My painful struggles in the hospital and the different confinement that I once thought would never be touched again, I admit that I had timidity and did not have the courage to face it, and today I suddenly found that by squeezing out the pus and blood flowing from the wound, the wound will heal faster and better
While giving birth in the hospital, I met my best friend in this life, her son was four days older than my daughter, we were in the same ward, we stayed together for one night, and they were discharged the next day.
Of course, we didn't have much good at that time.,It's just that we met.,It's only when the baby meets that we know each other.,I have a story with this friend in my previous article.,The following photos were taken in the photo studio except for the first two.,The rest were taken when we walked the baby together.。
The day after I got off the operating table, the nurse asked him to fetch water to wipe the mother's body, and he reluctantly did so, and praised himself: "I wiped all the dirty and disgusting things for you, I have never been so good to any woman!" ”
Is this good? Isn't that what he's supposed to do? It's like I was alone! Some people say that caesarean section is not painful, but after I was anesthetic, I was so painful that I died, and I was obviously very sleepy, but I couldn't close my eyes!
My brother and my sister-in-law came to see me in the hospital on the third day after I gave birth, and gave me a thousand dollars and fifty eggs and a set of children's clothes, and I had already paid back the money, and I wished they could stay and take care of me for a day, but they turned around and left.
After more than half a year, his brother-in-law's family gave birth, and we were still there, and my sister-in-law went to work and told me to buy a black-bone chicken stew for her to send to her brother and daughter-in-law after work.
When she came to get the chicken, she told me that his brother had something to do, and asked my brother to go to the hospital to take care of his brother and daughter-in-law. People are pro, aren't they?!
I was so hungry that I didn't fart for more than a day and couldn't eat, and then I finally farted, so I asked my father to buy me something to eat, and he took my money and went to eat a big bowl of copying hands, and only brought me back 5 cents of porridge, and even stuffed my teeth not enough to count me as a meal.
After my brother brought fifty eggs, he simply boiled a few boiled eggs for me, and I was so hungry that I could only peel them and send them to my mouth, and I couldn't move them, so I was qualified to be picky, didn't I?
The nurse saw it and scolded him, how could he give this to the mother, and how could he digest it after the operation? He learned from the people in the ward to cook poached eggs for me, and it was so hard to say how hard it was, and when the fire was so big, it was all washed out, and it was not easy to see a single egg yolk.
Later, it didn't hurt so much, but I didn't dare to fall asleep, my brother gave a thousand, and two friends came to see me and gave almost a thousand, plus the unused money taken out of the birth child, I had more than 3,000 yuan in cash under the pillow to press, I was afraid that he would take the money while I was asleep and say goodbye.
Fortunately, he has not lost his conscience, did not do that, the caesarean section could have been discharged in five days, I was too fat, the doctor did not dare to sew me without drawing the sutures, it took seven days to remove the sutures, if I had to remove the sutures after two days of discharge, it was too troublesome to toss back and forth, so we lived in seven days and removed the sutures before returning to the rented cabin.
Children generally sleep very well, but my eldest girl has been crying in confinement, and she has not been found to have any disease when she is taken to the hospital, which makes people really miserable.
Her dad will not take her except for buying vegetables and cooking, I haven't slept for 3 hours a day, I am so tired that I want to collapse the child and cry non-stop, let him help hug and coax, he coaxed the child for less than five minutes, the child still cried, he got angry and threw her on the quilt to sleep by himself.
That's the child I want, I don't care who cares? I had to coax myself, even if I was tired to death, I had to use a kettle to boil hot water on the briquette stove we burned, and every day after I was discharged from the hospital, I took advantage of the child's short sleep, and quickly rubbed myself and the child's clothes with hot water.
I'm afraid I can't find a few women in the world who wash their own clothes and cook after just over a week after giving birth, right? The market is too far away for me to walk that far to buy vegetables, and that's all he can do.
My life has always been full of internal and external troubles, dire straits, and no one to rely on
I didn't stop the child when he was going to leave after the full moon, but he didn't leave. After the divorce with debt, we could barely survive by opening a grocery store, but my dad's uncompetitive and energetic tossing at home, afraid that he would toss my mother to death, so we had to close the store and bring the leftovers home to the market to sell.
To catch the market, he had to get up early to occupy a place, he couldn't bear the hardship of getting up early, and there were still a lot of those things left at home, and I gave some to others.
He was too lazy to say, my mother had a bad temper, and when she couldn't bear it, she told him a few times, he ran away from home twice, and then came back.
In the end, when he ran away from home, he went to a famous mountain, opened a room to sleep, and sent me a message saying that he would only leave if he wanted to see me, otherwise he would buy medicine and die there.
I was so tired of being caught between my parents and him, that time he quarreled with my mother and left, and when he left, he didn't take anything with him, I packed up his clothes and pants and took him to the famous mountain, but the shameless one was reluctant to leave, and came back after my ass!
In the days that followed, in addition to not making money, he didn't seem to have any major problems, until his wife in his hometown couldn't wait for his return, and desperately applied to the court for divorce, I didn't know that he was not divorced, and knew that he had two daughters and a son at home.
At that time, his eldest daughter was over eighteen, the second daughter seemed to be twelve or thirteen years old, and his son was seven or eight years old.
He has never had the intention of taking me back to his hometown, and I don't have that idea, because he can't make money, and it costs four or five hundred for two people to go back and forth for a trip, I am a person who understands etiquette, and it is impossible to go back empty-handed, right?
After calculating it, I will go back to buy gifts, the old man will give some, and the child will give some, at least two or three thousand, he can only spend me if he has no money, and I am not rich and think it is unnecessary, but I didn't expect it to let him take advantage of the loophole and cover up the fact that he is not divorced yet.
He has always secretly been in contact with the sister in the family, and he sent the court summons to a friend in Wenjiang, and the friend forwarded it to my house.
He didn't show up for the trial, the court ruled in absentia that they were divorced, and sentenced his two children to pay 500 yuan a month in child support, he stole 500 yuan from me and put it on his own body and sent it back to his family for 1,000, and he didn't dare to steal it after I found out and said it, and never sent money back, and the children were taken care of by his ex-wife and mother.
Even if I haven't touched him, and the two children have never used his money, if he is willing to save dozens of dollars a day of cigarette money as child support, I have no opinion, after all, smoking less is good for the body, isn't it?
But I can't be so generous as to earn money for my own children and help him pay for the child support he had with his ex-wife, I don't have the ability or the energy, and I believe that no one in this world can do it, right?
In my memory, my mother-in-law called him several times, and every time he was vicious, and he couldn't hear what was said on the other end.
His son also called him and asked him for money, and if he didn't ask for much, he would only ask for ten or twenty yuan, but he didn't give any more.
My deceased husband's scum is unbeatable in the world, compared to him, the old Sea King's rank is really inferior to him, I am not an angel and can't change the demonic nature, but the days of living with me are indeed the best way for him to stay in the world
I asked him what else he was hiding from me, and he didn't say anything until he died, only telling me that he had several illegitimate children outside, that he had illicit relationships with several women in the same village, that the daughter born to the woman next door to him was also his species, and that he slept with the two wives found by his ex-wife's brother-in-law.
He also proudly said that his uncle and son were addicted to sleeping with him, and once came to the house to find him to find a place for a tryst, and it happened that his ex-wife went to the street to catch up with the market, so they were too lazy to find another place, so they ran errands in bed with their ex-wife, and just finished cleaning up their ex-wife and went home, a very exciting taste, too shameless!
He and his ex-wife had a total of five children, and the eldest daughter was not old enough to give birth to someone else, which was confirmed by his mother and son.
There is also a daughter who said that he was raised to someone in other provinces, but his mother and son said that he led it out and came back and disappeared, saying that it was lost, and I think it is very likely that he took it out and sold it!
It's no wonder that after he lay in the intensive care unit, none of his relatives were willing to come to see him, and he was not even willing to forward a link to Shuidi Chip.
When I was working at Wuniu Club, he had an Agricultural Bank card on him, and he said to buy me a battery car and let me ride back to the rental house after work at night, because I didn't agree to go to work too early in the morning, and the card was gone after he went back to his hometown once.
After his death, his stepson asked me for his death certificate and some other information, thinking of their desperation, and I really didn't want to give it.
I asked him what he wanted this information for, I just wanted him to tell the truth, even if he put 180,000 on the card at home, I was not rare, I hated cheating, and my stepson said that I looked up to him too much, anyway, he didn't believe that his father would have savings.
A few years ago, he took the household registration to our side of the street, lied to the old family that our side was going to be demolished, and he could get the money when he turned around, and maybe promised to give them a point, full of lies, no one could hear his truth, and my family has not heard of the demolition until now!
I went to Yibin to confirm in person that his son was not lying, he had a rich grandfather who came back from Taiwan and had no offspring who doted on him, and if it weren't for his eating, drinking, prostitution and gambling to be too loser, it can be said that their family was the famous rich family in that town.
No matter how much the family property was, he didn't lose it, and he had no money to make his own cattle, so he took the cattle and sold them and squandered them, and the old mother couldn't borrow money to redeem the cattle.
Thinking that everyone is a victim, in the end I didn't get stuck with those materials anymore, I said to my stepson: If there is anything good about your father, it is that we have lived together for more than ten years, no matter how much he loses his temper and blackfaces, but he has never hit me, I only remember his benefit, and I really can't think of anything else.
The stepson said that he had a bad temper to the extreme, he lost his temper all the time, he had to beat his mother every day, and he dragged his mother's hair to the wall, and his mother was dragged to a large piece of baldness.
Later, I had a little trouble with the insurance claim here, and I had to go to his hometown to meet his mother-in-law and stepson, whom I had never met.
That day, the old man was still hospitalized in the hospital for infusion, and the old man in his eighties with gray hair and thin was lying on the bed, looking so pitiful, I called my mom and she agreed, and I stuffed the 600 yuan that had been prepared for her a long time ago.
She didn't want it first, saying that I was so annoyed that I had to support the old and raise the young, I still stuffed it into her pocket, I had a hunch that I might never see each other again in this life, sure enough......
That day, when my mother-in-law finished the infusion, my stepson took us to a private room he had booked in town, and we sat down and talked a lot in addition to doing what we had to do on that trip.
Of course, the most talked about is the various evil deeds of my husband before his death, and the two friends who drove with me were speechless, and they refreshed their three views, and everyone is usually so familiar with him that he still has that side.
The stepson said that he was the one who couldn't stay at home, and always wanted to get up and run out, and once took his eldest sister out and threw her into a noodle shop and ran away from the back door.
Fortunately, the child was not lost! Is this what one should do? He said that he had never been so good to a woman as I was, and I didn't believe it at all before, so if he was so good to me, could he bear to put all the burden of life on me?
Now I believe that his so-called goodness is not compared with other responsible and responsible men, but compared with his former personality!
That day, when we talked about the fact that all of him was in pain, it was as if we were telling someone else's story, and hatred and love were all gone away with the passing of his life......
Note: What I have said is something that can be said in the open, and everyone around his family knows about it, and there are some worse things, for the sake of the face of the still alive, I can't say it, please forgive me.
I am not an angel, and there is no way to change the nature of a demon, but it is undeniable that the days of living with me are the best for him to stay in this world. (ENDS)