In the vast treasure house of traditional Chinese culture, the proverb is like a dazzling star, shining with the light of wisdom and constantly enlightening the Chinese people.
I believe everyone has heard the saying "one day husband and wife for one hundred days", which is often used as a metaphor for the deep feelings between husband and wife.
So do you know the second half of this saying?
Today, let's take a deep dive into this common saying that carries the traditional concept of marriage of the Chinese nation.
There have been many theories about the origin of "One Day Husband and Wife Hundred Days", among which the more legendary one is that it originated from the love story of Dong Yong and the Seven Fairies.
Dong Yong is a filial son from a poor family, his mother died early, and later his father left him, and he had no money to take care of the aftermath, so he could only bury his father by selling his body.
Dong Yong's filial piety happened to be seen by the seven fairies who secretly descended to earth, so a story of heavenly immortals happened.
Dong Yong is still self-aware, he knows that he is not worthy of the Seven Fairies, so he finds an excuse that there is no matchmaker and evidence, and refuses to marry her.
The Seven Fairies did not give up, saying that they could use the locust tree as a medium and the land as a witness, so the two went to worship heaven and earth under the locust tree together.
As soon as the two of them finished worshipping, the old locust tree began to speak. It's just that the old locust tree has a scoop in his mouth, and the blessing of "a hundred years of good cooperation" is said to be "a hundred days of good cooperation", so after a hundred days, there is a plot of the queen mother beating the mandarin duck.
Although their marriage was short, this relationship was unforgettable and has been recited by future generations. Slowly, there is a common saying "one day husband and wife for one hundred days".
Of course, another theory is related to Guan Hanqing's line in "Save the Wind and Dust" "If you don't say a night of husband and wife, you can stop being angry and angry". Because this drama is widely circulated, the "night" slowly becomes "day", which is deeply rooted in the hearts of the people.
But either way, it is unlikely to affect the meaning of this proverb.
In this proverb, the meaning of the word "day" is not limited to a specific number of days, but a kind of imaginary meaning with deep meaning.
"One day" does not represent just one day, but symbolizes a short time together; "100 days" is not an exact 100 days, but means long-term.
The proverb conveys that even if a husband and wife spend a short time together, the bond they build should be deep and long-lasting.
The grace here refers not only to the friendship between husband and wife in this life, but also to the kindness of parents, the grace of heaven and earth, and the grace of previous lives.
Why do you say that? Because in ancient times, there has always been the concept of marriage before love, and men and women can become a one-day husband and wife, which contains multiple kindness.
The first is the existence of fate, believing that the union of husband and wife is determined by the karma of the previous life, which is the grace of the previous lives, so there is a saying that a hundred years of cultivation can be crossed in the same boat, and a thousand years of cultivation can be cultivated to sleep together. This is the arrangement of heaven and earth, and this is the grace of heaven and earth.
Parents play an important role in their children's marriage, and their worries, dedications, and expectations constitute the kindness of parents.
Therefore, in ancient wedding ceremonies, the newlyweds first worshiped heaven and earth to express their awe and gratitude to the heavens; Then worship the high hall and thank your parents for their nurturing grace; At the end, the husband and wife bow to each other, symbolizing the respect and kindness between each other.
The concept of marriage with grace in front and love in the back laid a solid foundation for the relationship between husband and wife in ancient times.
In the day-to-day life, the affection between husband and wife gradually accumulates, so that they can face the challenges of life together.
When love gradually fades from the color of passion in trivial life, affection becomes an important bond to maintain the relationship between husband and wife.
It allows couples to always maintain a sense of responsibility to support each other, so that they will never give up in the face of difficulties.
The second half of the sentence "One day husband and wife are like the depth of the sea" pushes the connotation of this proverb to a new height.
If the first half of the sentence emphasizes the beginning and importance of the love between husband and wife, then the second half of the sentence vividly depicts the depth of the relationship between husband and wife after a long time together.
"100 days of husband and wife like the depth of the sea" means that with the passage of time, the understanding, trust and tacit understanding between husband and wife continue to deepen, and their feelings are as deep, broad and inclusive as the sea, so that husband and wife can never abandon each other and grow old together.
Therefore, this proverb is actually used to tell the world that it is extremely difficult to become a husband and wife, you can't break up when you meet a little thing, and divide it when you encounter a little setback, you must cherish the hard-won marriage, feel and manage the bits and pieces of the marriage with your heart, and cherish the grace of both parties, in order to live a happy life.
This is still a reference for today's marriage.
The reason why the divorce rate has remained high today is because of the lack of favor and the benefit of more.
A marriage that puts interests first, once there is no love, it will face the situation of divorce. And if there is "grace" between the two, even if the love gradually fades, the marriage will go on.
Therefore, if the relationship between husband and wife wants to be good, grace cannot be less, and the usual tolerance, support, and understanding are actually giving birth to grace, and grace is in place, and it will naturally last for a long time.
Marriage is not easy, but it is done and cherished.