People, when you encounter bad luck, don't always throw the pot on the messy reasons outside, sometimes, the problem grows on yourself at all.
In fact, if you really want to turn your life around, the first step is to learn to throw away your rotten thoughts and reflect on them.
Only in this way can you tear yourself apart and not be trapped by your own stupid thoughts.
01
Throw away unnecessarily large expenses.
In real life, whether it is a bad marriage, a frustrated job, or all kinds of troubles in life, most of them can be traced back to the weak economic foundation.
When someone gets divorced, their money bags are empty, and as a result, the days after the divorce are like walking a tightrope on a cliff, and they are so nervous that they can't even sleep well.
But if you can understand this truth as early as possible, cut off those unnecessary large expenses, and leave some spare money on hand, not only can you live a more stable life, but also feel a lot more at ease.
In the face of a sharp drop in income, adjusting the level of consumption in time can help people get through the trough period and not make it difficult for them to sleep because of the problem of money.
To put it bluntly, if the economic foundation is stable, it will be much easier to deal with those troubles in life.
If you have a few thick passbooks in your pocket, even if there are some problems in your marriage and your work is not going well, you will not be overwhelmed by the pressure.
On the other hand, people who have no money in their pockets can set off huge waves no matter how small the storm is.
The reality is like this, don't always think that the money in other people's pockets doesn't matter, in fact, that's the confidence of their lives.
The local province of the province, the place where the savings should be saved, can live without hurry.
02
Don't always run away from reality.
In life, it is inevitable to encounter difficulties, but if you always want to avoid and indulge in all kinds of fun, the problem will only get worse.
Some people don't have a good job, and their families are a mess, so they end up soaking themselves in a late-night bar every day, living a decadent life, day and night upside down, as if in this way they can forget about real problems.
But in fact, the mess in my heart is always there, and when I wake up, I will only make myself more confused and anxious.
When people are at a low point, it is normal for people to have negative emotions and want to escape, but this escape cannot solve any problems.
After indulging in it for a long time, it is more difficult to cheer up. It's like a foot in a quagmire, the deeper you sink in, the harder it is to pull it out.
If you want your life to take a turn for the better, you must grit your teeth and muster up your energy, even if the reality is embarrassing, you have to face it head-on.
The sooner you pick yourself up, the easier it will be to solve the problem and the sooner you can get back on track.
Escaping can only make life worse and worse, and facing the problem head-on is the only way out of the predicament.
03
Throw away the mindset.
In fact, a lot of problems in life are not because others are bad, but because of their own fixed way of thinking.
It's like an old computer, the system has long been stuck, but it still refuses to update.
As a result, no matter how hard I tried, I ended up going back in circles.
For example, some people have a bitter life in their marriage, and they always feel that the whole world is against him.
The family is not harmonious, he thinks it is his wife's fault, the work is not going well, he thinks it is the boss's problem.
But he never thought that he had a cold face every day, and his family always pointed fingers at his wife, wasn't it also one of the sources of contradictions?
But this mindset is powerful, firmly tying him in place, and he can't see that he has a problem.
This kind of person lives in a world that "others can't do it" woven by himself, and he ends up having the worst life.
If the thinking remains the same, the action will be biased, and the deviation will be deviated again and again, and finally trapped in the cage created by oneself, and it is useless to blame anyone.
If you really want to change, you have to throw out the old ideas in your head.
Otherwise, no matter how hard you try, you can only go around in circles, wasting time and energy, and living a mess of life.
Let my words come into your heart
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