We often hear a saying:
"A man who loves you, he will take the initiative, if he can't even take the initiative, most likely he doesn't love you."
However, there are no absolutes in everything, and sometimes, a man's lack of initiative is just a manifestation of deep love, and it depends on the specific situation before making a conclusion.
Only by figuring out the truth, you will not miss the person who loves you, and you will not miss fate, but unfortunately, love is the most difficult to guess, once you guess wrong, there will be no future.
Sometimes, a man's "not taking the initiative" is not that he doesn't love you, but that he loves you to the bone and is really emotional!
1. Don't take the initiative to end the chat
The two of them chatted, and they were fine a second, but in a blink of an eye, they disappeared, and you thought he had something to leave, but in the end they didn't wait for him.
But there is another kind of man, he will not take the initiative to end the chat, as long as you don't say goodbye, he will continue to chat with you until you take the initiative to say the end.
When you meet this kind of person, you may say, he is really annoying, pestering you every day, but then again, as long as you want to say, he will always be there, and this kind of security is not something that everyone can give you.
To put it bluntly, if a person didn't really love you deeply, he wouldn't have done this, and he would probably have disappeared long ago, and you couldn't find a trace of it.
My friend Guoguo's boyfriend is like this, as long as Guoguo doesn't say that she is tired and sleepy, he will chat with her, maybe the two of them don't have a match, or they are accompanied by the screen, she is also very satisfied.
What a woman wants is nothing more than a sense of security, if you don't take the initiative to end the chat, it means that you value her in your heart, then, she will naturally think about your goodness and give you more love in return.
Just like Guoguo's boyfriend, he doesn't have nothing to do, it's okay to lie down and watch dramas, or find friends to play games, but he chose to be with you, which means that in his heart, you are the most important.
A man doesn't take the initiative to end the chat, he really loves you to the depths, so he doesn't want to leave you alone, he wants to accompany you more and guard you.
2. Don't take the initiative to quarrel with you
When two people are together, it is inevitable that there will be quarrels, but some people will not take the initiative to quarrel with you, they are afraid of making you angry, so they are willing to let you.
Some men will feel that this is very cowardly, and it is obviously not his fault, so why let it? But there is no right or wrong in love, some are just mutual concessions, if both people are frozen there, then this relationship will not last long.
I watched a video and was very moved:
Every time a girl loses her temper, he always stops after a few words, not that he can't argue, but he doesn't want to quarrel, it hurts each other's feelings too much.
He said to the girl every time: "Baby, let's not quarrel, okay, I don't want to see a sad you, and I won't take the initiative to quarrel with you." ”
He did what he said, in the year that the two got along, the boys did not take the initiative to quarrel, of course, there will inevitably be small frictions in life, and he also has a temper, but as long as he thinks that the girl will be sad, he will forget it.
As for the girl, at the beginning, she would also prove her status in his heart by quarreling, but seeing the boy's attitude, she also relented, and forgot all the things she wanted to quarrel about.
Sometimes, he doesn't take the initiative to quarrel, he really loves you too much, and he loves you so much that he is afraid of losing you, so he would rather accommodate you a little more, and it will pass.
In the same way, he also believes that you can feel this heart, and thus achieve his goal, so what does it matter if you let one go?
If you really love someone, you will be cautious, for fear of losing each other, which is an instinctive reaction to love deeply.
If he is willing to put your joys, sorrows and sorrows first, and will not care about you, then you should understand his heart and not disappoint his heart.
Not everyone can meet such love, if you are lucky enough to meet it, then cherish it and believe that he can give you the happiness you want.