Text/Xia Mo
01, frontispiece
Qian Zhongshu said: "Marriage is a besieged city, people outside the city want to enter, and people in the city want to come out. ”
When a man betrays his marriage, it's like driving the wrong car. It's not easy to get back into the right place.
There was once a survey data showing: "Seventy percent of men betray their marriage in order to satisfy their inner desires and find novelty in marriage, but in fact, they don't want to divorce." ”
Life is long, and there are always times when you make mistakes. Men, when you have an extramarital relationship and don't want to get a divorce, just do it.
02. Cut off the illusion of an extramarital woman and return to the family
A reader left a message in my background saying:
When he married his wife, he had nothing. Recalling the scene of the two people starting a business together, I still remember it vividly.
His wife ran business with him, and he suffered a lot of people's faces. When the capital turnover was not enough, his wife borrowed money from everywhere to help him support his career.
However, after their careers were good, there were more and more contradictions between them, and they quarreled every day.
He met an empathetic woman outside of marriage, and he felt extremely relaxed with her.
He also knew very well in his heart that he did not want a divorce. Because, his own money and real estate are in his wife's name, and if he gets divorced, he has nothing.
Women outside of marriage are naturally unwilling to break up and entangle in every way. Only then did he know that she was not empathetic and knowledgeable. Everything is nothing but a disguise.
Man, love outside of marriage may be beautiful, it is like a grand firework that satisfies your romantic fantasies.
Extramarital affairs, although sweet, do not last long. Marriage is dull, but it can give men more security.
Lin Yutang said: "There is no marriage in the way of love, there is no one who does not fail." We must eat marriage as a meal and love as a snack. ”
After betraying your marriage, if you don't want to get a divorce, you have to quickly pull back from the precipice. Cut off the illusion of an extramarital woman in time and return to the family as soon as possible.
Be clean, decisive, show your attitude, and rebuild trust between couples. The relationship between husband and wife is possible to be reunited.
03. Take out more time to repair the relationship between husband and wife
Mr. Kan in "An Family", betrayed his marriage, which angered his wife. wife, in a fit of anger, chose to divorce him.
After the two divorced, Mr. Kan realized the importance of his wife, and knew that the young couple was the best companion for him.
He seriously reviewed and apologized to his wife. He also opened a shop for fried chestnuts with sugar, because his wife loved chestnuts the most.
He came to the door every day to ask for remarriage, hoping that his wife would give him another chance.
Life is always like this, with ups and downs, and countless joys and sorrows. I don't cherish it when I have it, and I regret it when I lose it.
After betraying your marriage, if you don't want to divorce, try to make up for the mistakes you have made. Don't kneel and beg for mercy, don't pretend to be pitiful, but learn to take responsibility.
Try to use practical actions to prove that you really want to live a good life with your wife.
Betrayal of marriage is a mistake. And, it's a very difficult mistake to make up. It takes patience and perseverance to slowly repair the rift in our relationship.
04. Enhance your dedication to your family and increase your sense of worth
The man betrays the marriage, and the woman chooses to divorce because his value to the marriage has been weakened.
Even, many women realize that the existence of men is no longer valuable in marriage.
After betraying the marriage, if a man wants to return to the family, he must learn to enhance his sense of worth and give more to the family.
For example, putting all the wages in the hands of the wife to reduce her financial pressure.
Take on more housework, clean up when you get home from work, buy groceries and cook, and do such trivial work as you have to rush to do.
Pick up and drop off your children to school and care about your children's grades. Enhance the interaction between parents and children, and enhance the relationship between parents and children.
At the same time, find more opportunities to chat with your wife and listen to her needs.
Even if her attitude is cold, don't be discouraged and give the woman a process of accepting you again.
Do more practical things to make your wife's life easier, let her see that you are really hearted, working hard to maintain this family, and slowly repair each other's feelings.
Enhance your value more and show your determination with practical actions to gain a woman's forgiveness.
05. Summary
Men, if your marriage has become old, don't betray your wife at will.
When a man betrays his marriage, even once, many wives will not give the man a chance to correct his mistakes.
In a woman's heart, love is deep, pure, and not mixed with a little impurity. If you betray your marriage, she won't look back, even if she loses with you.
Don't be the culprit who destroys your family, restrain yourself and keep your heart. Don't lose it, the happy life you already have.
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Author: Xia Mo, a cutting-edge emotional tutor, a psychology scholar, a popular emotional writer with more than 1 billion people on the whole network, a happy woman manager, focusing on emotion, sexes, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.