In reality, most people want to live better than others, and this has not changed whether they are in their forties or fifties, or beyond.
But you have to know that there are actually three things that really widen the gap in life, and many people don't notice it at all.
Among these middle-aged people, it is common to hear about who has a higher income, whose children are more promising, and whose life is more comfortable.
These blows and blows are the daily life of many people.
To put it bluntly, this is just the tip of the iceberg in terms of quality of life.
A truly high quality of life is not just about the numbers and comparisons, it's also hidden in the small details that you can't see.
01
Relationship with children's small families.
In reality, some elderly people want to help their children reduce their burden after retirement, so they contribute money and efforts to take care of the young couple and their grandchildren, but they meet the children of white-eyed wolves.
I know an aunt who is an acquaintance who spends most of her energy on taking care of her daughter's small family after retirement.
But this young couple, not only did they not have the slightest gratitude, but they took all this for granted, and even frequently looked for opportunities to take advantage of her.
In the end, the aunt was cold, physically and mentally exhausted, and her financial resources were also emptied.
She thought that her efforts could be exchanged for some warmth and filial piety, but in exchange for indifference and ruthlessness.
When people are old, the quality of life is largely related to the attitude of small families.
When meeting a young couple who know how to be grateful, the elderly can live a stable life for a few days; But if you meet a white-eyed wolf, life will never be peaceful.
Old people, you still have to see clearly early, know how to draw a clear line, don't blindly pay, and hurt yourself in the end.
02
The ability to take control of your own money.
When people get older, they have to be more cautious about money, especially those areas that they don't know much about, don't spend money that they can't spend, and don't easily trust other people's words.
In reality, many elderly people seem to have rich experience, but they lack defense in money and are too soft-hearted, and as a result, they get themselves into trouble.
Even for relatives, you have to be more mindful and don't hand over your money easily.
When people are old, keeping money is a compulsory course.
Don't easily reveal your wealth because of the so-called family affection, otherwise you are likely to leave yourself with no one to rely on.
Instead of trusting others, it is better to keep the money firmly in your own hands, so that you will not suffer bitterly in your old age.
Society is complex, people's hearts are more complicated, we must always remember to take precautions.
03
Relationship with children.
I remember that when I visited my relatives in the hospital a while ago, there was an uncle in the same ward, although he could barely take care of himself, but when he talked about his children, his tone was full of helplessness.
The child was working in the field, so busy that his feet did not touch the ground, and during the hospitalization, he only made a few phone calls, and he did not even see him.
Such an old man, although he doesn't say it, the pain in his heart is clearly written on his face.
The reality is so cruel, when people are old, if they can have a harmonious relationship with their children and have a visit from time to time, it is really a great blessing.
But if you are like this uncle, your children are too busy to see anyone, and your life will be like a canoe on an isolated island, which may capsize at any time.
When people get old, they have to bow their heads and admit that they are no longer the young people who can take charge on their own.
When you are sick, it is difficult to climb the stairs, and some things really need the child to help you get by.
Without this care, the loneliness and helplessness of the elderly are like the cold wind in the ward, blowing cold in people's hearts.
In life, no matter how strong a person is, when he is old, he will long for the warmth from his children.
Let my words come into your heart
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