I am from Huangjiawan, the village is called Huangjiawan, and the people in the village are basically surnamed Huang, only a few other surnames, our old Li family is even more thin, in addition to my father's two brothers, there is also a cousin.
My father's generation was born in the forties and fifties, my father was the eldest brother, my cousin was the second, and my uncle was the eldest.
Because my grandfather's share died early, my father, as the eldest brother in the family, had to help pull the two younger brothers, and he still had a little prestige in their eyes.
By the time I was born, all three of us were in harmony and still lived in the ancestral house left by our elders. In the middle of the hall, next to the uncle is the uncle, the innermost is our house, and the other end of the hall is the uncle's house.
When I was 6 years old, my cousin and uncle had a big fight.
At first, there was no big problem, but after returning from work after dark, the two brothers drank and chatted on the steps at the entrance of the hall with a bowl of sweet potato wine, and they didn't know why they argued.
Because after a tiring day and drinking hard wine, they became a little drunk, and they were usually hot and hot, and they quarreled without knowing what to say.
At that time, my cousin had already given birth to two sons, my uncle had been married for more than a year, and my aunt had just given birth to a daughter, which was my cousin.
In the countryside in the sixties and seventies, the concept of preference for sons over daughters was very strong. In addition, our old Li family is used to being thin, and my cousin gave birth to two sons, and he thinks that he has made a great contribution to the inheritance of the family, so he is more confident when he speaks, and his voice is much higher.
And the uncle only gave birth to a daughter, although it is still the first child, and there is a chance to regenerate, but in front of the cousin, I always feel that I have a little lack of confidence.
It just so happened that my father was not at home that day, and the two of them quarreled and said ugly things, and my uncle scolded my cousin for being a "water pig", which means that he has strong reproductive ability.
When my cousin heard this, he also picked up ugly scolding, saying that you only gave birth to a daughter, who knows if it will be a "cut off generation" (extinction) in the future.
Uncle Cousin's words really poked my uncle's lungs, and I was immediately furious, and I was about to fight with Uncle Cousin as soon as the wine bowl fell. Fortunately, my father came back in time and slapped each of them on the spot, and the two red-eyed people dispersed.
The next day, under the auspices of my father, I called my cousin and uncle together, and asked them to speak clearly, so that they could not leave a grudge in their hearts. Our old Li family is originally a small number of people, and if we don't know unity, we will be bullied by others.
On the surface, both of them reluctantly agreed, and later it seemed that there was indeed no obvious estrangement.
But about a week later, something happened to our ancestral house - my cousin, who was born before the full moon, was given away by my uncle!
It was a very coincidental scene, I had just turned six years old at the time, and I had nothing to do anyway, and I liked to go to my uncle's house to tease that hairy cousin.
My cousin couldn't even fully open her eyes, so I touched her lips with my fingers, and she would unconsciously suck on my fingers.
But that morning I came back from playing outside for a while, and my mother was cooking lunch in the kitchen, and I still went to my aunt's house to see my cousin. But I only saw the empty "shaking nest", but the aunt was half lying at the head of the bed and crying.
I casually asked, "Where's my sister?" My aunt glanced at me and told me weakly: Xiaojun, there will be no sister in the future.
At that time, I also understood what it meant, why did I have no sister so well? So I ran home and asked my mother what was the matter.
The mother was so shocked that she didn't even have time to throw away the fire stick in her hand, and ran to the door of her aunt's room to ask what was going on.
Under my mother's questioning, my aunt said the reason why my mother took a deep breath and became angry:
The husband gave his daughter away.
In fact, even in the eyes of a child like me, my uncle did not discriminate against his newborn daughter, and every time he came back from work, he always had to hug her before doing other things, but why did he give her away today?
The aunt choked up and told the cause and effect......
It turned out that since the quarrel with my cousin that day, although after my father's mediation, there seemed to be no sequelae on the surface, but a thorn was buried in my uncle's heart: that is, to take off the hat of "truncated seed".
My mother continued to ask where the child was gone, what kind of family it was, when it left, and who went on a rampage.
My aunt answered them one by one, and finally, my mother asked her, "What about the second brother, where did he go?"
The aunt sighed again: after the child was taken away, he also took the firewood knife and carried it into the mountain.
A couple in Shihua Village, Changtang, who learned about taking away their children, were probably around forty years old, and they had been walking for more than an hour.
The mother didn't think about it, and yelled at her aunt: What's the use of crying? It's the blood of our old Li family, I can't ignore it as an uncle, even if you don't want it, I will grab it back.
After speaking, the mother didn't even return home, so she jumped off the floor and ran all the way in the direction of Changtang.
When I was six years old, I was barefoot, and when I saw my mother going out, I ran with a muffled voice. Not to mention, my speed was not slow at first, and I was not even dragged down by my mother far.
The mother and son walked out of the village one after the other, and my mother soon found me, turned around and waved at me and shouted: Go back, I'll go and snatch your sister back, I can't carry you away.
But I didn't know what medicine I took, so I didn't care about my mother's obstruction, so I just kept my head stunned and continued to run behind. My mother had no choice, she scolded and scolded me, but she didn't care about me anymore, and she looked back at me for a long time, but she didn't slow down under her feet.
Our house is about fifteen or sixteen miles away from Changtang Shihua Village, and it is still a simple gravel road.
Although it is a road, except for a few shuttle buses to the county seat in the morning and evening, there are only sporadic trucks or tractors at other times.
According to the mother's estimate, the couple should not be able to walk fast with the child, only walking for more than an hour, we walked faster, and we could catch up on the way.
But after all, I was only a six-year-old child, and I could keep up at first, but I couldn't walk two or three miles.
My mother looked back a few times, scolded me in hatred, turned around and put me on my back, and the fire stick was lying under my ass as a seat.
Even though she was carrying me, my mother's feet weren't necessarily much slower. I leaned on her shoulder and looked ahead, hoping to spot my cousin sooner.
My mother carried me on her back for three or four hours, and then ran to the entrance of Shihua Village.
Luckily, the couple holding their cousin was finally stopped at the ferry.
Without saying a word, my mother put me on the ground, pointed at the other party with a fire stick in her hand and shouted: Don't go, I am the child's aunt, and I have something to say to you.
The other party is not flustered, he should also have confidence, and the child in his hand is not stolen and robbed, but is willing to be given by other parents.
Besides, after crossing the river, you will go home, the strong dragon does not suppress the head snake, and the husband and wife are still afraid that you will not be a woman?
The mother approached them, and did not say anything against them, but the purpose of her visit was clear:
We won't give away the child, we must take it back today, delay you for half a day, I will give you wages, and then take out twenty yuan from my pocket, stuff it directly into the hand of the man holding the child, and "snatch" my cousin without saying anything.
When the man came to his senses, the mother held her cousin in one hand and pointed at the couple with a fire stick in the other, saying:
My words have been made very clear, if you want to snatch it back, I am not afraid of making a big mess, and the stick in my hand will not recognize anyone.
At that moment, I was hiding not far behind my mother, and I felt that her back was extremely tall.
There are a lot of people watching the excitement on the side, and the husband who is responsible for supporting the ferry is still from our township, and it is really rare for two families to "rob" their children in the blue sky and day.
There was a lot of gossip in the crowd, but most of them were for our mother and son.
After all, in the countryside, everyone has a strong sense of locality, and people who belong to the same township are really easy to burst out of cohesion when facing outsiders.
The couple was helpless, the man still had the 20 yuan bill in his hand, his eyes kept staring at the cousin who was holding my mother, and finally said helplessly:
Since you want to take the child back, then I can't ask for your money, what is it if I take your money?
The man was also a man, and after speaking, he crumpled the paper ticket into a ball and threw it at my mother's feet, and left with his wife dejected.
My mother held my cousin in one hand and a fire stick in the other, said some words of thanks to the person who had just helped, and walked back with me.
It's just that on the way back, I don't know how many scoldings I received, and it was my mother who complained that I couldn't walk.
When I got home, it was already dark, and when I used our local language to call it "chicken blindness", my cousin who was holding her mother's hand, although she begged for milk to drink at a well-wished house on the way, should be hungry now, and she has been crying.
As soon as we got back to the door of the hall, my aunt rushed out like crazy and took my cousin by the hand, not knowing what she was shouting.
Not long after, my father ran in from outside with my uncle, and as soon as my uncle entered the house, he snatched the daughter who was nursing in my aunt's arms, and yelled like crazy: I am not worthy of being a father, I am blinded by lard......
It turned out that since he quarreled with his cousin and was scolded for "cutting off generational seeds", his uncle has been discussing with his aunt every night to give his daughter away first, so that he will have a greater chance of having a son.
As long as you give birth to a son, you can raise your eyebrows in front of your cousin, and the wronged anger you received that day can be repaid in double respect.
The aunt didn't have any opinions, and she didn't know how to agree, so the uncle contacted the couple in Shihua Village, which was a little farther away, so there was today's turmoil.
In this way, my cousin, who was still in infancy, was snatched back by my mother. For months, my mother would bring my cousin to my house whenever she had time.
Except for the belt she gave to my aunt when she was about to feed, my cousin's straw nest was kept almost always in my house.
My uncle didn't dare to come out, and he had to say good things to my mother with a smiling face. Because as long as he came alone to hold the child, he would be cut by my mother: I knew this was the case, why did I give her away at that time? You don't want me to raise ......
Of course, this is just a warning to my uncle. But my cousin grew up in such an atmosphere, and from the beginning of her babbling, my mother was indispensable in her mouth. When she was a little older, she became more affectionate with my cousin.
Later, we both went to school, and by the time my cousin was in junior high school, I was already a freshman.
Although my parents gave birth to our two siblings, what I didn't expect was that both of us were admitted to university one after another, left our hometown, and left our aging parents in that mountain chong.
Every time my sister and brother come home, we have a guilt that we can't hide for our parents. But my cousin naturally comforted our brother and sister:
Brother, sister, don't you have to worry, don't you still have me at home? I will not let my uncle and aunt be wronged.
Sure enough, later my cousin was admitted to the university, and her academic performance was very good, but she only filled in one teacher's college, and the school was in our city, and after graduation, she was assigned back to teach in the middle school in the town.
Ever since my cousin started working, almost everything that happened to my parents has fallen on her.
Whether it is before getting married or after starting a family, I go back to my parents' house almost every week. In her words, there are still four or five old people in the family (my cousin has died, and my aunt is still alive), so I can't do without a young man to take care of her.
No, when I went back to my hometown this time, I heard a burst of laughter from the courtyard of the old house before I entered the door, and it was my mother laughing. I deliberately didn't make any noise, and stood in the doorway and watched:
Her mother, who is nearly 90 years old, has a basin of water on the low table in front of her, and her cousin, who is almost 50 years old, is washing her hair with her sleeves rolled. But his mouth was saying: Auntie, why did you grow a few more black hairs?
A little beside him, my father sat on a wicker chair, and my uncle and aunt were talking to him ......#长文创作激励计划#