As the saying goes, there are times in life when you have to have it, and there are times in life when you don't have to force it.
If you are destined to have such a thing, then you only need to work hard for a while, and you will get what you want. It's fate that you can't have such a thing, and even if you try so hard, you still get nothing.
What we deserve and what we don't deserve is not something that we mortals can say. If people had the final say on everything, wouldn't there be no poor people in this world?
Poverty is not necessarily caused by lack of effort. Migrant workers on the assembly line of factories work more than ten hours a day, and they are not necessarily rich.
This is called "life". If you have a life, you will have something. Whether you are poor or rich, you are all "not at all".
There is no time in life to ask for it. These things don't belong to you, it's time to let go.
1. Unbelievable fate.
From the moment of birth, the gears of fate began to turn.
Who our parents are is not a choice for us, but an arrangement for reincarnation; How our original family is is not something we can change, but a choice of fate.
In the process of subsequent growth, we will meet classmates, teachers, friends, colleagues, leaders, lovers, descendants, and other miscellaneous people one after another.
We didn't know we would meet them until we met them. After meeting them, we suddenly realized that our fate was related to them.
There is a fate to meet thousands of miles away, but there is no chance to meet on the other side. There is fate, even if everyone is separated from each other, they will also meet. There is no fate, even if you live next door, you won't know each other.
There are always people who regret not getting it, or the fate they have lost. But they all ignore one point, they can't get it, or they have lost it, this is the end of fate.
For the fate that has ended, respect is good. As for attachment, it will only make you miserable and meaningless.
2. Wealth that exceeds one's own strength.
It has been suggested that everyone can only earn wealth within their own cognitive range, but not wealth outside their cognitive range.
What is "cognitive range"? What you are good at and what you know is the scope of cognition. For example, if you are good at trading stocks, then you will make money in the stock market.
But if you are not good at stock speculation, and blindly follow the trend, it is easy to become a leek in the stock market, harvested by others, and most of your life savings may be wasted.
I know that there is a risk in doing something I am not good at, but why do countless people still do it? Because most people have a fluke mentality, thinking that they will be favored by fate.
To put it mildly, if you were really favored by fate, you would have been born with a golden spoon in your mouth, and you would have no worries about food and clothing, so why worry about how to make money for three meals a day?
Most people are just ordinary people with limited abilities. To be able to eat your own piece of soup in the field you are good at, you are already Amitabha.
People, it is better to be self-aware. Don't think too much about wealth that exceeds your ability, otherwise, your life will be thinner than paper.
3. The extravagant hope of daydreaming.
When making a wish for the New Year, many people's wishes are to "get rich overnight" or "become popular overnight".
Whenever I see the words "get rich overnight" or "become popular overnight", I think it's a little funny. First of all, if you don't have a chance, how can you get rich overnight? Secondly, how can it be possible for ordinary people to become rich overnight?
At this time, some people will retort, you look at the XXX Internet celebrities on the Internet, who are from the grassroots, and earn millions or tens of millions a year, can't others do it?
Those who refute it in this way are actually caught up in "survivorship bias". Only a few people are successful, but not many ordinary people who are not successful.
I can say that in human society, the people who can survive are always a minority. 99% of ordinary people, unless they are genetically mutated or eat the dividends of the times, are the lives of the working class.
As an adult, it's better to live a "realistic" life, and not to have unattainable "daydreams" all day long.
The protagonist of the novel can be opened by the golden finger and counterattack life. But the problem is that in real life, 99% of ordinary people are tricks, and goldfingers are just a luxury.
Fourth, the paranoia that backfires after hard work.
Mortals have a flaw that they can afford to take and not let go.
A young man falls in love with someone of the opposite sex and spends a lot of energy, time and money. But in the end, others still don't like him and go their own ways with him.
Could it be that it is useful to stalk after the fact? It's definitely useless. Others don't like him, even if he pays with his life, others still don't like him.
The reason why people can only afford to take it but can't put it down is because the process of being able to afford it satisfies their own desires and needs, and the process of letting go will cause a huge psychological gap.
For example, last year you earned 200,000, this year you only made 100,000. This reality gap in income will lead to a psychological gap. When the gap reaches a certain level, people become paranoid, irritable, and mentally exhausted.
Life is in the world, do your best and obey the destiny of heaven. It is not necessary that what we cling to can change something; It doesn't necessarily mean that we can get what we get if we struggle with something.
Do your duty well and be worthy of the conscience of heaven, and you will have no regrets.
Text/Shushan has deer