In reality, when most people are looking for a partner, the first thing that comes to mind is the family background of the other party.
As a result, whether it is marriage or divorce in the end, it is to let the child suffer and take off a layer of skin.
At the end of the day, this kind of picking is not necessarily very clever.
People who know a little bit of truth understand that no matter how good the family background is, there can be no quality.
Just staring at the other party's family background, it was simply half of the eyes.
If you want to discuss whether your children are reliable or not, you have to look at three things to ensure that you avoid detours.
01
In terms of marriage conditions, is it too good.
In reality, getting married is not just about superficial conditions, some people talk about it, what houses, cars, shops, like pie in the sky.
If you don't have some concentration and pounce on these benefits when you see them, you are likely to fall into a trap. other
I think that people are good to you wholeheartedly, but in fact, those big cakes painted before marriage may not be able to eat a single piece after marriage.
I've seen too many examples of this.
Before marriage, it seemed that the other party's conditions were excellent, but once they got married, they found that these promises were all in the mirror, and the actual situation was far behind.
When you help your child choose a partner, don't just look at the good conditions on the surface, but also have a pair of eyes to distinguish the real from the fake.
Especially when the other party's conditions are too good to believe, you should be more mindful and don't be blinded by false promises.
Score each other, the other party is also scoring you, marriage is about the reality of long-term relationship, not illusory sweet words.
02
The level of the other parent's own.
In reality, before children get married, in addition to looking at each other's personal conditions, it is more important to look at the level and personality of the other party's parents.
You can meet that kind of parents, who are not highly educated, but who are kind and have a gentle personality, and it will be relatively more comfortable to get along with such a family.
On the contrary, some families look good on the surface and have a decent family background, but after getting along for a long time, they have strange tempers and cognitive biases, which is a headache.
You must know that when you get married, the children are likely to live with each other's parents, take care of the children, and take care of their lives, which is not something that can be decided by one or two meals.
Some families, just looking at their family background, may make people think that the other party is a "golden beetle son-in-law" or "virtuous daughter-in-law", but there are various character flaws and temper problems hidden behind it.
To check the marriage for children, we must not only look at the economic conditions, but also see whether the other party's parents are reasonable people.
If the other party's parents are low-level and immature, no matter how good the family property is, it can't cover up the contradictions in the long-term relationship.
In the end, once the children find that they are difficult to communicate with each other's families, it is too late to regret it, and the cost of trying to stop the loss at that time can be heart-wrenching.
Therefore, to help children choose a partner, you can't just look at the superficial family background, but also look at the character and family atmosphere.
03
Rank in interpersonal relationships.
Marrying someone with a deep city and a lot of eyes is like tying yourself to a time bomb that can explode at any moment, and who knows which day it will blow upside down.
Living with them, you have to be careful not to be tricked everywhere.
Such a partner, where is there to accompany you to live, it is clearly here to block you.
To put it bluntly, this kind of person is like a slippery loach that can't be caught at all.
In reality, when looking for a partner for your children, it is still reliable to find those who are simple.
There are not so many scheming, and life is easier.
Marriage, in the final analysis, is the union of two families, if the other party's family is also full of routines, thinking about how to get more benefits from you all day long, then don't think about living in peace.
Those people who are deep in the city seem to think about you everywhere, but in fact, they hide a lot of small abacus.
One set on the surface, one set behind the back, hidden needles in the words, and hidden arrows in the heart.
This kind of person is not suitable for marriage at all.
With them, the short-lived sweetness may be buried by a lifetime of troubles, or see it clearly early to avoid greater troubles in the future.
Let my words come into your heart
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