Morning reading | old man's friendship

　The friendship of the old man, silent and plain, must be carefully understood, even if it is not disturbed, but also let the other party know that there is him in the heart.

　　In the "Suiyuan Poetry", I read a passage: "In the winter of Yi Weidong, Yu was at the same year's table in Suzhou Taishou Kong Nanxi, talking for a long time late at night, Yu repeatedly wanted to get up, and Kong stayed bitterly, saying: 'Small sitting is better than going to the back book'. Yu wei was stunned and asked who did it. Yue: 'RenJinshi Ōtsuki 'Farewell Friend' poem also. The first sentence of the cloud: 'Speechless is another time to cry'. ”

　　These two plain poems, tapping a certain string in the center, teach the eyes to be hot. The old man subtracts all the way to the people, things and emotions he has, and there is not much left. In terms of friends, there are only a few, and it is absolute to go less. Originally, it was possible to find another color to replenish new blood, but how difficult! Regarding the last species that friends can choose freely in life, my best friend famously said: "The older you are, the more you can't afford to make friends." "It is not an economic problem, it is not that the other party is afraid that the other party cannot return the invitation to eat a private dish; nor is it a problem of feelings, and each other does not break the sleeve, but bears responsibility, which is a moral obligation." Unless it is maintained at the level of "generalization", once the deep intercourse is carried out, the same qi will go down accordingly, and it is inevitable to approach life and death. And the elderly are troublesome, to worry, to think, to support, to comfort, to pull up the radish to bring up the mud, to take care of each other's spouses and offspring. You have a three long and two short, and so do people. How many entanglements are added? Mentally, physically, and wallet (sorry, still not immune) can handle it?

　　The friendship of an old man is based on blandness. Men express their feelings, far more subtle than women, and two white-headed people will not hug each other and say "I miss you" as soon as they meet. "Seeing each other is nothing, not coming to think about the king", aptly expresses this state. Saying "nothing" is too general, "things" are there, from the rise and fall of the country to private affairs. But "no words", do not say also care. It is absolutely necessary to meet each other, otherwise the heart is not steady.

　　Men whose friendship is often calculated in half a century, the tacit understanding in their later years is derived from the "thick accumulation" of the years. From youth to middle age, the frequency and frankness of communication, old to recall, directly call "unimaginable"! Three men in my hometown, twenty years old, befriended and swore to be poets. At night, together, I don't know how many black hairs are caught, and I have to spell out a recitation poem "Song of the Great Falls". The chickens were barking all over again, the inspiration was exhausted, the cheap tobacco was smoked, and even the cigarette butts were taken apart and rolled again, and burned. The poem is still difficult to give birth, wandering around the room, accepting the ridicule of crickets. "I didn't have to smoke a cigarette, so my train of thought was broken!" Someone found the crux of the problem, so he went out, and under the faint starlight, he plucked a few dead wolf tail grasses that seemed to inspire poetry, went back to crush them, and rolled them up with cigarette paper. Take a sip and choke together with an earth-shattering cough.

　　What the old man cares most about in his heart is to know each other. "Bo Ya drum and piano, aiming to climb the mountain, Zhong Zi period said: 'Zenza, E'e Xi Ruo Taishan.'" Aiming at the flowing water, he said: 'Good, the ocean is like a river.' Understanding thoroughly and appreciating each other unreservedly, such a high-level friendship is not something that ordinary people are fortunate enough to have. Second-class, unanimous, like-minded, sitting silently for two hours over coffee.

　　The above-quoted "speechless is another time to cry, sitting is better than going to the back book", fortunately, it accurately reflects the friendship of men. Chat xing zhengnong, do not let you go, sit for a while, is not better than going back to write a WeChat bento? When the words are said, silence is not to cry. I remember a friend of the zhi youth generation, who often stepped into my house, without having to say hello, I sat on a wicker chair and read a book, at most my eyebrows were raised, meaning: "Coming? He drew a book from the bookshelf and sat on the bench and read it, not interfering with each other until the time came, he said, gone! Fifty years later, once, I returned to china for a long time, and I returned to the United States tomorrow. He had to give me a go. During the banquet, he revealed that in recent days, the blood in the urine is measured in liters, and it was originally checked today, but it was changed to tomorrow. Parting, I hugged him tightly, for the first time in my life I was so intimate with the same sex, the rugged skinny bones stung me, and my heart trembled. There are no words, only endless concerns.

　　Writing this, guilt wells up in my heart. A small number of old friends, idle in the epidemic, but also neglected to greet, very undeserved. The old man's friendship is a plant, its needs will not be directly expressed, must be carefully understood, even if not disturbed, but also let the other party know that there is him in the heart. (Liu Huangtian)