Life is just an experience, you don't have to be perfect, slowly accept the dark parts of yourself, forgive yourself for being dull and mediocre, allow yourself to make mistakes, accept impermanence, at any time, don't put too many labels on yourself, it will only make the complex personality symbolic, and desperately bloom with regrets This is the only way to reconcile with yourself.
You should understand that whatever you can't get doesn't belong to you in the first place. The more you care, the more it will torment you. There is a good saying: "The biggest cage in the world is the obsession of the heart." "Freedom and happiness belong only to those who have no desires and no desires. If you can't get it and you can't let it go, it will only increase the pain and suffering.
Are those worthwhile for you to forget, toil, self-dissolve, ask for but can't, let go of it will be better for yourself, more relaxed, or will you have no goal from now on, become empty and boring? But life will always give you new experiences, new encounters, new motivation, and saying goodbye to obsession is also saying goodbye to the past, let the past stay in the past, or transform it in another way and absorb it.
If obsession becomes the driving force for your growth, it's still good, but if you feel tired and feel too tormented by yourself, let it go, let it go ~ After experiencing it, it will be light and light, and it will be really nothing if you get through it.
Obsession is only the appearance, the sense of lack in the heart is the root, through the appearance to see the psychological lack behind the healing, heal your own spiritual wounds, the heart is complete, you will naturally let go of the obsession.
Those things that can't be put down, just throw them aside, and talk about them another day!
Don't be too far away, too big with your desires and goals as your driving force. Instead, it is driven by the near, obtainable, high-success rate, and assured, so that you can get stronger motivation and reduce obsession.
The best release in this world is to let go of yourself, don't get along with the past, because it's already over, don't get along with reality, because you still have to live, those who come should be sorry, those who go should be released, life is a journey, not all people go to the same place.