Everyone wants to live a smooth and prosperous life for the rest of their lives.
But life is destined to have ups and downs, and even fall into a pit.
Of course, don't worry too much, God will give us a key to solve a problem.
According to the changes in your life, you can make timely adjustments, and you can go with the flow in good times and bad.
01
A life that can't stop losses hits walls everywhere.
In 283 BC, the state of Qin gradually became stronger after several generations of management.
King Qin Zhaoxiang believed that he was a strong man, and the surrounding princes should submit to him.
He sent people to Zhao to ask for the priceless "Heshi Bi", and in return for several cities.
King Zhao Huiwen sent his minister Lin Xiangru to Qin with He's Bi to negotiate.
Lin Xiangru took the He's Bi, looked at the big column, and said, "You give the city to Zhao Guo first, otherwise I will smash the He's Bi." ”
King Qin Zhaoxiang was reluctant to make peace with his family, so he wronged himself, bathed and changed his clothes, and then took out a map and said that he would give the city there to Zhao State.
At this moment, King Qin Zhaoxiang found that Lin Xiangru had sent He's Bi back to Zhao, and felt that he had entered a scam.
As the saying goes, "If one plan fails, another plan is born." ”
King Zhaoxiang of Qin sent people to the state of Zhao, saying that a grand banquet would be held in the pond outside the West River, and King Zhao Huiwen would participate. From then on, everyone became allies and enjoyed life together.
King Zhao Huiwen took Lin Xiangru and rushed to Mianchi and found that what Qin had put forward was the "Hongmen Banquet".
King Qin Zhaoxiang took the lead and asked King Zhao Huiwen to play the serpent to cheer everyone up. He also asked the literary and historical officials to record: "The king of Qin and the king of Zhao met to drink and ordered the king of Zhao to play the seer." ”
The word "order" reflects the strength of King Qin Zhaoxiang and makes people proud.
Lin Xiangru took a step forward, approached King Qin Zhaoxiang and said, "I am five steps away from you, if I go to the extreme, I am afraid that blood will splash on you." If you do, I can give up on such thoughts. ”
As a last resort, King Qin Zhaoxiang knocked on the rope. Immediately disgraced, he could only return to the Qin State in disgrace.
Seeing a series of actions of King Qin Zhaoxiang, it reminds people of the "crocodile effect" - if a crocodile bites a person's foot, the person will use his hand to slap the crocodile, wanting the crocodile to let go of its mouth.
The crocodile does not let go, but bites the person's hand and foot at the same time.
Asking for "He's Bi" was already humiliating, but he was unwilling to do so, and held another banquet, which led to the second humiliation. This is what a person looks like when they are hitting a crocodile.
Similar situations often happen in our lives.
Let's say you lose a dime and you go back and look for it. I also took a taxi for this purpose to get to the place where the money was dropped. The taxi cost twenty yuan.
For example, if you don't do a good job, you are criticized by your boss, you get angry, you go back to the office, you hit the computer hard, and the computer is damaged, and the information in it is gone. When you get home, you get angry and yell at your son, and he cries, and the whole family starts up.
If evil things can't be stopped, there will be a chain reaction, and the damage will continue to expand.
02
A life with timely stop loss will naturally succeed.
Lin Xiangru helped Zhao Guo and dealt with King Zhaoxiang of Qin twice, both of which were successful, so he was promoted to Shangqing.
There is an old general in Zhao State, named Lian Po, who thinks that he has been fighting for many years and has not been a secretary, so why did Lin Xiangru rely on his three-inch tongue to do it? It's so unfair.
Lian Po is in the court, and he is similar to Lin everywhere.
Lin Xiangru saw the menacing Lian Po, so he took the initiative to back down and spoke very cautiously.
For a while, Lin Xiangru took sick leave, did not go to the court, and when he saw Lian Po's shadow, he immediately walked away.
Everyone thinks that Lin Xiangru was afraid of Lian Po and became a coward.
Lin Xiangru said: "I am a literati, Lian Po is a military general, and Zhao Guo needs both civil and military skills to be strong." If I work against Lian Po, it will be an internal bar, allowing outsiders to take advantage of it. ”
When Lian Po heard Lin Xiangru's words, he was ashamed and took the initiative to plead guilty.
Obviously, Lin Xiangru knows how to "stop loss". The method he used was to take the initiative to back down and sacrifice part of his interests.
Some economists, who have observed the behavior of crocodiles, linked them to real life, and put forward a way to deal with crocodiles - the best way to get out of trouble is to lose a foot, don't do it, and don't have any luck.
Lin Xiang's approach coincides with the method of dealing with "crocodile bites".
He has been hurt, but he is not angry, he is not brutal, but he is "not to blame for the past", and he gives up the evil that has happened.
Following the "crocodile effect", we can get many ways to deal with the scourge.
First, stay calm and see the situation clearly.
Being bitten by a crocodile, under impulse, there is no good way.
You calm down and think about the habits of the crocodile and what the disparity between yourself and the crocodile is. You're not going to do anything like an egg hitting a stone.
Second, weigh the pros and cons and make a decision.
Is it important to break the net when the fish dies, or is it important to preserve the strength?
Is it better to keep your head down, or is it better to be strong?
There are pros and cons to all kinds of problems, and once you have the right judgment, you will not continue to lose.
"When the interruption continues, the chaos is endured", hesitant people, in the whirlpool, have not been able to get out, or do not have the courage to go out. This continues to victimize. Get out as soon as possible, break off the past, and it will be easy.
Third, take retreat as advance and start anew.
Since you've failed, accept it. Since you can't fight, it's better to give up. You seem to have some negative thoughts, but in fact, you have lowered your posture and learned to back down.
"Caigen Tan" said: "Zhang Ben who lives in the world and makes one step high, and regression is progress." ”
It is necessary to believe that people who would rather be wronged for a while will not be wronged for a lifetime.
03
The writer Friedrich Nietzsche once said, "What doesn't kill you will make you stronger." ”
Life is inherently fragmented, and you don't have to strive for anything flawless. Throwing away what is destined to be lost, what you have preserved and what you may preserve, is not perfect, but it is also beautiful.
In life, crocodiles are not scary, what is scary is that you have to defeat the obsession of crocodiles.
Knocked over a glass of milk, nothing, pour another glass.
Lost the sunset, nothing, waiting for the stars and moon.
Author: Cloth Clothes Coarse Food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
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