In the final analysis, if a mother-in-law wants her daughter-in-law to be good to herself and wants her family to be harmonious, it is not enough to just stick a hot face to a cold buttocks, you have to see the temperament of your daughter-in-law clearly, and character is the key.
In reality, the mother-in-law poured out her heart and lungs for her daughter-in-law, but she couldn't get a little gratitude, is it less?
The people in this world are strange, some people know how to repay their kindness, and some people are white-eyed wolves who eat people and don't spit out bones.
To be a man, you still have to keep an eye on it, when you meet this kind of person, you can avoid it, don't find yourself unhappy.
01
Listen too much to your mother's words and lack assertiveness.
Most of the conflicts between families are because someone is stirring up trouble behind their backs.
In reality, if a small family listens too much to the words of their mother's or in-law's family, problems are likely to emerge one after another.
I know an acquaintance who has already negotiated with his in-laws about a house, and there is no contradiction.
But she went back to her parents' house, listened to her mother's advice, and fell out with her mother-in-law when she came home.
As a result, the previous peace was all broken, and the family relationship was instantly deadlocked.
Listen too much to your mother's words, and often lack your own opinions.
And if the mother-in-law is always sowing discord on the side, the young couple will naturally quarrel constantly.
Even if the mother-in-law always likes to meddle in the affairs of the younger couple, it will also make waves between the daughter and her husband.
The reality is that many contradictions actually stem from external intervention, and the stability of a small family depends on the reason and decision of both husband and wife.
02
The woman is too vain.
In family life, if you are always compared with a family with good conditions, blindly pursuing higher material comforts, then life will be screwed up sooner or later.
Do you think, a family income is ordinary, but there is a vain daughter-in-law, who has to pursue famous brands and live a glamorous and decent life, doesn't life get tighter and tighter?
I know a relative whose daughter-in-law is like this, she always feels that she shouldn't be an ordinary person, but she is not willing to pay more for a high standard of life.
She only thinks about face, she wants this and that at every turn, and when she encounters economic difficulties, she goes back to her mother-in-law's house to ask for money, and she never knows how to be grateful.
Such vanity, like a bottomless pit, who can fill it?
In reality, most families are ordinary families, and living a careful life is the right way.
And those who are not high or low, who only focus on the wealth of others, but do not care about making money, often plunges a small family into endless contradictions and troubles.
Life does not depend on comparisons and fantasies, but on down-to-earth efforts.
03
People who are mercenary can't ask for it.
In real life, the most fearful thing about finding a partner is to meet the kind of person who gets into the eyes of money.
is like a person in the community next door to me, who pretended to be very gentle before getting married, but after marriage, he showed his true colors and was cold to his mother-in-law and sister-in-law.
It wasn't until her husband got rich and his pockets were bulging that her attitude began to get better.
If you live with this kind of person, firewood, rice, oil, and salt can be torn into a big war.
I can't live my life, and I'm always making trouble because of money.
In the long run, a bunch of contradictions naturally arise in the family.
Of course, although some people love money, they are not mercenary, know the world, and know how to understand.
This kind of person is easy to get along with, knows how to give in to the family at the right time, and will not blindly care.
But those who only have money in their eyes, they can't see anything but banknotes, and getting along with them is like dealing with a piece of cold iron, without temperature and affection.
In marriage, the attitude of two people towards money determines the atmosphere of the family.
A person who can deny his relatives for money can bring you only endless quarrels.
Such a marriage, no matter how bright it is, is cold in its bones.
So, if you want to find someone who lives a down-to-earth life, you have to find someone who understands human feelings and can see emotional value in addition to money.
Otherwise, no matter how long the days pass, it will be just a false transaction.
Let my words come into your heart
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