As a woman, it is very normal to get married and have children when you grow up, and it can even be said that it is the only way for a woman to "live a complete life".
If a woman has not given birth to a child, then her own life seems to be incomplete and there will be regrets, and if you want to have children openly, getting married is a common fact.
If a woman has a child without getting married, she will most likely be criticized by people and will be pointed at by others for the rest of her life.
After all, in the minds of most people, if a woman has a child before she gets married, she is either a junior, or she lives a disorderly life, and the child she gives birth to will be secretly called a "wild child".
However, there is one person who has children out of wedlock, but almost no one says that she is not, and even many people regard her as their idol or role model for struggle, that is, Ye Haiyang, a female model in the new era.
Ye Haiyang gave birth to a child out of wedlock, but no one criticized him, and his two sons and two daughters aroused the envy of everyone
Speaking of Ye Haiyang, I'm afraid many netizens are very familiar with her, this is a strong woman full of legends.
When she was a child, her family background was actually very ordinary, with an ordinary income, an ordinary background, and an ordinary place and place, and Ye Haiyang, who was born in this family, was also a very ordinary little girl before, like many children from ordinary families, she went to ordinary junior high school, and finally graduated from college and became a member of the North and South Drift, did a lot of work, and was also lost and questioned.
And to say that the factors that prompted her to "work hard" were actually when she was in the south drift, when she suffered a major setback at work, and ordinary people would often collapse if they experienced a huge setback, but she became more and more frustrated.
And just seized the opportunity of the cosmetics market, opened her own cosmetics company, with her many years of work experience, the career has developed out of control, in just a few years, she has achieved financial freedom.
You must know that Ye Haiyang was actually just a little girl in her twenties at that time, and many people were the same age as her, and they even had to rely on their parents' help to get by.
After his career was successful, Ye Haiyang ushered in a moment that every woman needs to face, that is, the urging of the elderly in the family to get married.
In fact, the urging of the elderly to marry is also a very normal thing, after all, every old man wants to hold a cute baby as soon as possible, and at the same time, getting married and having children is also something that everyone must experience.
As the saying goes, early rather than late, young people have good physical fitness, it is a good time to have a child, if you wait for the age to have a child, not only is it not good for the fetus, but also bad for the body of the pregnant mother.
In the face of the old man's urging to marry, Ye Haiyang was also very entangled, for various reasons (it is said that it was because she had an unhappy relationship), her trust in men was not high, and she did not want to get married.
However, like many women, she wants to be a mother. However, such an idea is fundamentally contradictory, where will the children come from if they don't get married?
The important thing is that she doesn't just want to get married, but she doesn't want a man. This creates a "dead knot", a dead knot that no one can seem to unravel.
However, Ye Haiyang thought of a solution, which is to buy high-quality sperm and then implement artificial insemination, so that he can have his own children and does not need to have a man in his life.
After having this idea, Ye Haiyang told his mother his idea, but his mother definitely disagreed, but Ye Haiyang insisted on going his own way, and in the end, his mother couldn't resist Ye Haiyang, so she had to agree.
After that, Ye Haiyang went abroad to buy sperm and children, and after many years, he gave birth to two daughters and two sons.
At the beginning, netizens still had "many bad things and few good words" about Ye Haiyang's behavior, but later, netizens almost unanimously "praised".
Ye Haiyang has also gone from being an unaccepted person to an idol and a role model for many people, which is admirable and enviable.
However, after all, Ye Haiyang's children live in a "strange" family, and they really have no father when they actually grow up.
Therefore, some people are also worried about the growth and development of their children, and even think about what to do if the child is curious about his father, what if the child knows his life story one day, what if the child has low self-esteem because of this, etc.
Ye Haiyang's eldest daughter talked about her father for the first time, and her words were surprising: she deserved to be an excellent gene of Ivy League
Ye Haiyang's eldest daughter is now relatively old, she has long reached the age of independent thought, and she has long been at the age when she begins to be curious about her life experience.
Before, Ye Haiyang had never officially talked to his eldest daughter about his father, nor had he told his eldest daughter about his past experience.
However, after all, the eldest daughter is already older, and she has been exposed to more various media, so she saw information about her mother on the Internet.
When the eldest daughter was talking to her mother, she naturally said the origin of herself and her younger siblings, her mother's past, etc., saying that she had seen it from the Internet, and Ye Haiyang seemed to be relieved to see that her daughter had known these things.
It is likely that Ye Haiyang wanted to explain this to the child for a long time, but he didn't know how to start, and now, the child took the initiative to speak, which made Ye Haiyang feel relieved.
After reading Ye Haiyang's life, the child will naturally talk about his father, and before Ye Haiyang asks, the eldest daughter said by herself that she saw someone questioning what would happen when the child asked her father in the comment area, and immediately said that she would say that she would let others search for the word "Ye Haiyang".
I have to say that this is worthy of the genes of the ivy League, and this kind of answer is really something that many people can't think of.
In fact, in the conversation between the eldest daughter and her mother, the factors that can reflect her Ivy League genes are not only about her father, but also many other conversations that highlight the eldest daughter's high IQ and high emotional intelligence.
For example, when talking about her "only mother", the eldest daughter said that she is not only a mother, but also a nanny, a driver, a grandmother, a tutor, etc., and there are many people who take care of herself in her life.
and Ye Haiyang's eldest daughter is about to go to elementary school, Ye Haiyang has selected three very good schools, and she is thinking about which one for her children to attend, because these three schools are difficult to get into, and you need to prepare in advance in order to be admitted successfully.
And when she asked her child which school she wanted to attend, her daughter Doris said categorically: "I want to go to the best school".
Ye Haiyang explained to his daughter that the best school is difficult to get into, and there will be a lot of pressure to study after that, and said: "Mom doesn't want you to be too tired, I want you to live the life you like." ”
However, even if Ye Haiyang explained to his daughter like this, her daughter was unwilling to give up, and Doris also said that she needed to learn a lot of knowledge, so that she could do anything when she grew up. After seeing it, netizens said: "It's so small and it's so rolled, the genes of the ivy are fully revealed." ”
And, from Ye Haiyang's daily sharing and conversations, we can all find that Ye Haiyang has his own set of methods for educating children, and he is worthy of being an excellent mother.
So, why was Ye Haiyang, who "went to the father and kept the daughter", able to train his children so well?
How to raise an excellent child? Ye Haiyang's practice is worth learning from
A few years ago, many people were very unhappy about Ye Haiyang taking care of the children alone, after all, his father had an irreplaceable position in the family.
If the child lacks the influence of his father from an early age, he will definitely be missing in some aspect when he grows up.
However, although Ye Haiyang's child does not have a father, he does not seem to be affected, but is very good.
Although many people say that this has something to do with the genes of the ivy League, it is actually not very related, and it is more about Ye Haiyang's parenting conditions and methods that affect the child.
●Never stingy with children
The healthy growth of children is inseparable from the company of parents, parents in the company of children, will let children get a greater sense of security, and the sense of security of children will be better development.
Because these children rarely have those negative emotions such as anxiety, restlessness, panic, etc., so that they have enough energy to develop themselves.
Ye Haiyang has never been stingy with children, and her lack of stinginess is not "to accompany the children as soon as she has time", but how long she must accompany the children.
If he finds that being busy at work will affect his ability to accompany his children, then Ye Haiyang will also postpone his work to ensure that he can have enough time to spend with his children.
Many people may not understand why she is doing this. In fact, the person who really knows how to do this is the real rational parent.
Because the struggle of parents is for their children, if they delay the company of their children because of work, it is not forgetting their original intention.
●Pay great attention to the establishment of children's three views
From the conversation between Ye Haiyang and the eldest daughter, we can find that the eldest daughter's thinking is "very decent", and her three views are very positive.
For example, the daughter will never laugh at and talk about the disabled, the eldest daughter will never feel how superior she is, the eldest daughter will never look down on others because of different levels, and so on.
The reason why the eldest daughter is like this is precisely because Ye Haiyang is such a person.
Although Ye Haiyang is called a "strong woman", she will never be proud of this, nor will she bully the weak because she is rich, nor will she look down on people because of her superior living conditions, etc.
Moreover, when Ye Haiyang and his eldest daughter were talking, they also gave the eldest daughter the correct guidance on the three views, which shows that Ye Haiyang attaches great importance to the establishment of the children's three views.
● Put "for the sake of children" into practice
Many parents keep saying "for the sake of their children", but in fact, they are just satisfying their own "self-touching" psychology. But Ye Haiyang is different, she is a person who really puts "for the sake of children" into practice.
She is very concerned about children's interests, as long as the children's interests are positive, then Ye Haiyang will meet the children's interests and hobbies, such as she will take the children to learn equestrianism, learn to swim, etc., so that the children can become a child with comprehensive development.
Ye Haiyang not only paid his own time and money for the sake of his children, but also paid his own energy.
Although she is very wealthy, she always takes her own hands in raising her children, and strives to get the healthiest environment for her children to grow up. That's why Ye Haiyang's children will become so good.
Write at the end
Although Ye Haiyang's children live in a single-parent family, they can still get a good education, it is precisely because of Ye Haiyang's scientific parenting methods and conditions that the children grow up so well, but ordinary people do not have Ye Haiyang's conditions, therefore, do not blindly imitate.
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