Zhang Ailing once said that in middle age, men often feel lonely. When he woke up, everyone around him depended on him, but no one could be his support.
In middle age, many times we are no longer so willful, we are more tolerant of people and things, and more sincere to our friends. Because most of the friends after middle age are sincere friends.
I believe that every middle-aged person has experienced alumni reunions, and when they were young, there were many people chasing the excitement and chatting with friends every day. But at some point, the party became a nuisance.
When I was young, my classmates were like chatting and teasing with friends, but as I entered adulthood, I always had a sense of anticipation when I got together. More and more people are tired of such time-wasting gatherings.
Why are fewer and fewer people willing to attend class reunions now? We should think about what these three middle-aged men said.
Mr. Wang: The current party is just dressed up as a classmate, but there is no friendship at all
Chairman Mao once said that the classmates who grew up with us are in the prime of life; With lofty ideals and firm will, they easily wrote the chapter of their lives. These comrades have frolicked with us, shared each other's youth, and witnessed the time together.
However, things are unpredictable, and after graduation, everyone will experience the grind of society, and the friendship of classmates will gradually fade with the passage of time.
Mr. Wang said that there is no traditional classmate relationship in class reunions now, because the people at the dinner table either say false things or take the opportunity to probe into other people's private affairs, and some people even forget that they are married and almost make mistakes.
There is no point in such a class reunion anymore and we have to bother with thought and time. Mr. Wang said that instead of being ridiculed or chased by such people, it is better to go home and enjoy the happy time with his family.
Mr. Li: Originally, I remembered a very good person, but after the party, I didn't think about it at all
Mr. Li said that the pressure has doubled recently, and the burden on his body has become heavier and heavier. It's rare to think back to your youth and feel the loveliness of life. But after attending a class reunion not long ago, even his old classmates bore him.
It is undeniable that after going through a social process, everyone will become slightly different and may become like the people we hated when we were younger.
In middle age, people tend to see things more thoughtfully and with a sharper eye. Peer gatherings are often mixed with more impurities, unlike when they were younger, and they simply chatted.
Many people have some expectations when they go to class reunions. But sometimes we find that the beautiful scenes in our memories are not always realized in reality, which makes people feel a little regretful. Perhaps, we should stop and discover more lovely experiences in our lives.
Mr. Ho: The current party is either a comparison or a mockery, which is really not interesting at all
Not long ago, Mr. Ho attended a rare gathering in middle age, where he met classmates and old friends he hadn't seen for a long time. But during the meal, I began to hear some words of praise for myself, and as soon as one of my classmates finished speaking, the other followed up.
I only ate two bites of food, and the rest of the time I was following others to echo it. No way, after all, he is not a cow in the eyes of others. Mr. He said that he really didn't want to go to class reunions anymore.
When people reach middle age, many things are no longer the same as they used to be. When they meet, women pay attention to each other's outfits, while men take the opportunity to show off their achievements, but these topics have become boring for people.
Maybe when you were a student, you had a close relationship and a deep relationship, but the torrent of time will always dilute the old friendship. As the years go by, middle-aged people often pay more attention to the harmony of the family and the growth and progress of their children.
Emotional Conclusion:
When people reach middle age, friendship should be refined rather than talked about too much. It is enough to have a few friends who treat each other sincerely, and there is no need to force it too much. If you want to relax, a better option is to meet up with three or five friends, so that you can really feel at ease.
Instead of saying something insincere to some insincere people, it is better to spend time with your family at home, after all, at this age, you should know better what is most important.
When you reach middle age, don't get too attached to things like class reunions. Because the friendships we had when we were young are no longer as innocent as they were at the beginning. It's not worth paying too much for those spoiled feelings.