After a child enters high school, he or she will generally face two choices, one is to go to school or the other is to live in school. And in this regard, many people don't know how to choose.
In fact, day school and residential school have different impacts on children's life and learning, choosing the right one will make the child's high school life full of sunshine, and choosing the wrong one may delay the child's high school learning.
After the college entrance examination, I found that the difference between "living in school" and "day study" is really big, don't choose the wrong one
The results of the college entrance examination came out, and the two children, Xiao Zhu and Xiao Jian, also checked their results, and Xiao Zhu's results were very satisfactory, and it was no problem to be admitted to a key university, but Xiao Jian's grades only passed the undergraduate line, and it was a question whether he could be admitted to the university.
You may think that it is normal for children to have differences in their grades, and some people do well in the test, and some people do badly.
But what you may not know is that when Xiao Zhu and Xiao Jian first entered high school, their grades were comparable.
Xiao Zhu and Xiao Jian have lived in the same community since they were young, so they have been in the same kindergarten since they were children, and when they arrived in elementary school and junior high school, they were also in the same school, and they were even classmates in junior high school, so they not only have a good relationship and often play together, but also their academic performance is comparable.
Since the two children's grades are quite good, when they were in the college entrance examination, they were also admitted to the best key middle school in the city with excellent results, and the two children studied in the same high school again.
However, when they first entered high school, the parents of the two children had different opinions on the issue of whether their children could live in school.
Xiao Zhu's mother feels very uneasy about the child's living in school, after all, living in school means that she can only see her child on weekends, and if the child has anything at school, she may not be able to know in time, which may lead to the child developing some bad habits, etc., so Xiao Zhu's mother does not recommend that the child live in school, so she chose a day student for the child.
Xiaojian's mother is the opposite, Xiaojian's mother feels that her child can concentrate more on learning when she lives in school, after all, if she eats, lives and learns at school, then she will have more time to study.
And accustomed to the learning atmosphere of the school, without the interference of external social factors, the child's grades will soon be greatly improved, so Xiaojian's mother handled the school's residence for the child.
Since then, the two children have been separated, and they have also started their own high school lives.
Because Xiao Zhu is a day student, her daily life is no different from that of junior high school and elementary school, that is, she studies at school, goes home to eat after school, returns to school after eating, and when she comes home at night, she does her homework in her room with peace of mind, and then goes to bed on time.
Therefore, Xiao Zhu's academic performance is still the same as before, there is no fluctuation, and there is a trend of increasing day by day.
However, Xiaojian is different, after Xiaojian lived in the school, his grades began to stagnate, and after a period of time, Xiaojian's grades began to decline rapidly, so why is this?
It turns out that although Xiaojian's school is a key middle school, the dormitory situation is still relatively tight, so it is a large dormitory, and generally there will be 12 students living in a dormitory, and the allocation of the dormitory is not based on academic performance.
So the roommates who share the dormitory with Xiaojian have a few "bad boys", they secretly smoke, worship the old boys, and sometimes drink together, etc.
However, although they look bad, they don't actually look for trouble everywhere, but are good to their roommates.
And Xiaojian, who has always been decent, has never been exposed to this kind of "rebellious" behavior, plus those "bad boys" just have bad habits, and people are not very bad, so slowly Xiaojian also mixed into their small group and began to experience a "free life".
As the saying goes, the environment creates "talents", and Xiaojian has been getting along with those roommates with bad habits for a long time, and slowly learned a lot of bad habits.
For example, smoking and drinking, being late and absent from class, and even being proud of it, this also caused Xiaojian's grades to begin to fall off a cliff.
If you don't learn, you won't, no, your grades will naturally decline.
After Xiaojian's mother found out that Xiaojian's grades had declined, she intervened in time, and finally Xiaojian also "reined in the precipice" under the intervention of parents and teachers, realized his mistakes, and began to pay attention to learning.
However, learning is coherent, and when there is a fault in the knowledge system, it is difficult to get back to one's original grades in a limited time.
So, even if Xiao Jian worked hard, in the end, he only got a score not much higher than the undergraduate line, and he couldn't reach the same level as Xiao Zhu.
From the experiences of Zhu and Xiaojian, we can find that the impact of living in school and not living in school on a child is completely different.
However, this does not mean that living in school is not good, day school is good, but when it is placed on Xiao Zhu and Xiao Jian, there is such a difference between living in school and day school.
Whether it is better to go to school or live on campus should be analyzed according to the specific situation of the individual, and there is no absolute good or bad.
Parents should figure out the difference between the quality of "living in school" and "day school" as soon as possible
◎ Residential school
Benefits: In terms of learning, the boarding school will have more opportunities to learn because the boarding students will have more opportunities and time to spend with the teachers, and even if the teachers are not in the school, there are top students in the class to ask for advice.
In terms of life, boarding students need to spend a certain amount of time tidying up their housework, such as making beds, folding quilts, laundry, etc., which is of great benefit to the independence of boarding students.
In addition, living in the school is also conducive to the unified management of the school, and it is also beneficial to the formation of children's work and rest habits.
Disadvantages: When living on campus, because it is a group dormitory, the roommates are likely to be some students who have bad habits and study poorly, and they will often have some negative influences, such as shouting in the dormitory, making those students who want to study unable to study, etc.
In addition, some students will also pass on bad habits to others, such as smoking and drinking, etc., because children at this stage are in adolescence and are very interested in rebellious things, so they are easily affected negatively.
In addition, some children with poor self-care ability will face many life problems if they live in school, such as not being able to make beds, not being able to wash clothes, etc., which may affect the child's living state, thereby implicating the child's psychological state, affecting the child's learning, etc.
◎Day study
Benefits: The living environment and habits of day children will not change, which will keep the child's state of mind calm, just like in junior high school.
In addition, day school allows parents and children to meet every day, which is not only conducive to the maintenance of parent-child relationship, but also conducive to parents to discover children's growth and learning problems in time, so as to intervene in time.
At the same time, day school can allow children to maintain balanced contact with society, family and school, which is beneficial to the development of children's comprehensive quality.
Disadvantage: In terms of time, day children will "waste" some time on the road, and there may be safety concerns in the process of commuting to and from school.
If the home is far away, then the problem of distance is really a big burden.
In addition, day children will not accept the unified management of the school, and they will rely more on their parents and consciousness in their work and rest, and children in adolescence often do not do very well in this regard.
At the same time, if the child has any learning problems, if the parents cannot help, the child can only wait until the next day to go to school to ask the teacher, which is not good for the enthusiasm of learning and the timely solution of the problem, which may lead to the accumulation of doubts and the loss of part of the learning enthusiasm.
How to choose between "living on campus" and "day school" with their own characteristics?
●Suitable for day school children
Everyone's specific situation is different, but on some fundamental issues, most people's biases are the same. Children with these characteristics are more suitable for day schooling:
Children with poor self-care ability need to take care of their own lives because they live in school, and if the child's self-care ability is not strong, then they may not have a good life, which will affect their learning.
Children with poor self-consciousness often need to learn under supervision, and if they are not supervised by adults, they may slack off in learning.
Children with more introverted personalities tend to be less social, do not have a strong ability to get along with others, and are likely to have some misunderstandings and embarrassments when living in school, which will affect the child's mentality and lead to interference in academic performance.
●Suitable for children living in school
Children with strong self-reliance not only have strong subjective thinking, are not easy to be changed by others, but also have strong life skills and learning initiative, so they are fully able to adapt to the school life and learning environment, and greatly improve their learning efficiency.
For children with irregular work and rest, the school will turn off the lights and get up in unison, and children with irregular work and rest can better exercise their work and rest habits here.
Extroverted children are socially more socially able, able to get along with roommates faster and more appropriately, and make more friends, so that the child will not only have a happier life at school.
At the same time, there will be more people to help when they encounter problems in learning, which is very beneficial to the improvement of children's academic performance.
Write at the end
Whether a child is suitable for boarding or day school is not only related to the student's personality, but also related to the school's facilities and other factors. Therefore, whether it is day school or living on campus should be comprehensively analyzed according to the actual situation.
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