I often hear people say that what to do with making so many friends, every critical time, the most unreliable is friends, none of them are willing to help, all are white-eyed wolves, so many people have made up their minds: connections are useless, and in the end they still have to rely on themselves.
Yes, in reality, many times are like this, usually called brothers and brothers, the wine is happy, and even more, may say: "There is something in the future, although to say", but when there is a problem, find various excuses to shirk, such as: Brother, it is not that I do not help, but ........, then, there is no then.
If you think that you have eaten together, drunk together, shopped together, and given gifts to each other, this is the network, it is too child-child, this is called a child's home, angry, not called "networking".
What is a network? My second uncle said a sentence to me before, which is still unforgettable, he said: "Connections, that is, their own people, people in a boat, people with common interests, forming a circle", what is common interests? In the vernacular, just call, you have value that I can use.
Establishing a relationship, just like marriage, but also to talk about "door to door", a very simple example, Xiaoming and Xiaohua married, Xiaoming's father is a famous local entrepreneur, and Xiaohua's father is a local dignitary, of course, you can say that this is a political marriage, but, from ancient times to the present, whether It is China or foreign countries, it is like this, this is called "interest binding", a deeper level called "alliance".
The Kangxi Emperor married Sony's granddaughter, and Fang Yi'ai married Princess Gaoyang, both of which were political alliances.
In the same way, the emperor's sons married the daughters of ministers with real power, for example, Empress Cao of Song Renzong was the daughter of The Taishi Cao Xuan, and her grandfather was the founding minister of the Song Dynasty, Cao Bin, the Privy Counsellor of Zhou Wuhui.
There is also the very famous "Guanlong clique" in history, which is also a political alliance that has intermarried with each other for hundreds of years.
Of course, we are all ordinary little people, this kind of high-level political alliance, we can't play, but the principle is the same, "even if you don't care about me, you have to take care of your sons and daughters, if I cross, your married children will not be better", this is the fundamental.
I have a friend, used to open a furniture factory, an accidental fire, the inventory of the warehouse was burned off more than half, to the bank to apply for a loan, helpless interest is too high, can not accept, when the amount of trouble, his relatives lend him 3 million without interest.
Just imagine, if it is not the relationship between the children's relatives, the general wine and meat friends, will lend him 3 million, of course, it is impossible, of course, can borrow this money, but also for the future happiness of the daughter, this is the real relationship.
Perhaps, you will say, we do not have this kind of marriage, how to do, how to establish their own, useful "circle of contacts", let's go back to the original marriage politics to see, why should we marry, in fact, to put it bluntly, for me, the other party is powerful, valuable, I will go to marry each other.
As my second uncle said, you yourself must have value and strength.
What is strength? For us ordinary people, you may have a special skill, for example, you are a doctor, you are a teacher, etc., or you are related to those who have special skills.
If you want to climb the branches to enhance your own strength, then you must use your brain, how to know and contact those who have strength.
For example, if you want to establish a relationship with a company leader or boss, you have to think carefully about how to start, how to step by step, how to go from shallow to deep, how to become the leader of their own people, for them, what useful value you can provide.
Always remember that the relationship must be reciprocal exchange, not so simple as eating and drinking, some white-eyed wolves, or worthless, don't communicate, that is not connections, is a burden.