My fan, Kameun, went on a blind date with a high-quality man last week. But the boy never contacted her again. Guiyun asked the matchmaker what it meant to ask the boy? As a result, the introducer told Guiyun: "Actually, he is quite satisfied with your appearance and family background." The reason why he didn't continue with you may be due to some other reasons, and he didn't elaborate. ”
After hearing this, Guiyun was very depressed, and he didn't recover for a while.
After I learned about the process of their blind date. I found that Guiyun may have stepped on the following lightning points:
The first lightning point: Kameun's blind date has a problem
Guiyun's own personality is a bit like a little white rabbit, soft and glutinous, and Guiyun himself admires boys with successful careers. So when going on a blind date with this type of person, Kameun's posture is a bit low.
For example, when Guiyun chatted with a blind date man, she said: "Wow, you know a lot, unlike me, who is inexperienced, you are too professional, I don't understand." ”
When the boy praised Guiyun for being beautiful, Guiyun's first reaction was to blush, and then said to the boy very crampedly: "No, no." I'm actually pretty average. ”
These ways of answering the phone by putting themselves in a low position are not suitable for the mid-to-high-end blind date market. People are not recruiting servants, the more you are in a posture, people will feel worthy, if you want to become someone's favorite, how can you be so cowardly?
The second thunder point: Don't pretend to understand.
As I just said, you can't be timid when you go on a blind date with a high-quality man, but you can't deliberately pretend to understand in order to show your quality.
For example, when Guiyun chatted with a blind date man, every time the blind date man talked about a topic, Guiyun would answer according to his own ideas even if he didn't understand, and never said: "I'm sorry, I don't know much about these things, can you tell me about it?" Instead, they would say, "Oh, this, I know this." ”
Later, the boy may have found out that Guiyun was a bit of a disguise, so he said a "Rod Fettbass theorem." Then he asked if Guiyun was interested in this physical concept. Guiyun said casually: "I'm not very interested." But I've heard of this, but it's too unpopular for the average person, how do you know that? I'm curious what you say about this concept? ”
The boy immediately said: "This is my own concept, where did you listen to it?" ”
The two of them were cold at the time.
After going through this link, in fact, everyone should be able to understand that the boy will not ask Kamemo out for the second time.
On a blind date, if a guy mentions some professional topics that you don't understand, what should you say? First of all, you must not self-deprecate and say that you don't understand anything.
The right way is that you should say to the guy, "I haven't heard of this, can you explain it to me?" I think the things you brought up on a blind date should be very interesting. ”
The advantage of this sentence is that it shows your realistic attitude, and at the same time, you indirectly make a request to the boy: "Since you deliberately put it forward when you went on a blind date, it should be very important." This will make the guy pay attention to show off his knowledge to you, and he will subconsciously observe your reaction after listening to the topic. If you don't look bored about his topic, his show-off heart will be immediately suppressed, and he will immediately change other ways to please your emotions and meet your expectations. That's when the home advantage is yours.
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