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Every parent wants their child to be smart and obedient. However, in real life, there are very few children who are truly smart and obedient. Many parents experience headaches:
When children are young, they love to play with rain and mud; When they grow up, naughty children are often called parents by teachers; If you are older, there will be early love, and your parents will have to bother to guide them; After graduating from high school, he has to face an important turning point in his child's life: the college entrance examination. Parents need to think holistically about how to help their children choose the most suitable path.
Some children also experience adolescent rebellion as they grow up, which makes it even more of a headache for parents. Every parent wants their child to be smart, and that's every parent's wish.
However, many parents don't know that smart children often have a difficult side to manage. Many parents only see the superficial phenomenon that their children are difficult to manage, but ignore that behind these difficulties is actually the manifestation of high intelligence.
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The harder it is for a high-IQ child to discipline, parents should be happy if there are four "nasty" manifestations
Children always have "100,000 whys"
Some children are like "100,000 whys" reincarnated, and there are always countless questions waiting for their parents to answer. Usually as soon as the parents have explained a question, the child's next question comes again, which makes many parents feel a headache.
However, this annoying behavior of children is actually a reflection of their intelligence. The child is also thinking while asking questions, and this process is also a manifestation of the child's curiosity.
As we all know, intellectual curiosity is one of the important manifestations of children's high intelligence. Only when a child is curious about all knowledge can he absorb and digest all kinds of knowledge and thus improve his intellectual level.
Likes to imitate others
Children learn about the world through imitation. When they are children, they imitate the expressions and behaviors of adults. If it's bigger, it will even imitate the plot on TV and play role-playing games. Some children have a strong ability to imitate other people's words, expressions, and gestures vividly.
Pedagogists say that such children tend to be more capable of learning and have higher IQs. Imitation is not a subconscious act, but a purposeful act. Children need to learn before imitating, then think about what the imitation behavior wants to express, and finally perform it. The more similar they are, the stronger their child's observation and comprehension skills will be.
In this process, if parents can properly guide their children, their children's abilities will be better developed. Parents can play "role-playing" games with their children in daily life, encourage them to imitate, and comment on their children's imitation ability, so as to stimulate the development of children's imitation ability. At the same time, parents should also pay attention to their words and deeds and set a good example for their children.
Dare to speak back and contradict parents
Many parents always feel that their children are challenging their own authority and think that their children are ignorant. However, child psychology research has shown that children who are able to argue correctly with their parents are more confident, more imaginative, and more agile in their logical thinking.
The process of talking back to parents is actually a process of thinking and expressing children. They will first think about the reasons to refute their parents, and then pluck up the courage to argue with them.
The University of Virginia has collected 150 cases of 13-year-olds talking back to their parents and comparing how they relate to others as they get older. Studies have found that children who often quarrel and talk back to their parents are more likely to deal with conflicts between friends and are more objective to withstand external pressure.
Children who love to play pranks
A study by Dr. Thomas Carr, a psychologist in Hamburg, Germany, found that when a child wants to play tricks on others, he uses his brain in the process of playing tricks on others, and this process is no less energy-consuming than doing homework. Children need to use their brains and think little by little in the early stage of "plan design" or "funny preparation", which is also one of the manifestations of children's high intelligence.
When parents educate their children, they usually only care about some of the child's nasty behaviors, and ignore the brain-moving processes behind these behaviors. Therefore, parents can pay more attention to the improvement of their children's intelligence and help their children use this intelligence in learning, so that their children can develop better.
A message from Guo's mother
Every child has unique talents and potential, and as parents, we need to learn to appreciate our children's diversity and help them progress as they grow. Through meticulous observation and scientific education methods, children can be comprehensively developed in all aspects and become better people.
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About author:Guo Ma, a family education instructor, focuses on sharing parenting knowledge, parent-child education experience, marriage and family insights, welcome to pay attention.