This girl works in a foot bath shop, and she looks really a big beauty, and her appearance is so beautiful that people don't dare to look at it directly. As soon as she usually appeared, the guests asked her to serve her and praised her like a star. One day, a young man came and said he wanted to come for a massage and relax. The waiter saw that this young man was sunny and handsome, so he arranged for him to this "star" technician without saying a word.
As a result, things happened in places that this girl didn't expect. It didn't take long for the young man to show his dissatisfaction and insist on changing the technician. The big beauty couldn't understand for a while: "I'm obviously so popular, why is he still not satisfied?" So she told the front desk that the guest thought she was too beautiful and asked for a change.
When this was said, the whole scene suddenly blossomed. Everyone was laughing. Isn't that narcissism? The young man is not at all because she is beautiful or not, but because he feels that the massage technique is not to his liking. But this girl had to attribute the reason to that she was too beautiful, and that thinking she was too beautiful became a problem.
This incident makes one wonder: Are we too easy to explain things too simply? What may seem like an obvious reason may be a more complex factor at play. Perhaps, this girl is indeed affected by her appearance when facing customers, but perhaps she emphasizes this too much. Perhaps, she herself is also troubled by her appearance to a certain extent, so she will over-interpret the reactions of her guests.
Everyone has their own gap between their own perception and their perception of the outside world. This girl may really be used to being held in the palm of her hand, so she is more sensitive to the reaction of guests. However, this sensitivity can sometimes mislead her judgment and make her biased in interpreting guest behavior.
Therefore, when we evaluate the behavior of others, we may need to think more from multiple perspectives. Objective truth is often more complex than appearances. Perhaps, this young man really asked for a substitution because he was not satisfied with his skills, but we can't completely rule out the possibility that appearance has an impact on people's behavior.
This experience reminds us that in our daily lives, we are often influenced by various factors, and sometimes there can be a gap between our self-perception and the perception of others. Understanding these gaps may allow us to better understand each other and handle interpersonal relationships better.