Preface
How many people still remember the handsome-looking but somewhat wretched "Shen Jianhong" in "The Story of My Mother's Family"?
Although the role is not very pleasing, the actor who plays "Shen Jianhong" - Shang Yubo has gained the love of many audiences.
But everyone never thought that this sunny and handsome boy would choose to commit suicide at the good age of 28 and jump from a tall building.
After Shang Yubo's death, he left only a heart-wrenching last word and endless tears of remorse from his old mother.
So, why did such an excellent Shang Yubo come to a dead end? How should an old mother who lost her son spend the rest of her miserable life?
1. Love acting, lack of care in childhood
In 1983, Shang Yubo was born in Jingzhou, Hubei Province, and his parents were both literary and art workers.
Shang Yubo inherited his extraordinary acting talent, and was also influenced by his parents and developed a strong interest in acting.
According to the memories of Shang Yubo's neighbors and relatives, at a very young age, Shang Yubo began to learn to act on his own, bringing joy to the people around him.
It's a pity that while bringing joy to others, Shang Yubo's heart is extremely lonely.
In the 80s and 90s of the 20th century, it was the era of the wave of going to the sea to do business after the reform and opening up.
Countless people have chosen to go to the sea to do business, including Shang Yubo's parents.
When Shang Yubo was just in elementary school, he followed his parents who were in business to live in Shenzhen.
Because his parents were busy with business all day, they had no time to take care of their son, so they sent Shang Yubo to a local boarding school.
It is conceivable that Shang Yubo at that time had just come to Shenzhen from his hometown, and he was unfamiliar with the people, but he was directly sent to the closed campus by his parents, and he was indeed very lonely and lacked love.
What's even more distressing is that Shang Yubo is a very sensible child, and sensible children are always reluctant to disturb their parents too much.
Parents who are busy with business really don't have time to care about their son's growth.
Fortunately, Shang Yubo is also competitive, even if his parents are negligent in discipline, he still studies hard and is successfully admitted to the Central Academy of Drama with excellent results.
After graduation, Shang Yubo was favored by many directors because of his handsome appearance and superior acting skills, and successively starred in well-received works such as "Army Special Forces" and "Du Lala's Promotion", and quickly became a popular student.
It seems that Shang Yubo's life is really smooth sailing, but behind this infinite scenery, it is Shang Yubo's increasingly uneasy heart.
Second, the emotional breakdown and going to the extreme
Perhaps because of the lack of care from his relatives since he was a child, Shang Yubo's heart is actually very withdrawn and sensitive.
This allowed him to better empathize with the role in the play when acting, and it also made Shang Yubo's psychological problems more serious.
Especially after Shang Yubo became popular, perhaps out of love for his career, or perhaps because of his previous loneliness, Shang Yubo was accustomed to enriching his life with busyness.
So Shang Yubo began to take on a large number of dramas, trying to make up for the emptiness in his heart with high-intensity work.
But this kind of behavior not only did not make Shang Yubo's heart feel full, but made his mental state worse and worse.
In fact, two years before Shang Yubo's suicide, the people in the crew had already discovered that something was wrong with Shang Yubo.
Everyone found that this gentle boy, who seemed to be sunny and cheerful and considerate, was getting more and more wrong, and he was becoming more and more unenergetic.
Until this time, Shang Yubo's parents realized that something was wrong with their son and took Shang Yubo to the hospital for an examination.
But the results of the examination made everyone collapse, and Shang Yubo was already suffering from depression.
The horror of depression is not something ordinary people can imagine, the despair, disappointment and longing for relief in life, which keeps people awake at night, restless, and tortures a person to the extreme.
As for medication, it can indeed help patients with anti-depression.
But in the final analysis, depression is actually a psychological disease, and heart disease also requires heart medicine.
It's a pity that Shang Yubo didn't find his heart medicine until he died, and he walked into a dead end in despair.
Two years after being diagnosed with depression, Shang Yubo, who couldn't bear it anymore, chose to commit suicide by jumping off a building!
On October 25, 2011, Shang Yubo came to the rooftop.
According to the surveillance cameras nearby, Shang Yubo actually hesitated before jumping off, because he stood on the rooftop for three hours!
In other words, if there were family members or friends who could have made a phone call with Shang Yubo at that time, or came to Shang Yubo, then perhaps the tragedy would not have happened.
But unfortunately there was no if after all, Shang Yubo only left one last word:
"My death has nothing to do with anyone else, and I don't have to blame anyone."
Then, he jumped off a tall building and left this world completely.
But in the face of their son's death, how can parents who have always felt guilty be relieved?
3. The mother regrets not being at the beginning, and can only try to make up for it
After learning the news of Shang Yubo's death, the most sad person was his mother Mao Aizhen.
The son left him like this, which is a great blow to any mother, and at the same time, Mao Anzhen regrets that she regretted that she cared for her son too little.
If I could have given my son more love in his childhood, would my son not have suffered from depression and would not have ended his life in such an extreme way?
But it's too late, and the son is gone.
So what should you do?
A year after her son's departure, Mao Anzhen established a charitable foundation to promote mental health knowledge, hoping to make more people aware of the dangers of depression through her own efforts.
It is also helpless to say, we now have a richer material life than in any previous era, but there is a big problem in our spiritual aspect.
According to the 2022 survey data, the number of depressed patients in China has reached 95 million, and about 50% of them are students!
What's worse is that many parents of students think that the so-called depression is just a normal reaction of the child who has a temper tantrum or is tired of studying, and does not think that it is a serious illness at all.
As for schools, although most of them also have mental health courses, but the college entrance examination does not test mental health, how many schools usually care about these?
Therefore, it is hoped that parents and all aspects of society can pay more attention to children's mental health problems and accompany children to grow up healthy and happy.
epilogue
Looking at the photos of Shang Yubo, I still feel infinite regret for this young life.
He had a big smile and looked so sunny.
But behind that smile, there were countless lonely midnights, he was devastated by emotions over and over again, and finally walked towards the end of his life in despair.
May Heaven be free from sickness, and Bo can return to the time when he was carefree in the beginning.
The source of the information in this article
Tencent Entertainment, 2011-11-13, "Shang Yubo's body farewell ceremony was held, and friends denied that he committed suicide".