There is nothing wrong with fantasizing about being loved, it is not a manifestation of a person's psychological abnormality. The "fantasy" referred to here is more about expressing people's motives and needs.
Maslow's hierarchy of needs has also been studied in the theory that people have the need to love and belong. As long as you are human, you will have a subconscious psychology of longing to be loved, which is a very normal psychological need.
Who wouldn't want to be sick and lie in a hospital bed with someone who will take care of you and be by your side?
I don't think anyone would say no to such a relationship.
On the other hand, if a person hates being loved, he needs to pay attention to whether there is some inner trouble, which leads to the process of "not wanting to accept himself being loved".
Is it disgusting that you are incapable, have low self-esteem, and feel unworthy of being loved by others? I still suffered too much trauma, I was always abandoned and felt disheartened, and I no longer believed in love in the future, so I made defensive psychological behaviors.
Obviously longing to be loved, but the external behavior will show the process of "not wanting to be loved", and the inner activities are not in harmony.
There are a lot of such people.
I remember that I once had a friend around me, and he looked cold and very indifferent to people. But one time something happened to his family, and his family was sick and hospitalized and had no money to borrow money from me, so he showed a "longing for help" behavior.
On the one hand, he was at the end of his rope and had no choice but to do so; On the other hand, it also expresses the process of wanting to receive love from others.
I've had an accident, and I hope someone can help me and get through it with me, and I want to have someone like that by my side.
Therefore, for this kind of thing, everyone should not avoid it excessively, and feel that it is immoral for you to obtain love. There is nothing morally immoral about longing for love, it is a human need in itself.
Just like if I want to eat, I will take the initiative to get food to satisfy myself, which is a reasonable action in the human heart.
Just be aware that fantasizing about being loved is not the same as "asking for love endlessly". Some people's feelings of love are obtained through the act of exploitation and taking, and this behavior is not very reasonable.
For example, when two people fall in love, one of them is particularly eager for love, constantly asking for money and emotions from the other party, and wishing that he would be by his side 24 hours a day to meet any of his requirements.
There will be a problem with this kind of love.
It's not love, it's about satisfying one's own selfish desires and a narcissistic mentality. You are my person, you have to meet any of my requests, even if I don't do it right, you have to tolerate me and not point out my mistakes. I will always be the right person in life, you can't deny me.
If the relationship is like this, then two people will not be able to be together, and they will have conflicts and choose to break up.
The person who is exploited, he will be particularly painful, and he will not feel the feeling of respect and understanding in love. You want to be loved, I want to be loved, you are satisfied, and I am always exploited by you, so what happiness will there be for me?
The breakdown of feelings often begins with exploitation. When one partner exploits others without knowing it, and is still immersed in "I'm not wrong, it's the other party's problem", then the relationship will not be sustainable.
This is also the fundamental reason why some people do not have the ability to have intimate relationships and maintain long-term relationships throughout their lives, because they do not understand what love is, and they lack the ability to love themselves and others.
While fantasizing about being loved, we also have to learn the process of "loving others". When a person can have the ability to love others, then they will not lack love and their life will always be full of energy.