Text/Flying Fish
The adopted child is 100 years old, and he is 99 years old.
As a parent, when you hear that your children are going to get married, you are naturally very happy, but at the same time, you are also a little worried about what kind of person the other party is, whether it is reliable or not, your children are with each other, whether they will be happy after marriage, and other issues will also make parents start to think about it.
As parents, in fact, they want to remind their children that in the face of marriage, they should not be impulsive, but should see some things clearly before getting married, and do not enter into marriage hastily, because it is not an easy thing to manage marriage, and you can't take marriage as a bet at will.
Therefore, before getting married, you must inquire about these three things of the other party's family, so that you can really think about your children, not scheming, but foresight!
One
Inquire about the character of the other party's family.
Before getting married, it is best to inquire about the character of the other party's family, if the other party's family is not of good character, their family is not a good person, they love to do immoral things, or love to calculate others, or borrow money and do not pay it back, do ungrateful things, or always have a grudge against others, often people come to the door to make trouble, then such a family is unreliable, indicating that the character is not good, it is best not to get involved with such a family, stay away from such a family.
The reputation of a family with a bad character will not be good, and when you inquire outside, others will say that their family is not good and the character is very poor, so you have to carefully see if this is the case.
Marriage is not just a matter of two people, after marriage, you have to get along with each other's family, and it is best not to consider a family with poor character and difficulty in getting along.
Two
Inquire about how the other parent's parents are getting along.
The marriage of children will be influenced by their parents to a greater or lesser extent.
Therefore, before getting married, you must first go to see each other's parents, get along with each other's parents, and see the relationship between each other's parents clearly, if the other party's parents have a bad relationship, get along like enemies, even if there is no divorce, but it is in name only, husband and wife calculate each other, and even want to grab each other's handle everywhere, and then pinch each other, then such a parental relationship is actually very difficult to get along with, and even think that the parents are fighting each other, so as to make this family very bad.
If the situation of the original family is really bad, the parents do not want to raise their children, ignore the children, only take care of themselves, and both parties are shirking their responsibilities, then the children who grow up in such a family may be afraid of marriage and have no confidence to manage the marriage well.
If the original family atmosphere is good and the relationship between parents is good, then children who grow up in a loving family will naturally feel sorry for others and be able to give others a sense of happiness.
You must know that marriage is not a person's business, but the happiness of a family, and you must think carefully about it.
Three
Inquire about the other family's attitude towards you.
I remembered that I saw a video before, in which the girl followed her boyfriend home to meet her parents, and the girl specially prepared a gift to bring over in order to meet her parents this time.
But in the other party's home, after the other party's parents asked themselves long and short, they already understood themselves, so their attitudes began to change.
Because the other party's parents felt that they were not local, and their home was not a first-tier city, but a small remote place, the other party's parents were instantly unhappy, and then they began to be indifferent, and even said to themselves, it's not early, you should go back early.
Then the first time you go to the partner's house, the other party's parents do not warm you up, do not leave you for dinner, in fact, they are not satisfied with you, they do not agree with you, do not approve of you, and feel that you are not worthy of their family.
So in the face of a family that looks down on you, even if you like someone again, don't think about pleasing each other's parents, marriage pursues equality, and if you can't give you an equal family, you don't have to cater to it, let alone be wronged in the other party's family.
Marriage is a lifelong thing, you can't be impulsive, you want a happy family, before getting married, you have to inquire about the three things of the other party's family, and only after you really understand the situation of the other party's family can you make a decision, which is really responsible for yourself.
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