01. Introduction

Qian Zhongshu said: "Marriage is a besieged city, people outside the city want to enter, and people in the city want to come out. ”

Extramarital affairs, like roses, look beautiful from a distance, and when you hold them in your hand, you will find that they are easy to be pricked by its thorns.

Many things feel very good when you can't get them, but after you get them, you realize that they are not as simple as you imagined.

Men will see these realities clearly after experiencing "feelings" outside of marriage.

02. A woman outside of marriage is not as perfect as she thinks

A reader, in my background, left a message saying:

On the Internet, he met a girl who was very chatty. They talk a lot, and they gradually develop a good feeling.

After meeting offline, he ate and drank with her, and he had a very good impression of her. He chased her with all his might, and was with her.

After less than two months together, the woman began to ask him for money, asking him to help rent a house and find a job.

Whenever there was something that could not satisfy her, she threatened him and said that if she told the two of them, he would be ruined and his wife separated.

Only then did he know that she was not as perfect as he imagined. When he wanted to break up, she didn't agree and stalked again and again.

He was physically and mentally exhausted and lost a lot of money and energy.

If you fall in love with a woman outside of marriage, if you have known her for a short time, you will not know her hole cards. When first contacted, men will think that she is full of merits and are fascinated by her.

When the filter of love fades, you will see her true colors and discover her imperfect side.

Hugo said: "There are many lovely women, but there are no perfect women. ”

In this world, there is no perfect woman.

Men, don't overestimate a woman outside of marriage, don't fantasize that she is a perfect person, and don't easily entrust a woman outside of marriage to her sincerity, so as not to regret it.

03. It is difficult to recover the betrayal of the marriage, and it is difficult to return to the family

Sun Shijie in "Jade Mansion Spring" doesn't like Wu Yuehong.

After getting married, he disliked her in every way and never treated her gently.

After he met Tao Yao, he felt that she was the woman he loved the most. He brought Tao Yao into Sun's house, Wu Yuehong couldn't fight Tao Yao, and returned to her parents' house, wanting to reconcile with her.

Sun Shijie found that Tao Yao was full of calculations and competing for fame and fortune. She only thinks about money, not really likes him.

The man regretted it and wanted to take Wu Yuehong back, but was beaten by his father-in-law. If it weren't for his wife's deep affection for him, his journey home would have been much more difficult.

The relationship between husband and wife will gradually become dull after marriage, which makes people feel boring.

Love outside of marriage makes people feel very fresh, like a delicious cake, and people can't help but want to taste a few bites.

Some men think that as long as they are determined enough, they can rein in the precipice of extramarital love.

When you really develop your relationship outside of marriage, you will find that love outside of marriage is like a flood that is difficult to collect.

The love outside of marriage is difficult to control, and when I want to go home, I find that my wife is unwilling to forgive. Returning to the family has become very difficult.

04. After consuming energy and money, there is more of a sense of indebtedness

When a man betrays his marriage, he understands in his heart that the person he is most sorry for is his wife who has been with him for many years.

But when he met the person who made his heart move, he couldn't help it, didn't want to miss it, and made a big mistake.

is like Lu Yao has such a sentence in "Life": "If you like someone, you always can't control your own heart." I knew it was wrong, but I did it anyway. ”

How many men, after falling in love with a woman outside of marriage, feel that she is a fairy who descends to earth, a true love who hates to see each other late, and a love that is difficult to reconcile. He didn't want to miss it.

To do this, he will spend a lot of time and money on her.

As more and more is giving, the pressure on the body will also increase, and the man will feel that the woman outside of marriage is always taking, while the wife is always giving.

After the return of reason, he discovers that the person who truly loves him is his wife, and the person who really brings him happiness is also his wife.

He began to feel guilty about developing an extramarital relationship, and wanted to end the relationship secretly, not let his wife know for the rest of his life, return to the family, and live a good life with his wife.

05, Wen Qiusheng's message

Men, don't betray your marriage easily. It's easy to get out of the house, but when you get home, you don't necessarily have someone to open the door for you.

Between husband and wife, once there is a disagreement, it is difficult to repair it.

Most women can't accept that their husbands betray their feelings, and each other's roads will go farther and farther.

Men, don't try extramarital affairs easily, once passionate, a lifetime of trouble, you will lose the person who loves you the most, and live in regret for the rest of your life.

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About the author: Wen Qiusheng, make a living from words. Autumn wind and rain, a glass of sake, three or two stories, on the lonely road with you as a companion.