried, the handwriting will not be visible.
Wheeler had clearly misunderstood invisibility.
Wheeler's stupidity is said to have alarmed a psychologist at Cornell University, David Dunning, who did a study on it.
They found that the more stupid and unintelligent people were, the easier it was to overestimate themselves.
When you can't assess the status quo, can't make decisions, can't make the right judgments, it may be because your wisdom is not enough.
When a person is alone, in a quiet atmosphere, the heart will settle down, and in this stable state, wisdom can be cultivated.
There is a bell on the campus of National Taiwan University, which was set up by President Fu Sinian, and it only strikes 21 times a day, and Fu Sinian said: "People actually only have 21 hours a day, and the remaining 3 hours are used for meditation." ”
In ancient Rome, perennial wars and wars, the emperor led the army for almost several years.
Aurelius, the roman emperor, reigned for twenty years and was tired of dealing with wars with barbarians. And when he is alone, his favorite thing to do is to meditate.
His thoughts were about the universe, about the gods, about his own feelings in the chaotic world he was in.
He was alone, writing and thinking, which became almost a habit that accompanied him for life.
Eventually, he wrote Meditations.
Thousands of years later, the book has become a milestone in the Stoic school of philosophy, and its influence is still there.
One author once said: "High-quality solitude is not to show yourself as a maverick, but to fill your heart." ”
That's true.
Being alone cultivates wisdom and keeps yourself in a state of understanding and transparency at all times.
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Haruki Murakami loves to run marathons, and he enjoys being alone with himself when he runs, saying: "Now in my world, from here onwards, the three meters forward will end, and the things ahead do not need to be considered." ”
That's the benefit of being alone, no one bothers and doesn't have to respond to anything.
When you learn to be alone, you learn to focus on yourself, and from there you can cultivate yourself, you can practice concentration, you can cultivate wisdom.
In the end, you gain the certainty of yourself.
Being alone is the most difficult cultivation in life and is worth pursuing.
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