This story comes from an Aunt Zhang in the countryside of her hometown.
01 lost his husband in his early years, but fortunately he teased his grandson in his later years
Aunt Zhang is 60 years old, and at the age of 50, she retired from her position as a teacher.
In 10 years, she Zhang Luo's son married, bought a house, bought a car, and gave birth to children, and now she has two grandchildren, the eldest is 8 years old, and the younger is 6 years old, all of whom were raised by Aunt Zhang.
Aunt Zhang's son, who works in a more developed city next door, when the housing prices were not so high, 10 years ago, Aunt Zhang bought a small three-room apartment for her son in full and spent more than one million.
Later, when the child was born, the daughter-in-law called Aunt Zhang to help take care of the child, and Aunt Zhang was very happy, so she moved in with her son and daughter-in-law.
This stay, even if she raised her two children for 8 years, during this period, most of the family's expenses came from Aunt Zhang. Aunt Zhang feels that it is not easy for her son and daughter-in-law to work, and she has a pension of 5 or 6 thousand a month, which she usually can't use, so it is better to relieve some pressure on her two children.
Groceries, children's clothes and snacks, etc., are all bought by Aunt Zhang, and it costs 3,000 yuan a month.
Aunt Zhang has always been satisfied, her daughter-in-law is easy to get along with, and her son is also filial.
Although she lost her husband in her early years, Aunt Zhang was able to tease her grandson in her later years, and she felt that she was still very lucky.
02 Gnawed old and abandoned
A month ago, my son suddenly told Aunt Zhang that he had bought a house in the school district, but his income had not been good recently, and he would see if Aunt Zhang could help pay it back.
Aunt Zhang also just learned that her son and daughter-in-law bought a school district house in order to give their grandson a better school district, and the pressure to repay the loan every month is quite high.
I didn't know it before, but now I know, Aunt Zhang felt that the interest on her savings was not as much as the interest on the loan, so she gave all her remaining savings to her son and asked her son to repay the loan in advance.
After paying it back, the daughter-in-law said to Aunt Zhang, "Mom, the place where we live now is a little far away from that school, so we decided to move in." ”
Aunt Zhang agreed, saying that she could help pack up her things and move in with them.
But the son said: "Mom, you have worked too hard to help us take care of the children for so many years, I discussed it with Lili, and we want to educate the children ourselves in the future, otherwise, the children are too estranged from us, and it just so happens that you can relax when you are old." ”
As a teacher, Aunt Zhang naturally knows how important parents are to their children's education, and it is not easy to refuse, so she agreed. Aunt Zhang felt that she had been in the city for too long, and she also wanted to go back to her hometown.
Aunt Zhang, who returned to her hometown, left a lot of relatives and was very happy.
A relative said to Aunt Zhang: "In the future, the child will be brought by your in-laws?" ”
Aunt Zhang said no, it was the child's parents who wanted to bring it themselves.
Then that relative (also a distant relative of the woman, the matchmaker at the time) opened that circle of friends.
This is Aunt Zhang's daughter-in-law's circle of friends, in the photo is in addition to her son, daughter-in-law and two children, there are two in-laws, and then the daughter-in-law's accompanying text is: The luckiest thing is "I have grown up, you are not old, I can do my filial piety".
But Aunt Zhang opened her circle of friends, but she didn't see any news from her daughter-in-law, which shows that Aunt Zhang was blocked.
I couldn't do it, so I called my son and asked, and the son said, "You have lived with us for so many years, and my father-in-law and mother-in-law also want to come and live, no problem!" ”
Aunt Zhang said that she could live in the old house.
However, the son said that the old house has been rented out, and he can earn an extra 2 or 3 thousand a month.
Later, when her son called, Aunt Zhang thought she wanted her to go back, but she didn't want to, her son came to ask for money, and when she learned that Aunt Zhang gave all her savings to her son, and now she lives on her pension every month, her son asked Aunt Zhang to pay some money to buy things for her child every month.
Aunt Zhang smiled, and then hung up the phone.
At this moment, she realized that she was gnawed old, and now she was abandoned without gnawing. 60-year-old Aunt Zhang burst into tears.
At the age of 60, he gave all his savings to his son, and when he accidentally saw his daughter-in-law's circle of friends, the old man burst into tears.
03 Visitor: No matter what, you have to keep your pension money
For Aunt Zhang, the reason why she emptied her savings was not only because she loved her son, but also because she felt that her son and daughter-in-law would support her old age.
But I didn't expect that after I had no use value, I was abandoned.
Now Aunt Zhang's biggest regret is: she didn't leave some pension money for herself.
People don't destroy the heavens and the earth for themselves, and it is her fault for teaching her son like this, she admits it.
However, in her life after the age of 60, she decided to be selfish and live for herself, after all, without old-age security, she can only become her own security.
Fortunately, she still has a pension, as long as she doesn't have any serious illnesses, she can give herself a decent retirement life.
Isn't this a wake-up call for young people?
For our children, we do our best to educate them, which is what we should do as parents.
However, gnawing at the old is a manifestation of erroneous education. The future life should be for the children to walk on their own.
Our pension problem, if the children are willing, it means that the education is right, but we can't pin our hopes on the children, but save some pension money as early as possible, which is left to our own security and decency!
Topic discussion: When you get old, do you think it is better to give money to your children or keep it for your own retirement?
(The picture comes from the Internet, invaded and deleted!) ）