1. Hitting a straight ball is a high-energy performance
Speaking directly does not mean that you are offensive in speaking, it does not mean that you are impolite or disrespectful, but you directly express what you think, do not detour around the corner, do not evade communication, and do not let people speculate.
If you have any ideas, be open and honest, clarify each other's intentions, reduce communication costs, and improve expression efficiency, so as to get along and act better.
If a person doesn't say anything all the time, or leaves half and half of it, which makes people think about it with great effort, or if it is expressed in an extremely subtle and subtle way, it makes people rack their brains to understand, it will make people feel very tired.
In ordinary life, most of them are trivial and detailed, or emotional distress, neither like walking on thin ice in the workplace, nor like the changing situation in the shopping mall, and there is no social place where the fish and dragons are mixed.
Refusing to communicate in everything, speaking impatiently, covering up, and keeping silent after confiding half a word, it is easy to turn into cold violence in the future, which is harmful to the development of the relationship.
Such a person is essentially an avoidant attachment personality, does not actively solve problems when they arise, blindly relies on others to deal with them, but they act as the shopkeeper, neither ask nor participate, and watch the person who wants to solve the problem anxious and angry, and they also turn a deaf ear, which is actually a manifestation of not taking responsibility.
And such people often have very low energy, either they are used to escaping, or they are emotionally unstable, easily irritable, or they lack the ability to express themselves, and they are not good at saying a trivial matter.
And a person with high energy is not afraid of the complexity of the problem, does not shy away from discussion, does not evade troubles and difficulties, and directly says the countermeasures, she is not afraid that she will not be able to end up saying it, but is full of confidence to solve it.
Because she is confident that she has the ability to explain clearly, but also to provide effective solutions, give others a sense of security, and give herself faith, which is really powerful.
2. Direct communication is conducive to resolving misunderstandings
I don't know if you've noticed, many misunderstandings in life are caused by miscommunication.
If you don't make it clear, I won't ask, you don't understand me, I don't understand you, I don't explore the truth, but judge according to speculation, and misunderstandings will inevitably occur.
The most distressing thing for a person is that she wants to be understood by others, but she doesn't take the initiative to communicate, and she can't wait for others to be roundworms in her stomach, and she can understand it in seconds without saying it, isn't it embarrassing?
Especially the little couple in love, always unhappy, and when one party asks her, she is reluctant to say it, she only knows that if she loses her temper, the relationship will only get worse and worse.
If the other party fails to guess her thoughts, she will be even more unhappy, and would rather be angry and annoyed, sad and wipe her tears, than directly confess her thoughts, this time, the misunderstanding will be deeper.
Lin Daiyu is much better at this point, everyone says that she is a childish and jealous, but I think she has a cool temperament, sincere feelings, and is sensitive and fragile, but it is also true that she is direct and simple.
There is such a plot in "Dream of Red Mansions", when Daiyu was wronged and angry, Baoyu asked her: Everything must have a reason, and people who say it are not wronged, and they are annoyed again, what is it for?
Daiyu said helplessly: I was making fun of you, making fun of me!
In this way, Baoyu knew that it was Shi Xiangyun who had just compared Daiyu to the play, and she was angry.
Immediately Baoyu coaxed a few words, Daiyu's mood was better again, if one didn't ask, one didn't say, it would only be held in his heart, then the misunderstanding would be big, and the estrangement would be deeper and deeper.
Many times, some small misunderstandings and small grievances, the two parties communicate in a timely manner, explain clearly, and clarify the intentions and ideas of the other party. If the words are spoken, they will not be hidden, and the listeners will know how to comfort and respond, then the misunderstanding will be clarified, the mind will be clear, and the relationship will be more harmonious.
3. Sincerity is conducive to promoting social interaction
Have you noticed that a person has a lot of routines, which will make people feel hypocritical and pretentious, while a person who expresses sincerely and shows sincerity will make people feel very reliable.
So, would you rather associate with someone whose mind is unfathomable, or would you rather be friends with someone who is clear and simple?
Proper scheming will make you feel like a fish in water in interpersonal interactions, and exhaustive scheming can make people feel terrible.
Besides, scheming does not mean that it is insincere, and it does not mean that there is no city in the heart, a naïve, intelligent and clever person is the real likable type.
If a person always does not communicate directly, always hides her head and tail, always beats around the bush and insinuates, then she gives people the impression that she has many eyes, is cunning and suspicious, and does a good job in face, but in fact has a ghost in her heart, and refuses to show a sincere attitude and talk on the table, but likes to hide behind her back and do things.
Then, everyone will only become more and more disgusted and defensive, and will not really have a heart-to-heart.
You are honest with each other, and I put my heart into my heart, so that I will cherish each other more and more.
As one person said: if you treat others well, you will get more gratitude and friendship. If you are sincere, you will also meet sincerity.
Not only friendship, but also love.
Why is it that when pursuing the person you like, playing a straight ball will capture the heart, while a roundabout tactful will stretch the battle line, and the chase will be tiring and unpleasant.
Because no one will resist a direct confession, go straight to the heart, and directly release your likes and hearts, the other party will increase their favorability towards you, so as to give a warm response.
If the other party has no feelings for you, you will soon know, and you no longer need to pay brainlessly.
Sometimes, repeated temptations do not achieve the desired effect, and playing straight balls will, because love is blatantly devoted, not vague ambiguity.