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I love writing about characters that move and inspire me. Life can connect and influence life. Before I wrote about Teacher Xia Taifeng, I happened to see a video of my good friend turning, which said:
On the prairie, three men on horseback saw a horse trapped in a quagmire and felt that it was pitiful because it was so deep that the owner of the horse had abandoned it. One of the men tried the depth and hardness of the soil, and came up with a way to drive the horses over.
When the horses were seen galloping, the horses trapped in the mire jumped up, again and again, breaking through the impossibility of life. So, when you are mired in quagmire and distress, life needs to be awakened and led to stimulate inner potential; then, by your own awareness and strength, you can complete self-redemption.
It's hard to write about a celebrity, and I'm a little uneasy. After watching the video, I felt like I could write. Writing actually has a sense of the present, a sense of karma. Why you write, why you write in this way, in such words, with what kind of opening, what combination, are like life itself, between the known and the unknown, like flowers and clouds in the wind.
Who is Xia Taifeng? The winner of the first singing competition of Taiwan's first television station, "Taiwan Television", was less than 18 years old when he debuted. At the age of 23, she won the Golden Horse Award for Best Supporting Actress. In the mainland, the hit drama "The Temptation to Go Home" made her a well-known role in the famous mother-in-law.
Why did you go to interview her, is a good friend who knows her and said, "Shui Shui, you love to write characters, I introduce a person I admire, Teacher Xia, she is 72 years old this year, debuted before the age of 18, fame and prestige have long been there, family strength is also very strong, but she is still working, in the live broadcast." She said that life began in the seventy. ”
A person who tells the stories of others all the time will always have many stories coming to him.
So I did some homework and started to learn some of her story. Some headlines on the Internet read "Evil Mother-in-law Professional Household" and "66-year-old lost son" and so on, and I was shocked.
I also checked her book "Encounter is Reunion" published in Taiwan, which reads on the back cover: "Taipei to New York, New York to Shanghai, experienced various twists in the course of life, walked through divorce, remarriage, and the sad songs of losing her son, and in the face of sudden changes in life, she always responded to the invitation of life with calm and elegant steps." ”
I feel that if that's the case, she can make a lot of people benefit from her power. As the well-known writer Liu Yong said in the preface of the book, "She made many winds and frosts become landscapes."
The life course of a legendary woman has been unfolded, and I cherish the opportunity to scrutinize and learn. So I visited her twice. I also finished reading her book. After the interview and reading, I found that the most beautiful and pure memory that a person can leave behind must not be about fame and fortune, and the noble people he meets in his life are not necessarily celebrities and rich people with social resources. Life is a real feeling, touching, people who really understand life, not understand the material way of life, the real life, is to let the world change, can use their spirit, will, spirituality, understanding, resilience, through all the twists and turns of life and hardships.
In addition, those things that repair the pain of life are not strong medicines, elixirs. There are actually some fates in life that appear when you feel pain. Don't be afraid when life is the hardest, someone will sense you and help you, and you will also activate the power of awakening and self-help. It's like the horse in the video who is stuck in the mire and finally saves himself.
I don't want to see her as an inspirational person, for example, 72 years old is still working, still learning with young people, competing, etc., because I think the word "inspirational" is also a bit too strong, and a little immediacy, can not last long. Because life is a long stream, the most important thing is perseverance, authenticity and ordinaryness.
Teacher Xia is a life home, a life home that personally tastes the opportunities in life, and should do what he wants.
Ms. Xia told me about her 66 years old (in 2015). Her life changed dramatically, and her only son, Zou Shaoguan, who was also an actor, died of cancer at the age of 40. Three months later, her eldest brother and mother-in-law died in a three-hour interval. This chain of blows given by life is too great.
Two things two people, helped her redeem herself together.
Five or six years ago, she said, there were still some beggars on the streets of Shanghai. Some professional beggars, or acting or fake, people can see it right away. But sometimes, there are really touching instances. She says Shanghai, one of her three hometowns (Taipei, New York, Shanghai), is a city with a lot of temperature.
For a while, she often saw a mother and son squatting in the corner of the apartment where Zhang Ailing once lived, the son was mentally handicapped, sitting in a wheelchair, and the mother squatted on the ground with a bumpy aluminum bowl in front of her. The mother didn't know what she was talking to her son, only to see her son drooling and smiling. The mother continued to wipe her son's saliva as she helped her son, and their mother and son talked and laughed.
In the future, as long as she passes through this road, she will subconsciously look at it and want to give the mother and son some support. But because it was a traffic light that was not easy to stop, or a few times she got out of the car and walked over, the mother and son disappeared. She missed them for half a year.
Later, she sent a white-haired person to a black-haired person, and a person struggled to hold on. At that time, her husband was going to Zhuji to take care of her seriously ill mother-in-law, and she often walked alone in the streets of Shanghai. On a cold winter's day, she saw a begging mother and son cowering in a corner of Nanjing West Road, when she was exhausted, and at first she did not react to the fact that they were the mother and son who had been looking for her for half a year. After walking for a while, she came back to God, and she ran back.
She said to the mother, "I have noticed that your mother and son have been talking and laughing with your son every time I see you, sometimes feeding him something to eat, sometimes wiping his saliva, I am very touched to see it, but every time I rub shoulders with you." I have also been to Changde Road several times to find you. ”
The child's mother chatted with her, when the child was five or six years old, there was no money to treat the illness, the life in the hometown was very bitter, the husband went to Shanghai to do small work, she also did some casual work, but did not trust to leave the child, came out to beg, the city management looked pitiful, let them stay at the door of the apartment.
Teacher Xia squatted down and told her, "In fact, you are very happy, your whole focus is on the child, and you are full of true love." ...... My son died. ”
The mother immediately used her rough but warm hand to hold Teacher Xia's thin and cold hand and said, "Big sister, your hands are so cold, I can't take your money, and it's not easy for you." "Teacher Xia just stuffed 1,000 yuan in her bag that day, and she took all of it and gave it to her." The child's mother said, "Big sister, I can't take this money, you are so bitter and so difficult, I can't take your money, we came out to beg for so long, some people sympathize with us, some people look down on us, you are crouching here today and talking to me, I am already very grateful, how can I take your money again?" ”
Teacher Xia is very touched, because she feels that the first thing a person in a difficult situation considers is not herself, but cares about others. She recorded it in the book, writing, "Life is bitter, but beautiful, and the life of suffering has been sublimated by the beauty and kindness of her heart." ”
At that time, such an exchange between the two of them attracted a lot of attention. Many people squatted down to give money to the mother and son. More and more people gathered, and the chengguan saw it, and originally wanted to rush, but then took a step back and smiled understandingly.
The truth, goodness and beauty of people actually need to be discovered by people with hearts.
| Hand-painted by Teacher Xia
When you encounter difficulties and twists and turns, all the people and things around you may inspire you, and the important thing is to have an acre of land in your heart to plant karma, which is something that can help you in the future. Because some people will sense your suffering and come close to you and help you. This is the so-called real noble person in life, this noble person, in fact, is not a person with rich resources in society, but a person with a relationship in life.
Teacher Xia also mentioned a person, who was Wang Zixuan, a practitioner of Shangri-La. They met in Dunhuang around 2014. Teacher Xia saw two women, one blue and one white, dressed in robes, coming in a zen mood, and she wanted to take a picture with them. One of them is Wang Zixuan, and Zixuan's friend recognized Teacher Xia and said that she had seen "The Temptation to Go Home" and that her mother liked Teacher Xia very much.
When the news of the death of her loved one came one after another, she fell into the abyss of despair, pessimism and disbelief came like a tide, she said that she spoke like a gossamer at that time, and the other party sat next to each other and could not hear. But she has faith in her heart and feels that this is a lesson in life and must be tested by herself.
She chooses to chant the scriptures every day, read some positive energy articles to motivate herself (she will send her own WeChat articles that she has read and feel good, leaving the feeling and inspiration of the moment), she also practices yoga, painting, jumping the national standard, fitness and so on. But she really let go of the pain of losing her son and the pain of the death of her loved ones, and in 2017, she went to Shangri-La.
She had sung Shangri-La songs since she was a child, and she was eager to see them. She remembered this practitioner, although they had not seen each other for five years, and there was no contact in between, But Teacher Xia had been paying attention to her circle of friends. Teacher Xia tried to send her WeChat to ask for advice on Shangri-La's travel, and Zi Xuan welcomed her warmly and said, "Meeting is reunion." After a 21-hour delay waiting with the flight, she got there. Zi Xuan took care of her companionship all the way, where she let go of everything and enjoyed the freedom of her heart.
People can redeem each other with true feelings, selflessness, and purity. Only these are the only things that can truly cure a person. At certain moments, one can only relieve pain by feeling the sincerity of others. Life can affect life, how? It is to truly transform into its own vitality.
Her book is called "Meeting is Reunion."
She showed me her fingers, degenerative arthritis, all deformed and curved, all with some difficulty in holding the pen. I really can't imagine how much she had to make to hand-write her autobiography, "Meet is Reunion," word by word on her phone. More than 60,000 words. After more than two months, she wrote in the "Qiancai Bookstore" downstairs of Zhang Ailing's former residence.
She also drew her own illustrations. When she was 60 years old, she learned to paint. She said that everything was because of her husband's encouragement, when she first learned to paint, she just looked at the back of the drawing, and the husband said that it was transparent to the back of the paper and had talent. She is the one who can cherish every word of encouragement, every word and picture that moves her heart as a token and a relic.
She believes the role of encouragement is enormous. His father-in-law, He Haotian, was the director of the Taiwan History Museum for more than thirty years, and he did not hesitate to guide young art lovers and calligraphers and painters, and he used some very exaggerated encouragement. When a person of high moral standing, strong praise and encouragement, such as "you paint well, the next Zhang Daqian" and the like, this effect is great, young people will take these words as an eternal life mark, and then, like a chicken blood, there will be good achievements in the future in the field of calligraphy and painting.
A good word, it is difficult to buy. I also think it's important that our society also needs to encourage young people, affirm young people, and love young people all the time. And this should start from the people around them, encourage each other, affirm each other, worship each other, and cherish each other.
After the loquat and plantains she had studied painting in Shanghai were brought back to Taiwan by her husband, her father-in-law said, "Xia Taifeng, I can't help it, you are the pride of our He family, I will give you 85 points." He also did not take a nap, and wrote on it, "Xiatai Feng opera star Xia Tai Feng Chinese painting art is superior Xia Tai Feng's works are amazing and shocking, and the heirloom treasure is also he Haotian in the autumn of 2008." It was a very exaggerated praise, and Teacher Xia said that she was embarrassed to tell others. But behind that is affection. After her father-in-law died, she rushed back to Taiwan, and as soon as she entered the house, she saw the painting hanging in the house. Burst into tears.
Mr. He lao drew a painting of "hen with chicks" called "Family Affection", which was sandwiched between the glass windows of the bookcase in front of his desk. Her eyes, which could always find touching places, together with her hands, began to draw my heart with my hands. She wanted to copy the painting. At that time, she had never painted such a painting, and it was all up to a touch and feeling in her heart that allowed her to complete the painting one by one.
The sensual, observant temperamental person actually spends his whole life looking for truth, goodness and beauty. Truth, goodness and beauty of this thing, in fact, is not vain, it can be found close to time and life, may be nearby, such as a group of tea coasters she likes have peasant paintings, she can immediately copy it. There is no foundation, it all depends on the state of mind.
She didn't even sketch with a pencil, but drew directly with a brush. It's a natural work wrapped in a special state of mind. There is no sense of deliberateness at all, it is a feeling of "clumsiness".
She said she had painted four, and that a friend had learned to paint and must buy one. When she went to mend the painting again, she felt like she would never find it again. She feels that painting is a kind of moment. She was the one who cared so much about the feelings of life. This reminds me of Su Dongpo's "body and bamboo".
When she saw something beautiful, she wanted to copy it. For example, the woman on the cover of her book, the original painting is a foreign woman under the sunset, she painted and painted, she became a Chinese woman wearing a Yin Dan Shilin blue qipao, the paint for the lips was gone, she picked up the Armani lipstick in her hand.
She is really a person who lives with her heart, is at ease with her encounters, is kind, and beautiful.
What she said, wrote, and painted were all pictures and moments in her life that moved her. In a person's life, the pursuit is the most moving picture in those main stories.
As Boris Pasternak said, "Man does not live a lifetime, not a few years, a few days, but a few moments." ”
Now let's look at the source and context of her development, how did she cultivate?
First of all, her talent is singing.
The best state of a person is probably not to know how beautiful he is, nor to know how good he is. She was an orchestra conductor in high school for three years. She didn't know she could sing, and she didn't know how good she would be. There was a song with a high pitch and transliteration, and she was the only one in the class who sang it. A few months before the graduation exam, Taiwan's only television company at the time, Taiwan Television, wanted to hold the first provincial singing competition, and more than 1,600 people signed up. When the audition was performed, others chose the popular "No Love" at the time, and the judges were sleepy. And she chose a lighter minor tune "Lover's Bridge", only to pass the pass with two sentences of "Oops".
She has always behaved so easily and naturally, and this talent is in her, and she has mastered it so steadily. Before the age of 18, he made his debut, and the film company came to rob people. Basically singing and acting developed at the same time. Zhou Tianxiang, the general manager of Taiwan Television, is her nobleman, sending her four words, "thin water and long flow", and sure enough, it was fulfilled in her life, and she has been practicing it.
After becoming famous overnight, she has been working hard to cross the line, singing, filming, hosting, and visiting superstars in "Night of Singers", such as Teresa Teng, Feng Feifei and so on.
At her core is a gifted, fortunate, hard-working learner.
Singing is talent, but what about acting? She said it was a steal. Who steals? Xiao Fangfang.
Xiao Fangfang began acting as a child star, and a "Wandering Of The Bitter Child" made her show superb acting skills at a young age. There are good performances along the way. Therefore, as long as Xiao Yi acted, she hid behind to watch. Delicate and vivid nature can infect people. They filmed for a year and a half in the same play "Autumn Water Long Days", which is equivalent to a year and a half of study.
How powerful is the power of stealing the master. She feels that the whole person is loose when she acts, and only when she is loose can she integrate into what she has learned.
Why are people eager to learn? Because I want to have and preserve the good. Only by preserving oneself, as if this trait can last forever. When she arrived in New York, she became a housewife. I thought my acting career was over. But there was always someone who could find her and find her. She began to take over the programs of the world television station, and wrote the manuscript of the program herself, which was equivalent to being a program screenwriter. Writing, his husband said that she was very well written.
She said her father died in her twenties and her mother died in her thirties. She is the youngest daughter in the family. She misses her parents abroad and usually does not release photos of her parents to worship. Only during the New Year, she made many New Year dishes and put out photos. One day she saw her husband worshipping and was very touched. So she wrote an article titled "Cautious Pursuit of the Distant New Year" and submitted it to the homeland section of the World Journal and was published.
As a result, writing also opened up new horizons for her. She will learn in any way and way that she can stimulate the potential of life and preserve the beauty of life.
At the age of 70, she wrote and published "Meet is Reunion". When Liu Yong gave her a preface, her health was very poor, although the Liu family and the He family were family friends, and during that time Liu Yong did not help people write the preface. At that time, she was filming in Ningbo, and the scene about the air force had been floating in the vast sea, and when she was very tired, Liu Yong sent a sentence, "It is really well written, and I am reading it." She was moved to tears again.
She is an actress, a singer, a host, a dancer, a painter, and a writer.
With everyone who has a relationship, she is willing to maintain a very close relationship and cares about people tirelessly. So, she always has a very good chance. Every time she was going to quit show business, she had the opportunity to go back again. Her acting career has been smooth sailing.
But in fact, her life is actually very tortuous. In addition to middle-aged divorce, old age and loss of children, she said that life is actually often painful, for example, in New York, she also went to the doctor all day long, gray-headed, and later had a car accident and a spinal injury.
She said she is now accustomed to associating with pain, first classifying pain, namely small pain, moderate pain and large pain. If you can bear the small pain, you will endure the middle pain, and if you can't bear it, you will take medicine; if you have a big pain, you must take medicine.
She is still grateful, she said that she has gained too much in her life than what she has lost, and she feels that the two most important things in life are gratitude and sharing.
Why the 72-year-old is still working, she said, is because of enjoying this state of work, she said she read a sentence in the article I wrote, "I can do, I like to do, I am doing it together, I will not get tired", she felt very right, she said she added another sentence: "When I can do, like to do, what I am doing, still doing, it is happy."
I asked her, "Now some young people want to lie flat and feel that hard work can't change their status quo, while other senior strivers are saying that life begins at fifty, and you say that life begins at seventy." ”
She said only one sentence, "Looking back on my life, I feel that every end is a new beginning." Don't give up on yourself at any time. ”
She is now 72 years old, and every day of her life, she has cleaned herself up, exquisite and beautiful, and no day is slack. You have to build all aspects of yourself.
The writer Bi Shumin once said, "You can't ask for an ocean without storms." That's not the sea. It's a quagmire. "If a person has a real sea, that life should actually bear the rich pain and joy of others for more than two lifetimes." And this, in fact, is worth it!
Author: Founding editor-in-chief of Qin Shuo's Circle of Friends. Personal weChat public account of the same name: water sister (id: shuijie00000).
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