Author: Wen Qiusheng
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01. Introduction
Managing love can't be like a kitten fishing, one will flutter butterflies, and the other will catch dragonflies.
Otherwise, in the end, you won't be able to catch a single fish.
If you want to manage a relationship well, you need to have a persistent mentality, constantly solve problems, adjust your relationship mode, and let each other get along better.
If so, if you encounter some problems, you will not solve them, and if you encounter difficulties, you will give up. Then, it will only pass by true love.
Those women who have always been let down by love, loved many times, and still can't get the favor of true love, have one characteristic: no perseverance.
02, love encountered a big test, and she didn't have the perseverance to persevere
Before, a confidant said to me:
She has been in many relationships, and the reasons for breaking up are varied.
For example, I can't stand the bad habits of men; Separated by both parents; Because of the work of two people, they want to separate, and they do not accept long-distance relationships.
She said that she really wanted to find the man who truly loved her and cared for her.
However, she forgot that love is mutual, and if you give up casually, how dare a man deliver affection.
Most women who have loved many times do not have the perseverance to stick to a relationship.
Whenever there is a test in the relationship and there is a run-in between the two people, she will be entangled, will escape, and will give up.
Leslie Cheung said: "If there is a good feeling, it is like, and if this kind of like can stand the test, it is love." ”
A woman who can really love for a long time in a relationship loves very firmly. No matter what happens, she will face the test with him.
Patiently solve problems with each other, and when there are run-ins and conflicts, we will also pay attention to communication and discuss countermeasures together.
No matter how good the relationship is, it can't be smooth sailing in business. When encountering problems, it is difficult for a woman who gives up her feelings easily to get true love and love for a long time.
03, the relationship between the two people fell into a dull relationship, and they had no perseverance to love
Qiao Qiqi and Wang Lingzi in "Children of the Qiao Family" have been together since they were very young.
Wang Lingzi was pregnant, and the two got married.
After getting married, Wang Lingzi didn't want to live her life without a trace. She was also unwilling, guarding her marriage and Qiao Qiqi, who had no real skills.
She returned to the glamorous life, met the rich boss, and divorced Qiao Qiqi despite the opposition and obstruction of her family.
After that, she got together with the big boss who had money.
A woman who has loved many times is greedy for the romance and freshness of love, and can't accept the blandness of feelings.
Once love falls into flatness, she will feel that love has become bland and tasteless, and she does not want to continue to love.
Haruki Murakami said: "When we are young, we pursue passion, but when we mature, we are obsessed with mediocrity, and after we seek, hurt, and deviate, we can still believe in love as always, which is a kind of courage." ”
In order to find romance, in order to find the feeling of love, she will dump the man and welcome a new love.
04. There are contradictions in love, and there is no perseverance to solve them
It's easy to fall in love, but it takes perseverance to keep it for the rest of your life.
Over a long period of time, when we get along with each other, we will find that our partner has a lot of bad habits and weaknesses, and we will also quarrel because we can't agree on many things.
Two people who can really stay together until they are old, no matter what they encounter or what kind of contradictions they encounter, they will patiently solve them.
Hayao Miyazaki said: "I finally met you, I don't want someone else to replace you, I don't want to get to know someone again, I just want you, I just want to love you, I just want to be your only one, I just want to be with you all the time." ”
A woman who can focus on truly loving someone will not be intimidated by any problems.
She will help men grow and constantly hone in on each other's habits and tempers. When getting along, know how to seek common ground while reserving differences, so that each other can live comfortably and live in harmony.
Even if there is a contradiction and there is no ability to solve it, all the mistakes will not be blamed on the man. Instead, work it out with him.
The kind of woman who has loved many times and easily gives up her feelings will give up easily when she encounters problems, and choose to escape.
05, Wen Qiusheng's message
A woman who has really loved many times, in the final analysis, does not know how to love. There is no perseverance to solve trials, problems, and overcome the dull.
Women have a rich history of love and may not understand the true meaning of love.
A woman who has loved many times has a very casual attitude towards love and is not good at managing feelings with her heart.
Happiness in life is created by yourself.
When you meet your loved ones, you must constantly overcome the dullness of life and the problems on the road of life again and again, so that you can truly accompany you for the rest of your life.
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About the author: Wen Qiusheng, make a living from words. Autumn wind and rain, a glass of sake, three or two stories, on the lonely road with you as a companion.