Text/Flying Fish
In this materialistic world, in fact, many people are confused by all kinds of temptations, inflating their desires, and for a while, they only care about their own thoughts, but ignore what others need most.
In the matter of choosing an in-law family, many parents always use the wrong way, thinking that this is for your good, and you can live a good life by choosing this family, but they do not see the other party's personality clearly, and they do not see the real situation of the other party's family.
As parents, they naturally hope that their children can live well, but parents should also show respect in the face of their children's choices.
In fact, parents, as people who have come over, want their children to be able to meet good people, and when the children have not yet been married, and when they reach the age suitable for marriage, they will be anxious, and they want to ask someone to introduce the child to the object.
Then when parents introduce their children to their partners, it is when they choose their in-laws for their children.
Therefore, when choosing an in-law family, pay attention to these 4 details of the other party's family to ensure the first hurdle for the marriage of your children.
One
Pay attention to the way the other person speaks, and see the inner cultivation.
When parents choose a partner for their children, they also choose their own home.
Then when others introduce each other, parents should pay attention to some situations in the other party's family, such as the way the other party speaks, and the personality of the other party's parents.
If the other party's parents are very mean-talking people, do not know how to respect people, do not know how to take care of other people's feelings, and look down on people when they speak, then such a family is difficult to get along with.
The way of speaking is the embodiment of cultivation, although it is said that many young people do not live with their parents now, but their parents' personalities are too strong, not easy to speak, so it is difficult to get along, after marriage, they cannot leave the family, and they will have to get along with their parents, and the way their parents speak does not know how to respect people, which will make children be wronged.
Therefore, when choosing an in-law family, you should also look at the details of the other party's parents' words, and find a sensible parent in order to have a happy family.
Two
Pay attention to the other person's attitude.
When choosing an in-law family, you should not only look at the external conditions and material conditions, but also look at the other party's attitude.
If you see that when the other party encounters something, they will only rely on their parents, will only rely on others, and they choose to escape, choose to retreat, and choose to shirk responsibility, then such a person is not worth entrusting.
A person's attitude towards things is the manifestation of character.
A person with good character will naturally face things positively and optimistically, and will dare to take responsibility, know what it is to share weal and bene, and will also be kind to others, know how to leave room for others, have a pattern in handling things, and have foresight, is a very good person.
Three
Pay attention to the relationship between the parents of the other person's family.
When parents are choosing a partner for their children, they also need to inquire about the relationship between the parents in the other family.
If the relationship between the parents is not good, or even they are already in their own ways, each playing their own games, and the parents each have their own calculations, always competing with each other, always not putting each other in their eyes for the sake of interests, and there is no love and goodwill, then in such an intriguing family, the relationship between the parents is also complicated, which will make the child's character weaker.
If the parents of the other family have a good relationship and are very affectionate, then the family is also very warm.
Just like Huang Zhenhua's family in "The Story of Rose", his parents' relationship is very good, his parents are sensible, distinguish between right and wrong, and love their children very much, their home has always been very warm, and their parents are also very tolerant, able to tolerate and accept their daughters-in-law and sons-in-law, and they are the same as their families, so they will be happy when they enter such a family.
Four
Pay attention to the other party's three views, and the Tao is not the same.
When choosing an in-law, it also depends on whether the other party's three views are suitable for you, two people with different concepts, even if they are together, it is very short-lived, and at a certain time, there will be all kinds of contradictions, and if you can't mediate, you can't get along for a long time.
The fit of the three views is the key to a happy marriage.
Two people with the right three views, mutual understanding, mutual tolerance, mutual support, mutual respect, mutual appreciation, there will not be too many contradictions together, there will be a common topic, they can share together, and they can also recognize each other's concepts, then the marriage can be happy and harmonious.
Choosing an in-law family is not only about choosing a partner for your children, but also about making the first step of happiness in life for them, so that children can find a truly happy family.
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