I don't know if you have found it?
Nowadays, there are more and more single young women.
There is a girl next to me who used to believe that love comes first, and without love there is no fun.
Now I slowly like being single, and even enjoy being single.
In previous times, women did not have the ability to survive independently, and had to live dependent on men, and the choice of a mate at that time was not so much love as "survival".
Nowadays, when women become more and more independent, able to solve survival problems independently, and even gradually higher than men in their careers, then love and men will become dispensable.
More and more women don't need men anymore.
A career gives you more security than a man
Han Su's original family in "Half-mature Men and Women" is unhappy, so much so that her background is inferior.
You can only become confident and strong through continuous efforts.
Work and career can give her a sense of security, and if she doesn't go to work and relax, she will feel tired.
She is very sober and understands that without a strong family backing, everything can only be fought by herself.
I also understand that all shortcuts mean a certain amount of abandonment in the end, and instead of pinning hopes on men, it is better to measure the world by yourself.
She rejected the pursuit of the wealthy Gao Peng, devoted herself to her career, and lived the life she wanted.
Career is more reassuring and more peaceful than a man.
There is no absolutely stable love in the world, but there is a stable enough career. Make yourself more and more professional and powerful, and you can live the life you want.
Hurt emotionally, unwilling to trust men anymore
My cousin had a failed marriage and didn't want to look for it again.
The man cheated on her during pregnancy, and after knowing the truth, he decisively chose to divorce.
When she heard the phrase "I just made the mistake that all men make", she only thought it was hilarious, but when she experienced it herself, she was desperate for human nature.
She didn't want to believe that the man who had sworn to her had betrayed her when she needed care and comfort the most.
Since then, she no longer dares to trust men and is reluctant to remarry.
Once I was bitten by a snake for ten years and was afraid of the well rope, I had a shadow in my heart, and it was difficult to recover.
It doesn't matter if a man has the ability to take care of himself and his children.
With a richer lifestyle, no longer pin the joy of life on love
One of my university teachers is 42 years old, single, unmarried.
She is a bookworm, books are her "companion", with the company of books, she feels that life is colorful enough, and there is no longer a need for men.
In my WeChat, a young lady added is 36 years old, single, and runs a self-media studio.
She is someone I have ever met who is very good at managing life, loves challenges, and has a colorful life.
She learned hip-hop, skiing, skateboarding, and just finished a trip around China some time ago.
Her life is really exciting enough, and she will no longer pin her fun on love.
The most feared is that people who love because of loneliness and have a lackluster life regard love as spiritual sustenance.
When the colors of life are bright enough, love is inferior.
If no one is happy when you get married, don't do it
Mo Yan said:
"Men at the bottom continue to burn incense, men at the middle level look for helpers, and men at the top challenge friends, scumbags and other poverty alleviation. Marriage is a transaction, you don't have to make it look like love."
If this is the case with marriage, why get married?
Many women are no longer willing to sacrifice themselves to become men?
Marriage, for the most part, traps the woman.
Women, after marriage, have to take care of the family, raise children, and share the mortgage, many women have no own after marriage.
And what about men? found a woman who gave birth to children for herself, and also helped them share the family chores and pressure, and she didn't suffer at all.
If marriage is a constraint for a woman, constraints, responsibility, pressure, and chicken feathers, contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, gradually out of shape and triviality of firewood, rice, oil and salt, and self that can never be found again.
Well, it's good not to get married.
In fact, whether you get married or not, whether you find a man or not, you make your own choice, and there is no good or bad.
The premise is that we know what we want, and since we have chosen, we will not regret it. That's the most important thing.
Don't aspire to be single, and envy others for company, and can't recognize yourself is the saddest.