Text: Wu Qingqian
The variety show "My Girl 2024" Yu Wenwen's mother-daughter relationship with her mother is a bit special, and other mothers will feel guilty if they are busy creating material conditions and have no time to accompany their children. But Yu's mother didn't seem to be like this from her daughter's description, and in the first episode of the show, her mother was even absent from the recording because of something, and she didn't sit in the observation group to watch her daughter's daily life, so Yu Wenwen could only replace her in person. Many people estimate that after reading Yu Wenwen's daily life, they will worry about what will happen to the mother and daughter next? But in fact, it's too early to worry about it, and people are fine.
Yu Wenwen's house has almost no daily necessities, because she travels all year round, and there are no parents and brothers and sisters at home, so it is impossible to have the breath of perennial life. She didn't even discuss moving her family to Changsha without consulting her mother, who didn't know that she had moved. She rarely communicates with her mother, and her relationship with her mother is like that of an ordinary friend, she talks about something, and she can not contact her if she has nothing to do, and she can not contact her for a few months and a half a year.
This lack of communication not only occurs after the parents divorce, but also rarely communicates before the parents' divorce, and after the parents divorce, the mother is busy with work, and the mother-daughter communication is even less. Yu Wenwen's parents divorced when she was a child, and her mother left home first, and then her mother took her to Canada. Although she lives with her mother, she basically her mother, she her, and the two hardly have much contact. Yu Wenwen has not had much contact with her father, judging from her words "Because people are divorced, no one is in touch, what am I contacting", her relationship with her father is even more rusty, and even a little complaining, no wonder their father and daughter have not been in contact with each other for ten years, which means that the father and daughter have not contacted each other after she came out to work.
Because of the lack of communication and companionship with his family, Yu Wenwen went to school alone when he was a child, and his family may not be able to find out in time when he runs away from home. For example, when she was fourteen or fifteen years old, she ran from Canada to United States to see her favorite guitarist, and she didn't call her mother after she couldn't get home, and she was a girl in the alleys of United States, and there were some terrible people outside. In the end, the police found her and called her mother, who learned that her daughter had left home alone.
Yu Wenwen said that her mother was not used to worrying about her, and when she took her, she had the impression that she was allowed to practice the piano every day, and her mother would not say anything if she practiced well or not, and the only thing her mother complained about was that she didn't eat, and she didn't eat the pizza she bought for her, but she complained and left. She munched a pizza one day and came over practicing the piano. When she was eighteen years old, it was very cold in that part of Boston, it was snowing a lot, she lived far away, she might get up before dawn at five or six o'clock to go to school, and she went without eating, sleepy, cold, and hungry. She studied abroad so far away, and she didn't find that her mother was worried, and she didn't know if she was really worried.
Yu Wenwen also said that her mother didn't care about her. This makes her feel that family affection is similar to the relationship between husband and wife, if you really can't get along together, don't really force it, you don't interfere with me, I don't interfere with you, we don't affect each other's lives. The lack of companionship in her childhood also contributed to her independence, which she often lived alone.
Yu Wenwen is not very clear about why her mother failed to participate in the recording of the first day of observation of life, and she should not have communicated well with her mother, so she can only say in general terms that she should have something, she is a woman like the wind, more casual. Huang Han, a member of the observation group, asked her mother how she would react if she saw her talking about their mother-daughter relationship. Yu Wenwen said that she couldn't answer for her mother, because she didn't know what the other party thought. Huang Han asked what would happen if your mother was talking about their mother-daughter relationship and felt a little disappointed and lonely? I thought that Yu Wenwen would throw out an argument that ordinary people would not believe under the concept of family affection and husband and wife feelings, but she suddenly output warm words, saying that she would ask her mother, "Then can I do something for you?" Is there anything I can do to make you feel better? ”
Behind this heartwarming is because she feels that her mother has taken her by her side since she was a child, working so hard, working so hard, working three jobs a day, doesn't she just want to give her a good life. In fact, when my mother goes abroad alone, she can ignore her completely, after all, it is difficult to have a new life of her own at such an age. But her mother chose to take her abroad in the hope that she would have a better life. So she thinks that her mother must love her very much, and she thinks that her mother is more or less concerned and curious about her life. She will be grateful for her mother's dedication for a lifetime.
The contrast between before and after may be a little difficult for ordinary people to understand at the beginning, since I feel that my mother doesn't care about herself, my mother rarely accompanies me, and mother and daughter don't communicate much with each other, so they should be very strange to each other, will what Yu Wenwen said in the observation room be a little filial piety for filial piety? But it may be easier to understand if it is related to her educational environment and growth environment.
She went to Canada at a relatively young age, received a Western-style education, not a traditional Chinese education, Westerners advocate independence, parents and adult children do not like to live together, plus Yu's mother was busy with work when she was a child, no time to take care of her, she has long been used to not having a mother around, so it doesn't matter if her mother cares about herself and accompanies herself, others will feel that she is lonely and pitiful when they hear what she says, but she may not think so. And his good material life is really given by his mother, and he must be grateful, and he should do something for his mother's years of dedication, so the words in the observation room should be sincere.
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