Lu Xun said: "Silence, silence, no longer erupt in silence, but perish in silence." Silence, silence. ”
In life, we are often plagued by various things, anger, frustration, and pride...... Every emotion is like a sudden storm, and it is difficult to hold on.
However, in life, those who can stay awake often tend to solve real-world problems more calmly. Silence produces wisdom, and the way out is often hidden in silence. Static braking. On the road of life, the more you can remain silent on these few things, the more it shows that this person is not simple.
1. Don't say anything when you're angry, keep your mouth shut
You're a veteran of years in the workplace, and one day, a fledgling newcomer suddenly challenges you with sharp and aggressive words.
Faced with such a scenario, most people may choose to fight back with more fierce rhetoric.
I've heard a story like this:
Li Ming is a middle-level manager of the company, and once, because of a trivial matter, he said to his subordinates, and the subordinates were not convinced, so they quarreled with him at that time. Li Ming listened to the other party's accusation. Instead of being angry, he smiled slightly and said, "I will seriously consider your opinion" to defuse the turmoil.
Afterwards, someone asked him, that person was originally unreasonable and deliberately disobedient to management, so you didn't get angry or argue in order to ensure it? Li Ming said: "Since you can see that he is unreasonable, why should you argue with him? Even if you win, you will only waste time and energy and ruin your good mood. ”
As the saying goes, "Learn to speak in three years, learn to shut up in your life". Never argue with people at different levels, because everyone has different perceptions, so they won't look at things on one level. A real manager will stand in the other person's point of view, and can persuade others when he insists on his own opinion.
Second, defeat the wheat city, laugh at the wind and rain
The road to entrepreneurship is never smooth.
There is such a story:
Zhang Hua, a young entrepreneur, almost gave up his dream after experiencing one failure after another. The capital chain is broken, the team is disbanded, and the market is not recognized...... These blows followed one another, and he felt desperate.
In the most difficult moment, Zhang Hua chose to remain silent. He didn't complain to anyone, nor did he give up on himself, but silently collected his mood and started again. He knows very well that defeat is not terrible, but what is terrible is losing the courage to fight again.
Many people advised him not to insist, and he once doubted himself, and every time, he would encourage himself to persist again. After countless days and nights of hard work, Zhang Hua finally ushered in a turnaround, his project won the favor of investors, and the company gradually got on the right track. Zhang Hua told us with his own experience: when he lost Maicheng, he smiled at the wind and rain, and the silence gave birth to new strength.
Winston Churchill said, "Success is not the end, and failure is not the end." What matters is the courage to keep going. ”
3. Success is not arrogant, do not forget the original intention
There is such a story: Wang Li, a writer with a high reputation in the literary world, her works are loved by readers and have won many domestic and foreign awards.
In the face of honor and applause, Wang Li has always maintained a humble heart. She never flaunts her achievements and doesn't give easy interviews to the media. Whenever someone asks her about the secret of her success, she always smiles faintly and says, "I just work harder than others." ”
Wang Li knows that the road of literature is long and arduous, and every success is inseparable from the sweat and hard work behind it. Her silence is not a disregard for success, but a reverence and respect for the literary cause. At the pinnacle, she is still as humble as ever, interpreting the true meaning of "endless learning" with practical actions.
Many old irons said this:
Netizen A: When you should say it, you must speak freely, when you shouldn't say it, you must keep your mouth shut, you should say it, you are cowardly and incompetent, and when you shouldn't say it, you must say that it is unwise
Netizen B: Anyone who is cultivated and can calm down can do the following three things: 1. Don't speak up when you're angry, don't be discouraged when you fail, and 3. Don't be arrogant when you're proud.
Netizen C: "The most important thing in life is not happiness, but peace." I deeply believe that those who can often remain "quiet" in life are often more able to solve practical dilemmas calmly. Silence produces wisdom, and the way out is often hidden in silence.
Netizen D: You know, the location is different, and less words are more expensive; Cognition is different, indisputable; The three views do not agree, and the tongue is wasted.